This is the blog I wrote after the airing of the reunion show last year (season four). Both Tamra and my blog were removed from the bravo website due to unknown reasons, and therefore I found it important to make sure the truth was still heard. This is the only reason I still have this blog up. Tamra has tried to taint who I am as a person and Jeff’s and my relationship for way to long. It was about time I addressed all her lies, and set the record straight since TV only shows you want they want you to see.
I had already written my blog yesterday regarding this “lost episode” and didn’t get to send it in because I was at Slade’s son’s graduation. On my way home I received tons of calls and e-mails regarding Tamra’s blog on Bravotv.com and the “excuses” she used for her inappropriate actions on the reunion show. So of course, I read what she wrote and now feel forced to address the lies she continues to spin to the press and the public. Sorry in advance for this being long winded, but I have been QUIET for way too long, and it’s about time the truth be told as Tamra so eloquently pointed out.
First of all let me state this very clearly, Tamra changes her story according to how it best suites her in that moment. I have honestly never met anyone so contradictory in my life (or someone that just plan lies to your face) Let’s address some of Tamra’s “stories” as I like to call them.
Story #1: She states that I asked her and Simon to have a threesome the night of her infamous dinner party in the very late hours of that dinner, but contradictory to that claim, she sent me several texts after seeing that footage in season four, and stating that she was appalled at what she said about getting me “naked wasted” and that she was so drunk she had no idea she said those things at all. So if that was the case, then how convenient for her now to all of a sudden have a clear mind that night and remember that she supposedly heard me say I wanted to have a threesome? Maybe that’s a fantasy of hers, but it surly is not mine. I would never say something like that, as a matter of fact Tamra is the one who spends her time on national TV season four talking about having crazy sex, shopping at sex shops, and having to keep things better then the same old peanut butter and jelly sandwich. How miraculous that she all of a sudden pops out of her drunken state and could remember what was said, and to boot at the late part of the night (aren’t you normally drunker later?) In her own blog about that dinner party she states that Simon stayed up with me making some food while she was hugging a toilet. So when did I say this exactly again? If you ask me she wasn’t getting any response from me during the reunion show about her accusations so she needed to reach for the stars on something else hoping it might stick. (I.e. I picked up on Don, Ryan, and then the threesome comment) I mean seriously what is it? Pick one already. This is when you see me drop my mouth in amazement and say “you seriously have some balls”. Tamra was reaching even for her.
Story #2: About “J and I” involving Tamra in a love triangle. First, let me be clear! There was NO love triangle to involve Tamra in, second J, NOT me involved Tamra in this. I said it on the reunion show and I say it again now, “I cannot control what someone else does”. J was someone that I thought was a friend and it turned out he wanted something much more with me, when he couldn’t have that it caused him to do things that were not right. J calling Tamra in the middle of the night was because he was drunk and angry. He wanted to hurt me and therefore he tried to create conflict by calling Tamra and claiming he was my boyfriend. Tamra took the bait, hook line and sinker and he got exactly what he wanted. The next morning when I called to talk to Tamra about it, I apologized to her that he had called and said I was not sure how he had her number, but maybe he had gotten into my computer or my phone. At the time J was someone I considered to be a very dear friend, and he was someone that I believed had my best interest at heart. He would come to the house offering to take out the trash, or change light bulbs, or help around the house since Jeff was no longer able to do those things. He made me laugh during a very tough time in my life, and he and many of our mutual friends would go out and try to get my mind off the crap I was dealing with in the hospital, so yes it would make sense that people would see us out around town. Unfortunately, unbeknown to me he was going through my things, I believe stole pictures from my home and computer, and had access to personal information during those times because of access to my home. Now I understand and know he was planning on hurting me with those things at some point if he couldn’t have what he wanted. I later was told that he was out bragging around town he would figure out a way to make money off me.
As I said I called Tamra after J’s phone call that night to her and apologized to her, and said that he was acting “stalkerish”, because his irrational and strange actions were causing me to feel that way. I didn’t speak to him for weeks until he sent me a “I’m sorry” e-mail. He stated he was drunk and was wrong for doing what he did . I even forwarded J’s e-mail to Tamra. She said she understood and was sorry I was dealing with that because she has dealt with some of the same issues with guys from her past before, and I believed we had put it behind us. Obviously that was not the case.
And just for the record Tamra had already been on camera several times tallking crap about me long before this “phone call” to her was made (it was made half way through the season). So for her to blame her actions towards me all season on this guy calling, I believe was just a cop out. And as Lynne so brilliantly said during the lost footage episode to Tamra “So what’s your reason for being so mean to me”; proves my point even more.
Story # 3: I had no idea J continued to call her until much later, and once again him continuing to call her is not anything I was controlling. Tamra said on the “lost episode” that he kept calling every night at late hours, so if that doesn’t prove my point of him acting “stalkerish” with his behavior I don’t know what would, but again I didn’t know that he was continuing to call her until much later. J acted one way with me, but was obviously up to something else behind the scenes. I have never seen Tamra out on the town, so for her to say she saw him and I “very cozy” while out on the town is a flat out lie! I had no idea that J was talking to Simon behind my back and feeding him lies about our supposed relationship till much later. I also still don’t understand why Tamra wouldn’t have just told him to stop calling and that she has nothing to say to him. A guy will not keep calling if you shut all those doors, but obviously there is a part of that story that is missing. She says I dragged her into this but from my point of view she is the one that continued to allow herself to be involved. If that was me I would have told the guy to go pound sand, never to call again and if he continued I would get my husband on the phone and tell him we do not want to be involved and if you don’t stop harassing us we will get a restraining order! I now believe it was part of a bigger plan.
I would like to address her comments in regards to Bass Lake as well and J being up there for the day. J decided to drive up to Bass Lake for one day because he said he was sick of partying in Havasu for the holiday. I told him I would be there with my family and that he was welcome to come up to Bass Lake and hang out for the day because it was very chill. My family knew who he was, as did Jeff, and my parents would have never allowed J to be there if they believed for one second I was having an affair with him on Jeff! That’s just absurd! As I mentioned on the reunion show, Jeff had meet J, and he knew J was up in Bass Lake with us for the day because I talked to him several times throughout the day. The film crew was there that weekend as well, shooting for the show, so why in heaven’s sake would I allow this guy to be on camera if I was having an affair? Isn’t that just plain stupid? For Tamra to act like she was “calling me out” on something during the reunion show about him being in Bass Lake is hilarious because she didn’t even know any of the details. She simply was looking for an excuse to not like me and act the way she did towards me. I have realized some people don’t have the most innocent of intentions and that has been a rough lesson to learn lately.
Story #4: Tamra would just love it if she could convince everyone that I was using Jeff this “poor sick man to get on T.V.” Tamra even said to me at one of our first lunch meetings that Simon seemed to think that Jeff being ill was a big advantage for me because then everyone would feel sorry for me and like me. I found that to be a very strange statement. She knew her claims about J would help excuse her behavior as a person and possibly make people doubt me or not like me. Are you kidding me, how sick can they be? How can someone possibly say something so awful about a couple dealing with a deadly disease? And for the record again, I was approached to do the show, I didn’t audition like Tamra did through the internet by sending in a resume and picture to do the show. I had no intention of doing the show and certainly didn’t go looking for it. It was an opportunity that was brought to me, I originally was very hesitant to do the show but Jeff, who always liked an adventure, was actually the one that convinced me to do the show. So for her to say that I was using this poor man to get on a T.V. show is just ludicrous. Since Tamra never meet Jeff she could have never known any of the details about our relationship and the reasons we agreed to do the show. For her to just make assumptions based off a strange man’s phone calls to her in the middle of the night makes no sense at all. She herself said J was “trouble” and “wouldn’t stop calling”. Once again completely contradictory!
Story #5 Tamra states in her blog that “she was prepared to talk about J at the reunion show” yet in the weeks prior to the show she sends me texts saying she has no intention of talking about J because she didn’t want the drama and that is exactly what the audience and the Network wanted”. Then we attend the Virgin American event (in April 2009) and she tells me (with Lynne as my witness) she was forced to talk about J at the reuninon. Why? I’ll address that in a minute, but the point is, her story changes again. Then in her blog she states that J texted Simon just to stir things up on the day of the reunion, so if that was the case then why was she so surprised that I didn’t know what the hell she was talking about? Obviously I had no idea J was trying to stir things up because I believed J and I were friends and that he had my best interest at heart. I later realized that was not the case. Throughout the off season as Tamra and I talked she told me many times to be careful of J and that she believed he was trying to get his 15 minutes of fame. This is also when she told me about the continuous phone calls he made too them. So if she knew he was “trouble” and was only trying to get his 15 minutes of fame then why would J texting Simon affect her so much that she turned into such a mean bitch on set. I couldn’t quite understand it and that is why you see me asking her “why do you care so much about who is my friend or not, how does it effect you?” I just couldn’t understand the reasoning behind her ambush. Especially because I felt we had buried the hatchet on this issue many many times.
Well the very next morning I found out why she exploded like she did. It wasn’t about me at all, it was about the e-mail she received from her own husband, Simon, that day of the reunion show. I know she knows exactly what I am talking about here because I still have the e-mail saved and I responded to both Tamra and Simon to let them know I got CC’d on the e-mail. The most ironic part is that the e-mail came from her husband Simon because he was trying to save face with the cast and copied all of us on that e-mail, about Tamra lying to all of us about the reason he showed up in Vegas earlier in the season. Get this, the title of that e-mail addressed to Tamra from Simon was “Your B.S. and Lies” Ironic huh? Her own husband is addressing Tamra as a liar. Classic. I will get to that e-mail in a second but on another note I want to express that what really sucks about this whole thing is I really don’t think this is anyone’s business and I never brought this up because I just don’t like to be this way, but unfortunately when someone goes so out of their way to try to defame your character, at some point you have to call them on their own BS. I have let this go and go, tried to let it die, tried to not to add fuel to the fire, and take the punches and roll with them, but I am so done with this now! It’s so obvious that Tamra is out to hurt me and therefore I am forced to have to go here with all this because she continues to spin her lies to benefit herself and cover her own lies.
Simon writes this in the e-mail to his beloved wife and I quote; “So what did you say to Gretchen and Vicki at the pool? And maybe you should tell everyone the truth about Vegas and how you lied to me to get me to come up there. Or I will” The whole truth? I don’t need J’s text to prove what you told them lies about me the next day. Marriage is about being honest and loyal. Try it. I would have never done that to you. I don’t deserve it. Make it right.” End quote! Isn’t it funny how in every blog or piece of press Tamra claims she’s just “ Keeping it Real” or “The truth will set you free” Ha Ha Ha She tries so hard to convince the world she is always being truthful because every other word out of her mouth is a bullhonkey two faced lie.
As I put the pieces together in my mind I realized that the time of the e-mail sent by Simon was exactly when we were coming back from our lunch break during the reunion show, and wha-la,! I all of a sudden realized why Tamra flew off the handle with me that day. J texted something to Simon that made Simon realize that Tamra lied to all of us about why he came up to Vegas. By Simon sending Tamra that e-mail above, it sent a backlash of emotions that came pouring over onto me about how I am such a liar/victim, all the while her own husband is saying “marriage is about being honest and loyal, try it” Tamra was so mad she got busted because of some text from J to Simon. No mind you, I had no clue any of this had transpired. J and I had corresponded by text that day in regards to how the day was going; he never told me he had sent a text over to Simon that day. Now unfortunately as I put the pieces together I believe that was all a part of his plan, and to get his name on T.V.
I think the only thing Tamra and I agree on to this day is that J was looking to have his 15 minutes of fame no matter what avenue he took.
I have to say though, funny how she was calling me a liar on National Television, all the while her own husband was calling her a liar in an e-mail to her. This is part of the reason you see me say “am I being set up” on the lost footage episode. It really came out of nowhere her attacking me. Let’s see her now try to explain her way out of that one. I’m sure it will be someone else’s fault, or she will say I made this up, but the good news is that Simon CC’d everyone involved in this situation so all the cast and crew know exactly what I am talking about. Even Jeana admits to this particular e-mail beginning of season five.
Story #6 Tamra having to show up in court! What a flipping joke this one is. For the record I didn’t just NOT show up for my own court case. I DROPPED the case the day before it was even heard in court. That was from advice of my attorney, as J told his own attorney he didn’t care if I got a restraining order against him, which lead me to believe all he wanted was a media circus and I was not about to allow my serious concerns to be made a mockery out of in the press. When I heard he was involving Tamra in the case I immediately texted her. The reason for the text was because I had just seen her two weeks prior at the Virgin America event. I once again believed her when she said she wanted to call a truce and she would no longer talk about me. She claimed she just wanted all this to be over.
In good faith I agreed, and was looking forward to being past all this, but once again her story changes. Tamra and I exchanged texts messages the day before court and she stated that she wasn’t happy and was very stressed about having to go into court. I understood and felt bad she had been drug into my situation by J once again and told her I was going to drop the case per my attorney’s advice. J had already violated the Temporary Restraining Order once and it became obvious a piece of paper was not going to protect me from what he was consistently doing. I not only texted her the night before, but then again the morning confirming that the case had been withdrawn. Tamra knew the case had been taken off calendar because J’s attorney called all the people that were going to be in court that day the night before to let them know. But low and behold guess who still shows up to court……Tamra. Then surprise surprise she talks to press and spins her lies again, claiming she found it very strange that I didn’t show up for this case, when she knew damn well the day before I was dropping the case and the reasons for it because I texted her, and she responded! Then Tamra goes on to say that it “shows my real character”, and all she wants to do is “tell the truth”. So where was the truth in any of that? She flat out lied again, says one thing to me and another to the press. The funniest part is she actually made me believe that she was concerned for me for a minute in our exchange of texts. I fell for her two-faced B.S. again.
Then she says to press, “That J was very apologetic” as if she is now buddies with the guy that she was trying to convince me was “trouble”. If you ask me this whole thing sounds strange. Maybe my initial intuition on the “lost episode” of questioning if I was being set up, wasn’t that far off after all. Who knows really, but then I have a flash back of the footage where Tamra is saying she was going to get me “naked wasted” at her dinner party “and she was going to make me do something stupid”. Makes a girl think.
J is not someone I choose to be around anymore or have in my life especially after the very sick and shallow things he has done to taint Jeff’s and my relationship. He is not someone I care to talk about, but unfortunately I have been forced to discuss because of the “lost episode”, Tamra’s lies, and his consistent attempt of putting his name in the media and stating lies about me. I made a poor choice to be-friend someone that obviously took advantage of my friendship by stealing from me, borrowing money he never paid back ($18,000 dollars to be exact), and using my name to bring his into the limelight. I am not sorry I had that friendship because I have learned a lot from it, but I am sorry that he had to ruin it by doing what he has done to me and the memories of Jeff.
On a personal note, as far as all the other footage on this “lost episode” it was so nice to see some of the happy moments that Jeff and I shared together and with the kids again. The footage was hard for me to see and so I am sure the kids will have a hard time seeing that footage as they no longer go to Dad’s house to have those bar-be-ques. Jeff always loved to hear the sound of all us together, it made him happy even in his darkest of days. Just laughing and giggling, and poking fun at each other. That really was a very fun day. We had no joke about 50 kids over to the house and we played all afternoon. Jeff was the “cool” dad and the kids loved to hang out at his house. I obviously got along well with all the kids and enjoyed my time with them every time we got to see them. I miss all our time together it has been a while since we all got together and had a good laugh. I talk to all of them still very often. They are all very good kids and had the great influence of their Dad to turn into great kids with a lot to offer this world. I am very proud of them and the battle they have endured over losing their Dad at such a young age.
I am in a much better place now, no longer vulnerable to predators and people that want to take advantage of me. I have good people around me and I will get through this period with my head held high. As far as Tamra goes, it’s sad that she just can’t “own” what she continues to lie about, and just stop talking trash on me. I have never been able to figure out why she cares so much about my life and what I choose to do. She is no longer someone I care to be friends with and I have given that woman numerous opportunities to make amends and be sincere about it, but I guess a leopard never changes it’s spots. Thanks to all my loyal fans and friends during this difficult period. As Tamra said, the truth will set you free. Gosh I feel much better now, thanks for the advice Tamra.
Xoxo
Gretchen Christine
Thanks for the promo. Continue to take the high road with Tamra, though I know it’s difficult.
Team Gretchen
Tamra is a miserable OLD lady that has nothing better to do but be jealous of you. How could someone be so evil. Finally her husbands figured things out, shes a horrible person that tries to be young and now shes left husbandless, hahahahaha! I love you Gretchen, seriously you don’t even need to break it all down, we all know the truth, its obvious, TAMRAS CRAZY! Her a** needs to be booted from the OC Housewives..shes a homewrecker!
Team Gretchen!
Ha! Could not have said it better. I just caught up with my DVR and HAD to see what Tamra keeps talking about with Gretchen’s blog?? I never would have looked up a blog by a housewife if Tamra would not have kept talking about having it removed, she might want to stop with that.
I wouldn’t have looked it up either…Tamra has been giving Gretchen free publicity!
didn’t anyone notice that no one started commenting on the blog until AFTER the show aired? (the show where Tamra raised such a stink about it) lol
Gretchen: You are definitely my and my daughter (20 yrs old) favorite! You are surrounded by a bunch of nuts though. My daughter lost her dad when she was 16 and it was really hard for her (and for all of us). You went through a lot, and so did Jeff’s kids. You seem like a really “real” person…and we think you are going to be just fine because you have a good heart. Keep your chin up, keep doing what you think is right, and keep having fun living life! It’s just too darn short.
Gretchen, You are handling Tamra’s BS with grace! I would have punched her already!! Tamra needs to be kicked off the show because I for one can’t stand her. I hate at the beginning she says “Housewives come younger but they don’t come hotter” She’s ugly, rude, and a drama queen.Team Gretchen all the way!! and I agree I wouldn’t have looked at the blog either if Tamra wouldn’t have cried about it!
I couldn’t have said it better.:)
I can not for the life of me figure what the crap is ,not just Tamara’s ,but the other women on the show, their problem is. Everyone is such a hater. And all jealous of you. You’re the only reason why I watch the show anymore. Keep being you, and let the haters talk.
Hey Gretchen,
I have only one motto I live by. People are always out to hurt you expecially women. “No free rent in my head” I know that they are probably not thinking of me as often as I might be thinking they are. So I refuse to give “women” any ” free rent” in my head. They are so not worth it. I have to much going on in my life to care what anybody thinks of me. I have lost so many people in my life that no one will ever get “free rent” in my head. You do what works for you and do not apologize for being happy and loving your life.
I lost my Mom to cancer 13 years ago and so I can relate to some extent to your pain. All you need to do is hold your head high and keep on keeping on. And never let anybody tell you how you should feel , mourn or anything else. Everybody does it in their own time their own way and it is different for everyone. If you ever need some one to talk to please feel free. My mom was only one in a long list of people I have lost. If you would like to hear more feel free to ask. You seem to be a very wise, smart and ever evolving person and so many “women are threaten by that” which is not your fault. So again “NO FREE RENT” good luck in all you do.
Lisa Way
My5ways@gmail.com
562)884-1228
Now this all makes sense. Tamra was always jealous of Gretchen’s beauty. Even Tamra’s own husband knows what kind of evil woman he was married to and that is why he accused her of cheating and filed for divorce.
Wow! Hope you never had a relationship that doesn’t work out. That is a really low blow.
TEAM GRETCHEN…love it!
As a former Ombudsman I believe Tamara’s childhood response to her parents divorce at 27 years of age says a lot about her maturity level…she is high school to the end apparently!
gretchen, you handle tamara quiet well. she is jealous of you and you can obviously tell. when she smiles she looks like jim carey’s character “the mask” its too hilarious. she’s all lies and a gold digger as well. she’s accusing you of the things she’s doing herself. just brush her off and be strong…you are certainly the adult in this. Godsped.
I think Vickie has a lesbian crush on Tamra… it’s the only thing that makes sense… hah!
Well personally I feel Tamra is just very jealous of you because you are happy and living your life to the fullest and having fun. Thats what life is all sbout.
MY DAUGHTER’S WISH
I would like to share my daughter’s story with Breast Cancer. In 2002, Renee was diagnosed with breast cancer. What a shock since she was only 32 years of age. She went through a lumpectomy followed by chemotherapy and radiation. Her cancer was in remission.
Ten months later Renee had noticed how difficult it was to catch her breath. She was told her right lung had collapsed. What an awful shock that was to hear. She was admitted to the hospital for a chest tube. After one week in the hospital and nine quarts of fluid later her chest tube was removed and chemotherapy was started all over again. This was when she found out that her cancer had not only spread to her lung but to her bones.
By the end of 2004 Renee’s right lung collapsed again and she had to go through another chest tube along with chemotherapy, and radiation treatments for the bone cancer that was on her spine. This was when her oncologist said, Renee will be on chemotherapy for the rest of her life. (She was only 33 years old at the time)
My daughter is 39 years old and has had approximately 400 chemotherapy treatments along with 50 radiation treatments. Her breast cancer is treatable but NOT curable. This means Terminal Cancer.
When Renee found out her diagnosed was terminal breast cancer she wanted to travel to all 50 states in the US before she died. Since then her health has gotten worse and it has prevented her from reaching her goal. So, now all she is asking for is a baseball cap from all 50 states in the US.
Since I know there is a Make a Wish Foundation for children with Terminal Illnesses, I did not know if there was the same type of foundation for adults. I would give anything to see my daughters wish come true. If you can help her it would be appreciated. If you can not help her, could you please forward her wish to those who may be able to help.
Thank you for taking the time to read my daughter’s story and May God Bless You All.
Sincerely,
Janice Shaw (Renee’s Mother)
All baseball caps can be sent to:
RENEE GASHO
5129 WAYNESVILLE JAMESTOWN RD
JAMESTOWN OH 45335
Email: kckngcncr@aol.com
We are so sorry for the challenges you and your daughter are facing. I will do my best to get your daughters wish out to as many people as I can. Our prayers will be with you.
Gretchen and Slade XOXO
Hey there Gretchen! You are so sweet! I love the ideas you have for project Gretchen and think you should pour your heart into this positive project you would be great at this!
I think the whole Tamra thing is dead and you should never discuss this again and really show everyone the Gretchen project side of you the savvy side of yourself. I would also like to see you do charity work aside from the sweet song for Jeff, obvious how much he adored you and you gave him a great gift those last months of his life… so precious! Great job girl!I also could see where you were coming from with Alexa …I think you have a good heart, but were a bit misunderstood there by Lynn. I think you should avoid gossiping about anyone..take the high high road…it will only make you look better!
Finally hon, this Slade guy…not loving this for you…but for now i can see why you chose him.. he has stuff to work through it seems…I would love to see you with a man who really has a strong base, appears put together and can take you where you want to go in life…Slade just gets too abrupt with others..too fatherly…it just doesn’t seem like an even relationship…I am sure he is a sweet guy, just doesn’t seem quite right for you. You can have anyone you want in the universe. Keep it real and stay sweet i really am happy i looked on your site its really cute and sweet and fun like you! I think you should take down the Tamra stuff though it takes away from you and who you are…I believe you and I feel for her also…something is going on there and it is such a shame because you both are gorgeous and you can see how much she loves her kids…Anyhoo have a wonderful night and I cannot wait to see more good things from you! love ya girl. Es
I am with you on the Slade thing. I am not feeling it either! Gretchen seems so much more High Class than his last girlfriend. And he always seemed to have a hot temper to me. Please be careful Gretchen! You are a beautiful person and deserve only the best. I think your Mom sees something you don’t and that is why it is taking so long for her to warm up to him.!! A momma knows!!
Well karma is a bitch and Tamra is currently reaping what she soe’d. Gretchen you may be a wild women compared to these other ladies but I have always found that what you say in the first episode matches what you say in the last episode. I think why she questioned your relationship with Jeff was because the only beauty she sees is on the surface and not what is inside a person. I can know understand why you were reluctant to remove this blog because it does shed light on Tamera’s backstabbing ways. But I will add that watching the show I think that Tamera was Vickies hit man. I think she stirred the pot so watch your back when it comes to Vickie.
Its been obvious from day one Tamra is a nasty, jealous woman who only thrives on hurting others. Gretchen is a pretty, smart, and fun girl who will always be treated nasty by jealous women. I feel bad for Tamras children who will grow up to see this footage and know what type of person their mother is. Hang in there Gretchen!
gretchen is in la la land..tamra is beautiful lady inside and out.
What ever!! Tamara needs to stop worring about Gretchen, and fix her own life!! Tamra is just Jelouse!!! Gretchen is the BEAUTIFUL person, inside and out!!! She is one the most gorgeous women I have ever seen!! And no I am not a lesbian, I am married with 3 children!! GRETCHEN ROCKS!!!
TEAM GRETCHEN ALL THE WAY!!!
Nannie
ARE your crazy Tamara is a liar, is a liar, is a liar, is a liar, is a liar!!!!! How many times have we all heard stupid Tamara say that and who’s the one getting the divorce!!!!!!!!!
Grethchen is young and so beautiful you other people are so jealous of her.
YOU GO GRETCHEN!!!
wowwwwwwwwww she is not in la la land..wake the hell up man..
WAit just a sec here Tamera is that u writing that Tamera is beautiful..its gotta be just gotta be..hey get yer eyes and ears in check ..Tamera has shown her FUGLY self with her words and actions on numerous occasions..U ROCK GRETCHIN..
Love you, Hate her!
Tamara is an exhausting person to watch. Her insecurities, “wanting” to be “the hottest housewife” is sooo annoying. Get over it, you just aren’t the sh*t, sorry sweety. All she does is complain and talk crap about everyone else. All I can think is that she is so miserable with her own life that she brings true to “misery loves company”. Watch out Tamara, Karmas a bitch.
I COMPLETELY AGREE WITH YA!!!
oh my gosh! tamara totally thinks she’s the hottest housewife! please, she’s making me not want to watch the show. I’m starting to really hate her and vicki blowing smoke up each others butt!
I AM SOOOOO HAPPY TO GET TO WRITE YOU HERE. FIRST GRETCHEN YOU ARE VERY BEAUTIFUL AND AS YOU KNOW YOUNGER THEN TAMERA. SADLY TAMERA HAS SUCH A BAD CASE OF THE GREENIES IT HORRIBLE. SHE IS WORSE THEN VICKIE. OMG. YOU HAVE SO MUCH TO CLIMB UP AND OVER AND DOING A GREAT JOB. NOW IT WAY PAST TIME TO LET ALL THIS DROP. WE IN THE AUDIENCE ARE QUICK FRANKY “SICK” OF HEARINGV ABOUT IT AND IF YOU STOP IT GREAT IF TAMERA KEEPS TALKING ABOUT IT ONLY MAKES HER LOOK STUPID. NOW KEEP WORKING ON YOU BEAUTY PRODUCTS AND OTHER THINGS AND YOUR RELANSONSHIP WITH SLADE. MAKE SURE HE IS NOT JUST TAKING A BEAUTIFUL RIDE. I KNOW SO MANY HAVE SAID THE SAME THING. ONE MORE OR MNAY MORE TIMES WILL NOT HURT SISTER. LOVE YA SMILE AND STAY YOUR BEST. WE KNOW WHY JEFF LOVED YOU HOW COULD HE NOT.
I watch this show RELIGIOUSLY and is the only housewives I keep up with! My girlfriends and I are TEAM GRETCHEN as well as other fans on here! You are wonderful and young and she is just one of the most jealous people I have ever witnessed! I am sure the show has a lot to do with certain situations but I could never be around a person that has said the god awful things she does! It is pure jealously and I have seen that since your first episode. She looked like you were new bate and she was going to beat you down like no other! She is a BORED CONTROLLED OLD women that has nothing better to do then plot!! I personally feel there was really no need to explain yourself on this blog because anyone who watches this show knows the disgusting person she is! Her personality is exhausting and trust me we can see who is true! TEAM GRETCHEN! <3
Gretchen,
You seem like a posItive person inside and out. Very inspiring! Dont change for anyone!! It is very apparent that Tamra is simply jealous of your blessings! She is a very negative person and portrays herself as so on the show! How someone could act so vulgar on national television is a brain buster and very embarrasing to say the least! She truly gives women a bad name. She chose her chicken leg husband over her own son! What a mom!!! Gretchen, do not let that old bag hagg bother you! We all know who is telling the truth! In addition, I think Lynn owes you an apology for acting crazy about you shopping with her daughter! Cuckoo! Tell that lady to get a back bone!! OXOXOXO P.S I can’t wait for your make up line! p.s.s. YOU ROCK!
*T*E*A*M-*G*R*E*T*C*H*E*N*
Gretchen, You are sweet & stay sweet. You are the most REAL & my favorite housewife. Hope God blesses you & puppy dogs. I know how it feels to have people say bad things but you know your heart & so does God. Don’t ever let past mistakes get you down. Ill be 1st one to say Ive made them we all do (even the other housewives,LOL)its what God knows is whats important. I think you are great!!!!! Bless ya, Cheryl
Gretchen – First of all — Love you from Canada! You’re around the same age as my daughter! Anyway, hubby & I noticed a few things about Tamra.
She was NOT drunk when pushing her son to continuously fill your shot glass at her party NOR when she kept winking at Vicki while ordering her son to fill those shot glasses, after she declared her intent to get you ‘naked wasted’. Her faux proclamation of innocence was vomit-inducing at the least.
Secondly, I noted that Tamra delighted in the idea that Simon wouldn’t be pleased with the surprise of having her son attend Vicki’s party. It was a stick-it-to-him-weirdness.
Thirdly, why do her eyes dart around and lack real emotion even when she drops saline from them? It’s as if she’s scanning the crowd to see who is ‘on her side’.
Her first-born was at what age? He seems to be an absolute wreck unfortunately, yet she does nothing to guide him; she dismisses his wrongdoings and (disrespects her husband as a result, which – in itself – is very strange, maybe her family dynamics from years before?)…Keep your distance from that venomous snake of a bully.
It appears she has anti-social tendencies for she tries to hurt you at every opportunity. Hmmm…maybe that’s what her son is suffering from, since he has NO consideration for ANYONE. Sad.
Ive been saying to myself since the first time i watch u on the show that its ridiculous how they hate on you. When you first came on as the new house wife tamra had a problem saying that you wasnt hotter than her and you were trying to steal her shine. The bottom line is jealousy. Your prettier inside and out and you dont have kids or a man. you have your whole life ahead of you. Whether or not jeff gave you money they’re jealous of that dough. when you was shopping and getting new bikes from jeff they was going bananas. So now look at the situation…. your with slade but on the same token your free. And your embarking on new business opps. with your own money and they cant c u honey. you are fierce and haters are gonna do they’re job.
I also would of never found this blog if tamara hadnt ran her moth about it, but besides that gretchen i do beleive you really did love jeff and watching the footage i could just see a diffrent look in your face when you were with him, in the lil footage that jeff was in, you wouuld lite up, im sorry that you had to prove and fight for your guys relationship to everyone else but i can see that it was real, and for tamara to sit there fight about that make her a bitter old women, and tamara use to be one of my favorite hosewives untill she did that, and im very sorry for your loss, i obvioulsy didnt know him bt he seemed like a good guy and a great dad.
Hi Gretchen, I think you are the classiest of the housewives, very sweet and forgiving! Tamra blew it! That episode where you launched your makeup line at a women’s show is giving me courage to pursue my dreams…my friend and I will be launching her business selling beautiful scarves and fashion accessories at the Northwest Women’s Show in Seattle next weekend…March 5-7. Wish you could also be at that show! Would you consider? Or maybe next year?
Gretchen,
Anyone watching the show can see that Tamara lacks common sense, is jealous & brainless. Her stories on anything change depending on the weather. And Vicki, she is just horrible! Stay away from both of them.
You are my favorite of any of the Housewives! I am sorry for your loss & wish you the best of luck in anything you do!
xoxo
I think you are an amazing woman and I wish you the best in life and with your make up line. I will be ordering!
As far as Tamra is concerned, I have always thought she is two-faced and mean. As soon as you became part of the show, her jealousy of you was too obvious. She is a miserable person and has to have a target (you). Keep your head up and keep smiling. You are awesome!
Gretchen,
never stop being you. Tam has been jealous of you from day one. She gets on my nerves. She is two face, jealous, backstapping whinning bitch. Don’t trust her, she will hurt you. Love ya and good luck to you. I also want to say I am so sorry to hear about Jeff, I know you loved him.
Gretchen,
Anyone with half a brain knows what a miserable bitch Tamra is, not to mention extremely jealous of you! I think you are a beautiful, smart & talented woman. I look forward to see how you are going to put all those “fake” housewives in there place, you are always right on the money whether you have a few or not- sometimes just more colorful than others! You ROCK! Good luck with your endeavers & for GOD sake you need more bags!
tamara will only reap what she sows! just found the show here i am in glasgow she is a wicked jealous bitch sorry for your loss of jeff u will go on to have a happy and successful life
Tamra is nothing but a jealous BITCH who needs to get over herself she has nothing better to do than bitch about you and the others .If yoyu ask me what goes around comes around . we love you Gretchen don’t you let that bitch get you down .
Gretchen,
I’m so sorry that she is so awful to you. Keep your chin up. She’s the one getting divorced now! Isn’t that ironic. You stay sweet girlfriend!
I thought Tamra met Jay at Lake Havasu and told him you were at Bass Lake. Thanks for clearing that up.
Of course I’ll write about this, I’ll link to you.
Thanks the detailed info. Why people like drama and make up lies is beyond me. Stay true and strong Gretchen.
It’s a shame that all Tamra and J are trying to do is get fame off of you… it’s good to see you’re taking the high road and keeping your inner circle drama-free. Sad to see people act a fool for their 15 mins!
#teamgretchen
I believe you too. I gotta write about it as well, cuz that pays the bills, but I have always been team Gretchen. Your story makes sense, which leads me to believe you. Not a bunch of histrionics and yelling.
Tamra is just an attention hog, stay true to yourself and you should be okay!
You go girl!! Before i read this i was kinda on tamara side (kinda) but u just broke it down! dont let the hater get to u gorgeous
Btw Tamra is extremely jealous of you and that’s why she does those things. Your gorgeous and she hates that you’re prettier than her. Dumb girl is stuck in highschool still. Like you said you will grow from this and move on. Now your skin is thicker. You have so much life to live and one day you will look back at still single, old Tamra and laugh. Or at least I will. Team Gretchen. Btw I have seen you out and about and both time I pussy out on saying hi, so hi! My girlfriends and I think you rock! Love Christy
Hi Gretchen:
You Go Girl! I believe you totally about everything! You are a very caring and sweet person. Tamra is the one who has to trash everyone to feel good about herself! Follow the High Road. Tamra’s road will be low and full of potholes.
Love Ya and Stay Strong.
Erin E
Hi Gretchen,
I just want to say that you are the only reason I watch the show. I think you have a great personality and you bring a refreshing spirit to the show. Tamra is the worst nasty person I have ever seen. She goes around crying about her marriage and her money issues, but still has time to butt her nose in someone elses life…uhmm I think she needs to worry about her own life and family. Her own son is going to jail instead of doing community service!!! SERIOUSLY…what a lazy piece of shit! I guess those are the values that Tamra instilled in her kids, they rather go to jail than do something good for the community! You are great, I think you are hilarious and I wish you the best! Come Visit Fort Wayne Indiana sometime on your way up to visit Michigan!
Gretchen,
You are a beautiful ,charming and gracious woman. There are so many people who support you and I hope that helps when those with less character try to bring you down! You deserve all the happiness in the world. Stay Strong!
Love, Steffie
Tamra is straight up DISGUSTING! She has been out to get you from when you first joined the show because she knew you were going to outshine her, which of course you did! You are stunning and have all the qualities she lacks. She is always talking about how she is the hottest housewife but she is soo NOT! Her hair is dried out and brittle, she has stretch marks all over her belly and thighs (that is why you will never see her in a two-piece) and she has crows feet all over her eyes and by her nose. What gives her the audacity?! She had no reason to treat you the way she did. You are always very positive, accepting and nothing but kind to all the housewives. And what she did to you at her house for dinner was straight up evil. She pre-meditated to get you drunk, hoping to make you look stupid. (Which of course you didn’t. You were funny as hell! She acts like she has never had too many drinks before!) But what type of person does that??! A so-called friend or associate plotting to do wrong to someone else is sick!! She is not a real friend at all to anyone and is a vicious person. That is why her marriage is in shambles and her son is a lost cause! She is a horrible person and will get hers.
And why did she involve herself in all the drama with J? A real friend or true person would have been like, “You are a stranger. I don’t know you. Please don’t call me with this nonsense anymore.” And then hang up on him and never accept another phone call. She wanted to get dirt on you and listened to his lies, schemed with him and loved every minute of it! She is pathetic and does not have a life!
And her so-called husband is just as disgusting as she is! She is very unhappy and that is why she is always crying all over the show and so nasty to everyone. And because she was so unhappy and living in hell, she wanted to make someone else life a living hell too. And what better person then you because you are the most sweetest, happiest and positive person. Is is so sad that she did what she did to you but I’m so happy that you are looking forward and keeping it going! You are much better than her and better than all that drama! You rock!
Also, on a side note, I’m so disappointed in how Lynn has been treating you this season. I really believe Tamra has been an awful influence but that is still no excuse. You were being a good friend and person by telling Lynn’s daughter that she can call you anytime. You didn’t say anything negative about her parents. And for Lynn to act the way she did and make it seem like you were questioning her parenting is outrageous! I LOVE how SLADE set her straight at dinner. I would watch out for her!
But Gretchen, keep being you! Adorable, funny, sassy, and FABULOUS!!!! You have more fans than any of the other Housewives! We love you!!
~Chantel~
Gretchen:
I heard J’s own brother saying that he has done the same thing to other girls. Obviously, the guy is a nut case, I know him and he is…
Gretchen, I am so sorry that you are going through all of that being on the show, I really am surprised that Tamra is doing this. I mean I am sure she knows that it will come out and she will look like an ass. Anyway, Simon has issues, so at least he called her out. I am so sorry for the Loss of Jeff, I think its great you still have a relationship with his kids. Keep your head up girl and sport the Slade he is hOOOOt!!You all make a great couple. The other wives are clearly jealous.
I always felt Tamra was just so insecure and so full of hate, she’s very bitter and can’t stand the fact that you are YOUNGER and much better looking than her. her personality just makes her look UGLY. she doesnt realize how much of an old bitter fart she looks and sounds like on tv! keep your head up, i have been through a situation like this where people hate on you for no good reason, let them hate their just jealous and bitter!
I really love ya and have rooted for you from the beginning but I have to say that it does look bad when on every episode you can see the tattoo on your ring finger. When the camera shifts and your ring moves a little it is obvious you have a name tattooed there. I wish it wasn’t the case but like I said it is really obvious. Anyway, I hope everything works out for you, I really do because you seem like a very nice person.
I never noticed the tattoo at all!
Tamra is just a old, bitter, soon to be divorced hag. The whole world knows it, and you should just let her sit in her piss. You are way better than she could ever be.
Love you and not her!
xoxoxox
Stefanie
I was thinking that Tamara’s seething attack on you was fueled by people not agreeing with her. Maybe Tamara was the one who slept with J! They both had something to gain and Simon is saying that she cheated on him….you never know!
Gretchen dear, drop the blog. Really, you dont need to prove anything to anyone. It really makes you look childish to have to detail eveything out like that. Seriously, you know the truth- what other people think of you is none of your business! You two should just be friends in spite of your differences, you both have done things- let it go and be kind and drop the blog. It really is harder to have all this in you than to just take the high rode. You are beautiful, kind hearted, generous, loving, funny, and can do anything you set your mind to. Dont get caught up in the details. Best of Luck- Michele
Totally not childish! She needed to clear things up in her own words. It’s easy to say “don’t worry what other people think” when you are not on national t.v. Put her heels on for a minute in this situation… it’s hard to imagine cuz you live your life privately unlike her for everyone to see.
Good for you Gretchen! I’m glad you spoke your mind as you should have! Anyone who tells you different just has NO IDEA how hard it can be opening up the doors to their most intimate parts of their life for everyone to see, only to be bashed by a lying bitch.
Take care!
Belle from San Diego =)
Dear Michele, What Gretchen did was defend her name and reputation. If lies were published about you, i’m sure you would SAY you’d take the high road, but the fact of the matter is, Tamra is a repeat offender with so much poison spewing from her venemous lips that Gretchen had every right to dispute them publically as they were spoken of PUBLICALLY!! How dare you ask Gretchen to remain quiet when she is justified to right the wrong done against her by a dispicable evil intentioned woman. Gretchen’s and Tamra’s arguement makes for good tv but in reality Tamra has revealed she slithers upon the belly of the lowliest of character attributes.
No Way JOSE!!
Michele,
Gretchen is on National T.V. and needs to defend herself against Tamara’s lies. I’m not sure where you’re coming from, but Famous people like Gretchen, have the right and now the means (via personal websites/Twitter)to set the record straight.
Tamara INTENTIONALLY SET OUT TO TURN MANY FANS AGAINST Gretchen with her lies. Do you have any idea how this affects a famous person? NAIVE fans of the show (like J) will believe those lies and act out on Gretchen based on lies!!!
I can see where a person like you or I have no need to defend our measly honor, but Gretchen is in the right to defend her honor to the MILLIONS of fans that tune in to the show.
Gretchen, you are a doll! Your true light shines through with each show. The other shallow housewives (Vicki, Tamra, now sadly Lynn)can’t seem to see that through their jealousy. It’s a shame really. Tamara can’t help herself in continuing the lies. Those that entertain her lies (by listening and giving her sympathy) even though they don’t speak them are no better. Now, her story has changed to the “blog of lies” you have posted about her and Simon. Good Lord! She’s seeking Alexis’s sympathy and said that is why she didn’t go to your party. Are you kidding me????!!!
KEEP THIS BLOG UP GIRL! SETTING THE RECORD STRAIGHT HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH BEING “THE BETTER PERSON” or not.
You’re the best on the show. Keep your chin up and all the good work you’re doing for others. Your song sounds great!
I agree with you. It makes you look really small. People are going to believe what they want to anyway.
Gretchen keep your head high you will make it out of this on top. It’s a shame that misery loves companies which is J and Tamra. Karma- Look at her and her husband what a pair. Maybe that’s why her husband has been acting the way he has been because maybe he doesn’t want to be around a wife that lies and causes drama!
I have been wanting to say this for a while…Bottom line Tamara is jealous of your youth and happiness in life..That is all this is about…Too bad you have to defend yourself. I NEVER write on blogs but had to pass this on.
Right you are, Beth. On the show intro where Tamara says, “Housewives may come younger, but they don’t come hotter” she challenges the universe. Karma..along comes Gretchen and anyone with eyes can see that Gretchen makes Tamara look plain. Tamara is a bitter. jealous woman and is getting what she has coming. Karma…sow and reap…all the same.
I echo that Tamra is so jealous of you that she can’t even see straight. I’ve seen every episode and you were/are instantly likeable in each and every one. You have an inner beauty that makes you shine head and shoulders above the rest on that show. I felt so bad when Tamra started villifying you last year, but it makes her look like the badly aging, insecure, covetous bitch she is. She’s so damn desperate for attention, even the kind that makes her look like the desperate shrew she is. Why doesn’t she get a job? If she’s willing to degrade herself and embarrass & humiliate Simon to the point of having to divorce her to make it stop, well, nuff said! My greatest disgust last season was her making a point of babbling on about what a “ladies man” that son of hers is, then them both trying to make you look bad at that party. We all know that guy ain’t straight. And that he’s as much a whore in front of the camera as she is. You didn’t come off badly at all, compared to what they did to you.
Gretchen,
It’s always hard to know the truth when you watch reality tv. But with you, you appear to be very genuine. It’s unfortunate that you have to deal with the drama but I guess it comes with the territory. I hope you’re able to continue taking the high road and be the better person. People who hate only do themselves in. And kudos to you for telling Tamra to shut the f*** up! Awesome!
Gretchen,
Tamara is a jealous bitch! Keep being you, and just ignore her! Love Ya xoxo
Karma is a bitch sometimes and Tamra is getting hers big time! Everybody sees how her stories change to suit her. She is a NASTY bitch who has been majorly jealous of you since the day she met you. Hold your head up high and walk in everywhere like you own the joint. You are a beautiful person inside and out. People see this. Don’t ever change! When people start paying your bills THEN you should care what they think about you. Until then, stay strong girlfriend! BTW, my sincerest condolences to and the kids over the loss of Jeff. He seemed like a great guy who really loved you and those kids. Don’t ever forget that no matter what anyone says. Tamra will go to hell for attacking a deceased man!!! Karma! Karma! Karma!
Tamra was the hot chick until you came along, it’s that simple. I was happy to hear about the divorce!
Karma!!!
Gretchen- you rock. simply put. I have struggled with a lot of the same things that you have in the past and you are truly an inspiration to me. I love your hair. Mine sorta looks like yours..hehe im a cosmotology student. But in any which way, take the high road. Tamra is a selfish unhappy person…she is jealous of you. Don’t let anyone bring you down. Wish you all the happiness in the new year
Oh please. It is so obvious that Tamra is being eaten alive by her jealousy of Gretchen. After all Gretchen is young, beautiful, and doesn’t have an evil bone in her body… However, Tamra is an old, leathery, straw-haired hag who is way past her prime. Tamra just seems so vicious to me. Gretchen, stay the way you are girl. You are a sweetheart!
Hey Gretchen-
Anyone who believes Tamara obviously does not pay attention to the show. She contradicts herself all the time. She is constantly talking about her so called ‘friends’ behind their backs. She claims she doesn’t want to be around you because you have a bad reputation, but she openly admits that she and her young son lived with a stripper. She took advantage of someone going through a difficult time who was trying to cope with the lose of a loved one.
It is obvious that you do not need the show or any man to be successful. Stay true to yourself always. You have such a great outlook on life and wonderful sense of humor. It’s inspiring <3
WOW Gretchen, that was a lot of information! I think Tamra should’ve spent the time and energy on her own marriage instead of rumors about you, and maybe she wouldn’t be getting divorced now! It’s so ironic that she wanted to throw rocks at your character, yet her husband is totally challenging hers!
I also think Lynne needs to GET A CLUE! She looks like she’s high all the time. Or almost brain dead. Seriously. I just watched tonight’s episode and felt my blood boiling. WOWWW! Talk about having NO PARENTAL SKILLS!!! She and her husband are absolutely clueless when it comes to discipline and how their little 17 year old is totally manipulating them. You tried to help and she didn’t want to hear it.. they’ll have to learn the hard way and unfortunately, they will.
Gretchen, you go girl! The show got way better when you joined the cast and I love that you stand up to Tamra when clearly she’s out to cut you down at every opportunity.
RE: Tamra – Wow – she’s a piece of work. I trust nothing she says and if she really thinks she’s the hottest housewife it’s time for a reality check. Not at all surprised she’s getting divorced. Her husband is a controlling maniac and she’s just a loser all the way around.
RE: Vicki – Again, not someone to be trusted. She says at least 15 times an episode how much she loves her life. Is she trying to convince us or herself? The whole show with her and Donn renewing their vows made me hurl. And what’s up with her weight this year? She looks like she’s gained about 20 lbs. Her a** is HUGE. Look up the word “fake” in the dictionary and there’s Vicki’s picture.
RE: Alexis – I had high hopes for a halfway decent addition to the cast, but what a hypocrite this one is. I don’t believe one word about her religion being number one in her life as she says, unless her idea of religion is similar to that of Jimmy Swaggart, Jim Baker and all the other money-grubbing fake Christians. She’s all about Alexis and how Alexis LOOKS. No true Christian parades around in skimpy bikinis like the one she wore to Tamra’s pool party, nor does a true Christian flaunt her chest by spilling out of every top she wears. I’m not buying it. Her husband is another controlling freak. All he cares about is having arm candy and making sure she has time for her exercise and beauty appointments by having TWO nannies for a woman who doesn’t even work! Clearly she stays with him for the money because he’s about as unattractive as they come. As soon as she meets the next man with money she’ll be gone. They’ve only been married for five years but she acts like she’s the authority on relationships. Honey, wait until you’ve been married 25 years, then maybe you’ll have some perspective and credibility in the marriage department.
RE: Lynn – GMAFB. She’s pathetic, a horrible parent, dumber than a sack of hair and clearly she has no financial management skills as she’s now got the warrant for nonpayment of rent and other debts. She’s a housewife wannabe, plain and simple. Still trying to figure out how she got on the show.
I miss Jeana!
First let me say, Gretchen you’re awesome!!! I love you, I cannot wait for your makeup line and Gretchen’s closet!!! I already sign-up for updates!! can’t wait…I just hope is not soo darn expensive…since we’re living in hard times, hopefully you took that into consideration!!
I wanted to reply to JR.- you couldn’t have said it better…I was laughing soo hard by your comments…you just said it like it is!!! KUDOS to you!!!
Gretchen, take care, I wish you the best, but just a piece of advise, coming from a GREAT mother that I am… (because that loser Lynne doesn’t even know where the heck is door, where she is, she’s just has a brain full of crap, and probably empties it in the toilet every day!!!) but just back-off from the whole Alexa thing…that stupid teenager is obviously disrespectful, inmature, and just a plain liar…don’t lose your time, effort, and energy on people like that…they’re not worth it…now back to JR– how did these losers land on this show??? totally beyond my understanding…but really they landed in the wrong show…they should be casted for intervention or dumb and dumber volume II..LOL..
Take care Gretchen, my best to you and your loved ones.
Joey
Hey, You nailed it on the head. Alexis is not a true Christian!!! Woman, don’t parade around with all that negativity and act like she does. As for Vicki, SHe is a b—-, she thinks her job is the only one to be had. She can dish it out but can’t take it.
Keep your head high girl! I’ve loved you since you came on the show. I just wish they’d let Tamara go haha. Stay strong
team gretchen!
Gretchen been watching the show. love ya the episode when your mother told you to rise above just always keep that with you my father favortie was always be the better the person. you got a good heart dont ever change
I think you guys act like your in high school. Forgive and Forget. Move on.
Anyone who tells someone else to ‘forgive and forget’ clearly has their head in the sand. NO ONE is capable of forgetting anything save brain damage. You should forgive, and move on, but leave up your blog, anyone hearing about it on tv will be disappointed if they don’t get to see it, and that’s just the price of living a public life. Keep being a good friend and an honest person.
Gretchen I have always pulled for you and Tamara is just a total beotch! Dont worry honey she is getting exactly what she deserves right now, a DIVORCE!!! Thanks for clearing up some things on this blog and telling the TRUTH! For the record, I feel sorry for Simon also bcause he married a selfish, attention obsessed, manipulating liar of a person, Tamara… Keep your head up gal and live your life happy!
Meg
Gretchen,
The more I watch that Orange County the more I see what an awful person Tamara really is. She is jealous of you because you are a really beautiful person inside and out. Never let someone of you get to you just move on and let her keep making a fool out of herself. Good Luck! I’m so sorry about Jeff and I wish you well in your life.
Mattie
you have got to be kidding.
Nannie my ass…Tamra, be a real woman and post comments with your own name. This is ridiculous…
nannie who needs to change her name to nannie shut your pie hole…
sarah get a life..gretchen is such a ho,say what you want..be real.ever word out of gretchens mouth is a lie!!!!
I actually found and read the legal forms Jays lawyer submitted and he quoted so many “instances” that Gretchen “slandered” JYs name but the odd thing is in all of the interviews I’ve seen Gretchen do, in all of the quotes/instances the lawyer noted no where did Gretchen ever say Jays real name, last name. In fact, at least for me I thought she was calling him “J” as in a first initial and I never knew his last name.
Gretchen, I’m sure you’ve already done it but if I were in your position I would be conducting and Internet search for everything regarding this J(erk) and have your lawyers subpeoning all of Tamra’s and Jays cell phone and txtg records because if Simons assumption is correct about her cheating it might just be Tamra and J(erk). No where in J(erks) lawsuit does it say that you ever mentioned his name only that “J” is….. By him filing suit against you only shows proof that he wants to cover something up. Just a thought.
And to Nannie? Get a grip.
Hi, Gretchen –
You stay strong and be yourself and you’ll do fine. You’re my favorite housewife because you are so down to earth, fun-loving, and compassionate. I’m sure it hurts to have to defend yourself against Tamra, who is just downright evil. She has obviously had it in for you since before she knew you. Vicki joined right in with it and didn’t even bother to get to know you before she judged you. I’ve noticed a pattern to Tamra cuddling up with all the new housewives and then talking crap behind their backs. She was mean to Lynne, and now they are best friends. Tamra and Vicki aren’t so close anymore. Now, she’s cozying up with Alexa and talking crap to her about you! She’s a snake. Hey, BTW – don’t take down the blog. If the truth will set you free, then you have the right to speak your own truth. Also by the way, I didn’t see anything wrong with your trying to talk to Lynne’s daughter. The footage I saw was just you trying to say “hey, I’m here for you.” Only somebody semi-creepy would interpret your good intentions as insulting to their parenting skills. The daughter didn’t exactly portray you in the best light, either. We all know her behavior is attention seeking and you and I know where she’s headed, which is why you tried to talk to her. You’re always kind to other people and quick to laugh – you’re the reason I watch the show. Stay strong…time will expose these people for the frauds they are.
Gretchen, You’re def a Hottie and Tamra is just a bitch trying to get her 15 minutes of fame.
She’s a wannabe housewife and now she’s getting divorced. LOL…too funny!
Stay pretty and positive Girl.
Gretchen hon , Hold your head up high. There is no right or wrong way to deal with death. I was a widow at 28. We were married 2 years.thats been 1 years ago.And lost my son 6 years ago he was 12. He was a heart transplant paitent. People looked down on me when i moved on. But they dont know whats its like. Life must go on. Its what they would want for us. I know that in my heart. And i think with my husband dying gave me the strength to deal with my son. Remember God does not give us more then we can handle.much love love for you and Jeffs kids. He was a good man.
Heather, I am so sorry to hear of your losses. I can’t even begin to imagine the pain you have had to dredge through. Prayers go out for you.
And Gretchen, I was so sad to hear of Jeff’s passing. You were nothing but loving & caring to him and his kids, and it was evident that he loved you in return.
You have a positive light within you and I believe if you stay true to yourself, you will go far in life. I do however, agree with a previous poster about Slade. I think he is great for you now, he makes you laugh and you have a good time together, but I can’t see you two “settling down”. I am thankful you have someone fun to get you through the pain though.
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I wish you all the best in everything you do!
God Bless!
11 years ago not 1 sorry can u fix it for me?
How ironic that Tamra was talking to her ex-boyfriend for the past 18mths while married and trashes you for having a male friend while only engaged. When the show first started she was so nice. I see why simon has became this way. He wants his wife back not this white trash bimbo she has become.
Well, they do say that one a person is accusing another of doing something, like cheating, it is only to divert attention from themselves. I think, Maria, you have nailed it!
I also find it strange that Tamra and V were accusing Gretchen of being a gold digger when it was THEM who told her to get into Jeff’s will… once again, transference.. I loved Gretchen and Jeff together. When I was her age I was madly in love with a man who was Jeff’s age and we were together for seven (7) years, the relationship ended but the hurt is the same. Chin up Gretchen. You are a beautiful person inside and out and those of us who can see it are lucky. Those who can’t are lacking self esteem and compassion. Good luck girl!
I had to add one more thought…My theory is, Vicki and Tamra were/are SSOOOO jealous that a millionaire Vicki’s age was in love with a woman YOUNGER than Tamra and both of them were GREEN with jealously because it want them. So who REALLY are the gold diggers??
It was obvious to anyone with any insight at all that she was so jealous of your looks and youth. The more she spouts her venom the older and uglier she gets. When I first watched the show, I thought she was pretty and sassy. Now I just see her as a sad bitter woman.
Karma is a biotch!!
gretchen, you rock girl!!!! f*** tamara!!! she is so jealous of you it ain’t funny!!! her life has been falling apart for some time now and she needed someone else to take the crap off of her!! and to be honest with you, who’s bussiness is it if you were screwing around with this guy or not!! or as tamara put it, jeff was paying you to take care of him?? so what even if he was?!??!?? that is none of anyone’s bussiness!! anyway love u on the show!!!!!
I totally agree with this statement. Even if all of these things Tamara said were true it is none of her business. Stay the f%#k out of it you demented woman. That is the part I never understood.
Hi Gretchen!! I have one word for Tamara…KARMA! What goes around comes around, sweetheart. You get back exactly what you put out in this universe.
Simon finally woke up and kicked her sorry butt to the curb. She is insanely jealous of you Gretchen and it shows with every foul word that passes her lips. I checked the OC court website and Simon really did file for divorce. Yippee!
Gretchen, you are fun, sassy and full of life! Tamara was and is miserable and she couldn’t stand the fact that you are so fabulous! You just keep being you! That’s all you need to do! And don’t spend another nano second talking about Tamara! Don’t do it! It is negative crap and you don’t need it.
We, in the OC, absolutely believe that you loved Jeff beyond measure. If she doesn’t believe it, she can suck it! Who cares what she thinks. Really. Live your life and ignore that white trash that we have all come to know as Tamara.
After watching her on the show, I am embarassed to say that I live here! She is so NOT a representation of this community. Get her off the show…PLEASE!
Gretchen,
I did not know you had a blog unitl I saw the episode where Tamra tells Alexis that you had a blog, and that you had written untrue things about her and her husband. At that point I was so tired of hearing her talk mess about you.I decided to find your blog and find out what’s really going on. Your story makes sense!!! All the missing part’s came together once I read your blog. Tamra is a lost cause. She is so miserable with herself, marriage, and life period, she can’t stand to see someone actually be happy and enjoying life. She contradicts herself EVERYTIME she opens her mouth. Her story always changes. She has no life so she has to make up stories abut you and likes to embellish them to make it more interesting, so people will be interested in what she is saying. Doesn’t she realize how stupid and ignorant she makes herself look? Constantly talking trash about you, when you have been nothing but nice to her and tried to befreind her. She needs to grow up and stop living in her little fantasy world. People aren’t stupid and will see her for the liar she is. People like her always show their true side. You did nothing to her, except look better than her LOL. God allows certain things to happen…take this as a learning experience. As I say, Forgive and keep it moving!!!. Forgiving doesn’t mean you have to be all chummy chum chum friends with her, it just means your moving on with your life and leaving her and her drama behind. Sweetie continue to be you. God will continue to show up and show out for you. Be blessed.
~*Zee*~
Oh please. It is so obvious that Tamra is being eaten alive by her jealousy of Gretchen. After all Gretchen is young, beautiful, and doesn’t have an evil bone in her body…
… Tamra is an old, leathery, straw-haired hag who is way past her prime. Tamra just seems so vicious to me.
Gretchen, stay the way you are girl. You are a sweetheart!
Gretchen your only faults are being beautiful and having a fantastic personality! Tamra has been jealous from day one, and I recall how ugly she was to you at the Horseraces, even then it was clear she was threatened by your beauty, and so was Vicki which is why they stuck together and played out the gang mentality thing.
Vicki always says that you want attention all the time, and I think thats just another one of those jealousy things – Oh but now Vicki is trying to be nice- I wouldn’t trust her for a NY minute nor would I trust this Alexis gal – shes phony and full of BS herself.
Lynne is losing it with you and thats dumb because anyone with half a mind can see that you were only trying to be nice to Alexis, and offer an ear if she needed to be heard. Lynne is threatened by you giving good advice I guess.
On another note Gretchen, myself and my friends often wonder why you hang with Slade. Your clearly a hot commodity and to waste it on Slade seems almost criminal…..I’m sure he is a nice person, but don’t be fooled to think he’s still not cashing in on his 15 minutes…..
Well enuf said — Your the best, and I love your humor!! Cool Tax ad too!!
Im with you Linda…Alexis is a phony and her husband is an arrogant jackass. 7 carats! How many times did he say that when he gave Alexis that tacky goth looking piece of jewelry? What a moron…such christians yet put so much emphasis on material things. Such contradictions and they dont even see it!
Vicki looks like Miss Piggy…we did a side by side photo and the resemblance is UNCANNY. She suddenly is trying to be nice?! Could it be that she’s tryng to outrun karma? She was such a hurtful, nasty and judgmental person for all the other seasons and now suddenly she tries to redeem herself? She doesnt realize she will get back in return what she put out there regardless of how ‘nice’ she’s trying to be now.
Lynne, I am convinced, is retarded or drug addicted…her kid played her like a fool last night manipulating her and her husband by crying LOL. Wow..when she ends up dead from an overdose…Lynne might think twice about Gretchen having tried to lend an ear.
They’re all a mess except Gretchen…the rest of them are useless old rags.
vickie trYING to be nice? that’s the keyword “trying” she is so phony.. all she is doing is trying to save face because more and more fans don’t like her behavior… her segments make me ill… poor Don… he needs counseling… as far as lynn, she has problems dealing with conflict… she she avoids it, by making it someone elses problem OR by drinking… drugs?? making fun of herself? hard to say….
Hi Gretchen. First of all, love you! You are great person,beautiful inside and out. I have always thought the same thing about that b**** Tamra that all the other people have already noted. JEALOUS ,JELOUS, JELOUS!! I am so glad I have read your blog. I never questioned who was telling the truth, but now it all makes sense. When I first heard that Tamra’s life was crumbling down around her, I thought (like all the others) KARMA IS A B*****! B****! I could not stop laughing.
Anyway, I also want to make a comment about Slade. I loved the Slade in mcuh earlier episodes when he was clean cut and appeared to take better care of himself. He appears to be a great guy but the two of you just don’t look like you belong together. You are so beautiful, ALWAYS dressed to the 9′s and there is Slade. Hair that obviously needs to be cut, a beard and mustache that need to go (he would look much younger) and the baggy, dreadful clothes that he wears. Come on Slade. I know there is a really good looking guy under all that mess! Make a change and look like you belong with this beautiful, classy women! (sorry Slade) I will keep watching and hope to see a change.
Ok enough about Slade.
Gretchen, DON’T YOU DARE EVER TAKE down that blog! Please! You leave it up for everyone to read that might have a single doubt of who has been telling the truth! Love you guys! Even you Slade! But seriously………….lets see that clean cut, hot guy again!
Tamra is an absolute BITCH! I never get involved in drama like this, but the housewives have caught my attention lately. I see her and I realize, she is like “UGLY” and I don’t even mean the outer shell, I mean she is an “ugly” person. She’s that bitch in high school who starts trouble with everyone, and then plays innocent. Ha ha ha – now I see why she was so crazy about wanting you to take this blog down. You are a smart girl, yeah right, why would you ever take this blog down? And why would you do it for her? Like she’s going to stop bustin ya chops if you do – NEVER!!!!! Her husband is an absolute ass, and she is miserable. There is absolutely NOTHING about her that is appealing to me, and every single thing she does it fake and pre-meditated.
Since I like you so much, I am however concerned for you. Is Slade working? I mean, you are a great catch and you deserve a man who can pull his weight. Just a thought. Kinda seems to me like he just hangs out…I don’t see him as being too motivated. But as long as you’re happy it’s all that matters.
Lynn seems like a really nice woman, but what I do know is when anyone messes with a mom and her “cubs” – all bets are off. If they wanna be pushovers and have children who don’t respect them, they will certainly pay for it later. I am sure they are doing the best they know how. From what I saw, Lynn’s daughter turned around and just talked shit about you to her mom at the gym anyway, so forget her. She don’t deserve your generous help. She should be grateful that someone is taking an interest in her boring ass!!
Ha ha ha – Vicki just scares me……….but I also can see that she is a strong person. This is just the way she is wired…….I think it’s funny how she has a mush for a husband – boy what a saint he is. I can see how he would def. love to have more emotion from her – poor guy.
You should honestly just tell Tamra to go screw and just keep smiling and doing what you’re doing. KEEP ROCKIN!
I realize that reality shows only show you what they want u to see! One thing I know for sure is that u have the type of personality that draws people to u! This great ability to be fun and outgoing is truly a blessing and should only be something to cherish in ur life. Unfortunatly, it intimidates other types that like attention but don’t have the genuine nature to obtian it positively, they can only get it by negative attention! Keep ur head high, and know that at the end of the day, the real people of the world know who’s genuine and who’s fake! Take it from someone who is alittle older and has been down the same road many times(just not on tv, thank goodness) Just keep being u and u will never go wrong!
FYI…. Lynn is out to pasture, sorry, I like her, but I have teens and she does not have a clue! U r right on to offer help, as any friend would, and I am confused as to why she is acting like you never told her what u were doing! Hello? Lynn? Are you in there? She comes across as someone who may have smoked alittle to much funny stuff in her day! Love her, but “wake up”!
You go Girl! I for one, am behind you 100%…you knoe if some people spent as much time focusing on their own marriage, instead of sticking their noses into someone else’s business…..maybe they wouldn’t be ending up in divorce court!!! Love you Gretchen! your the best OC house wife!!!! XOXOXOX Kelly
My bet is that the divorce between simon and tamara is a hoax…
Gretchen, you are doing a wonderful job and keep it up, you are more lady like then all the other housewives and i truly love that :p I know Tamara is a “mean girl” and will never change am so surprised she even has any friends because you never want that kinda person around you, or your family. I know karma is a b**** and she is getting hers now. Can you believe the reason why they are divorcing was because Simon found hundreds of text messages to her ex boyfriend, i couldnt believe it she is such a hypocrite talking trash about you when she is doing something worse by being married. She just loves the attention and loves to put you down! and i also wanted to let you know to watch out for lynn This season she has became a tamara I dont like her at all, and sometimes feel sorry for her because i know she is always confused and doesnt get anything
you were trying to be a friend and i guess she is not used to it so please just try and stay away from her she will bring you down like tamara. love you girl and your music! cant wait to see more of ya! take care and of that hottie Slade 
Honey don,t drop the blog.She ask for it.somethings just have to be cleared up.You are real.But,still keep your eyes open,in your own back yard.Take care of you.And where did they come up with the new couple.They are enough to make me not watch the show.The MAN has got to go.
Dear Gretchen: I believe Tamara is jealous of you about so many things. You are beautiful, fun, educated, and ten years younger than Tamara. Maybe Tamara feels like she missed out on a better life in her twenties and thirties because she made the choice to have a child very early and was a struggling single Mom. Apparently Tamara is not happy with how Simon tries to control her. If Tamara and Simon divorce she will again be a single mom raising children well into her fifties.
Perhaps she looks at your life and gets out of control with jealousy and anger because you have lived an interesting single life. When you and Jeff were engaged, you were devoted to being with Jeff and helping him get well. When Jeff realized he was not going to get well you stayed with him and took care of him and his kids. This was such a loving and kind way to say goodbye. Many people would have left.
Tamara sounds like she is jealous that Jeff included you in his will. That is no one business but your’s and Jeff’s.
My daughter is 36 and her husband died last year. I wish my daughter had the coping skills you have to deal with the tragedy of losing her beloved husband. My daughter needs help but refuses and it is frightening.
Tamara has many issues and it appears she wants you to be her scapegoat. Maybe she uses you as a scapegoat because of her feelings of jealousy about the relationship you and Jeff had, and that your life is one she wishes she had chosen instead of the choices that led her to being a young single mother and now in an unhappy marriage with 3 small children to raise.
The night she tried to get you wasted,naked drunk and sic Ryan on you was disgusting.
I understood the stress you were under taking care of Jeff at the hospital for hours and wondering when Jeff would get good news about his treatment and start toward healing. Also in your thoughts in a situation like that you are terrified the treatments will not work and you will lose your loved one.
This is exactly what happened to my son-in-law, daughter, her dad, and me. It is such a tragedy. I don’t know that people who have not been through such a tragedy can even begin to undertand the emotional roller coaster of fear, anguish, exhaustion one goes through while watching a loved one fight so hard to live and then die.
I would be thrilled if someone could reach out to my daughter like you reached out to Lynne’s daughter. That also was a very loving and kind gesture on your part.
I am trying everything I can to help my daughter but she refuses professional help and she does not want to hear what I have to say. You are so right that sometimes someone other than the parents are needed to get through to others. I admire you for reaching out to Lynne and her family.
As for J and his dirty tricks of calling Tamara and Simon. I don’t understand why they took J’s calls at all. I think they enjoyed causing you trouble and trying to make you look bad. As for the pictures go after them and make them take down your very private and stolen pictures. You made a mistake and who hasn’t by trusting the wrong people. Hang in there!!!!
You go girl, come to Texas we like REAL boobs and big hair, and bring Slade we will take care of him for you!!!
Gretchen… I am so glad that I read this. All along I have been trying to figure out who was telling the truth in all of this, and now I know it’s you. Drama makes for great tv, but this web of lies on Tamra’s part just gets more and more and more intricate. Wow. Maybe it’s just me, but reputation/integrity are more important than a good show on the boob-tube (haha, literally on this OC Housewives!).
I am sorry for your loss of Jeff – surely you miss him, however you seem to have found a true connection with Slade and I wish you all the best.
Gretchen, we have loved you since the day you came on the show. Never liked Tamara. She is jealous, washed up, white trash and just hates that you are so much prettier and more interesting then she could ever even imagine being. She needs to get over herself already. No one cares what she thinks or says. When I see her or hear her talk her crap it is like nails on a chalkboard.When she keeps attacking you she just makes herself look bad. Keep being who you are and we will keep watching.
Gretch, Tamara has been trouble before you came on the show. She talked behind everyone’s back especially Jeana’s. She is a drama queen and jealous of you. She wants your looks, your freedom, your personality and she is just as sick as Simon is. As far as Lynne’s issue with your concern for her kid. You are too smart for these people. As far as Lynne and her kids? Her kids will never respect authority if she continues to live with a bag over her head. She makes excuses about her kids but one day it will come back to bite her in the ass. As far as J and the whole Tamara thing goes. I believed from the beginning your were being set up. Tamara needs to worry about her own marriage and her children instead of focusing so much on you and your life. You are the scape goat!!!! It sucks being there but know that alot of us in america are not stupid and know exactly what is going on with Tamara and her gang. Friends don’t act that way towards each other and Tamara is not nor will she ever be your friend. All she worries about is money, her looks and making herself look good. She is trailer trash. Lynne needs to wake up from her coma and realize her youngest daughter is a manipulative brat and her husband is an enabler. Love you Gretchen.
Okay…I’ve heard so much about the infamous “Blog” that I HAD to read it! My thing is…Gretchen, I see your purpose in feeling like you needed to vendicate yourself with this whole J matter. You’re on television and there are pressures to maintain a certain image. BUT! There’s always gonna be chics that ‘hate’ on you. Everyone knows that Tamra and Vicki are the mean girls…you and noone else can change them! Ignore her and soon she’s gonna start in on Alexis! LMAO!!! You’re good, girlie!!! Love & Blessings….
Hahaha… I LUV this blog! I have never really liked Tamra from the beginning when she first came on the show! She has always tried to compete with everyone and always has to pick on someone. I never thought she was the Hottest Housewife EVER!! I think all of you are GORGEOUS! I can see right though her act and I think Simon just may be on to something…. obviously he can’t trust her cause he’s caught her in lies (from that email).. and maybe he’s not so controlling as he is portrayed on the show. He’s always just tried to ask her to act respectable and classy. And her true colors keep leaking out… like trying to get you naked wasted, and constantly just making trashy comments.
I wish you the best of luck girl and many many blessings!
Hi honey, Just wanted to tell you that we(your TV audience)can see whats going on.We see each week how the drama is being played out. You are so delightful to watch, not only for your beauty, but we love to see you bring some life into that group.Keep being real, don’t worry about your boobs, your perfect just the way you are. As for Tamara, she is a prefect example of what you never want to be. Love you and so sorry you feel you have to defend yourself. No one should have to do that!
Dear Gretchen,
My thoughts and good wishes go out to you.
gods bless you and everything you do from now on. I feel you dont need to be on a tv show..
You need to go on with your own life instead of having everyone watch your every move . Media and Tabloids are terrible and ruin a persons life such as yours ..We know it cant be easy for you. and its a shame
You have many people that are fans and we stand by you..
keep your good spirits up.. Enjoy your life..
Thank you for letting your fans get to know you .
Your fan, Maureen
ohhh.. interesting… maybe you should take this off like tamra asked if you guys made up now..
i hope your being sarcastic. she has every right to clear up all the bs that was said about her. It’s already obvious on the show that Tamra’s a lying bitch… but you just proved to everyone who didn’t believe. i think you should keep this up until (if) tamra publicly apologizes to you and admits all of this. until then, if that ever happens.. you should keep this up
I don’t even know why you would want to “make up” with Tamra. People like her don’t change. She’s still going to keep lying and talking about you behind your back. She does it to Simon, she does it to Vicki, she does it to Alexis, she never stops trash-talking people. Just look at when you were all in Florida and Vicki explicitly said “Please don’t talk about me…don’t tell them I’m crying” and what does Tamra do? Gets in the limo and immediately tells them Vicki’s upset! And Simon is the same, he thinks he knows what’s best for everyone and constantly judges people and talks about them. Why can’t they just mind their own business?
The only reason Tamra wants you to take down the blog is to make herself look better. But even if you do decide to take down the blog I believe you will still come out on top because it’s easy to see how fake and awful Tamra is and how genuine you are just from the very small, edited view we get from the show.
I also want to say how I feel bad the way some people are saying you shouldn’t be with Slade. No one can judge a relationship unless they are in it (except in cases of abuse or something) but clearly that’s not the case here so I think people should just butt out!
Stay strong!
I remember when I first started watching the real houswives of orange county and everyone was saying that you where after Jeff’s money because he was old and dying. I knew that this wasn’t true when you were asked by Vicki who would take care of you if he died and you were like why would you ask him for money on his death bed, and you would go back to selling real estate. The whole thing with Tamra is her and SImon are having problems and she is taking the frustration out on anyone who doesn’t speak up too much. That would be you. The only thing I could say is keep your head up and forgive her because one day she will realize that everything that she put you throuhg was not worth it. I just wanted to let you know that I believed your blog and Tamra well she can just kick rocks….LOL
I just wanted to say that you are my FAVORITE chick on Housewives!! I never really liked Tamra and I applaude you for writing your blog and getting everything off your chest. Jeff was a great man from what I saw on the show and he looked so happy with you. It doesn’t matter what anyone says about your realtionship with him, you know the truth! You are a strong woman and you took amazing care of him. Everyone may hate on you but they are just jealous. I also thought it was very sweet that you took out Lynne’s daughter to talk to her. I wish I would of had someone like you growing up. Oh and Lynne just because Gretchen is not a mother doesn’t mean that she doesn’t understand what your daughter is going through. I think that Lynne has some personal issues she needs to work on. She always looks stoned and she is gettin her daughter a nose job for her birthday? What kind of message does that send? I think that you are pretty awesome to stand up to Tamara, someone needed to knock her snobby ass down. I want to thank you also because you are the only woman on the show to stay true to who you are and not change just because you have cameras following you around. Oh and you and Slade make a really awesome couple. Its nice that he helped you through all the bad times in the past year and you can tell he is super supportive and loves you. Good luck you two!! You deserve all the happiness and blessings in the world!!
Gretchen, So glad you got a chance to clear everything up! I think it will help you to move on & also to let people know what a conniving liar Tamra is. It’s too bad she spent somuch time trying to tear you down last season & now look, her marriage is over, her son is always messing up & she’s broke & lost her house! So glad you are happy & moving on. God Bless
Gretchen-
I hear you and understand fully. Problems like this or better put arguments always work themselves out. Good luck fixing the issue once and for all. Situations never chance but one’s perspective always does of the same situation.
You have a wonderful outlook on life, please don’t change!
You go girl..or as my blog is titled…GET IT GIRL. I knew you were telling the truth all along. Tamra is really sad. DAMN, why do we share the same name.
Gretchen~
You are a beautiful person! You are funny! You are loving !!!! And Green is just not Tamara’s color!!!! Can you say jealous???? You are my absolute favorite !!!!!!
hi gretch…you are the best! of ALL of the housewives shows you are my fave! don’t even get me started on the HW of Atl:(…alexis is great too! if it makes you feel any better, i live in a suburbian comminity north of the city, on a golf course with car pool moms and volunteer work everywhere and the drama between the women is no differnet from what you have going on! keep doing what you are and stay gorgeous honey!
Gretchen it’s so obvious to the viewers that Tamara is really jealous of you and has been since day one. You have continued to be kind and forgiving, and she continues to be the low class, slutty acting old woman that she’s always been. Everyone knows that you are so much prettier than her and it just eats her alive! So astute what Cheyenne said on Watch What Happens about her constantly bringing you up in everything thing she does, she’s pathetic. Also, I think Slade is great and you guys seem good together. He appears to care about you a lot & on a side note, his parents seem like great people too!
I’m SO happy for you & Slade. I’ve had a “thing” for Slade since season 1 and never liked the immature Jo period. I always wondered aloud how such a good man could be with a person like that. Don’t get me wrong, Jo seems genuine but it seemed like Slade would have been much, much happier with a down-to-earth girl whose top priority was life with a great catch, instead of attempting an irritating little girl voice and trying to get by with so-called cuteness. Bottom line…he should have been with someone like You and now he is! Woo!
It’s wonderful to see you & Slade so good & absolutely happy together. You go G! lol..
As far as Trailer Trash Tamra (T3)…you stay classy Rossi. Her true colors are slowly making themselves known with each episode and you continue to exude more class altogether than that bitch could hope to have in one acrylic pinky nail. ;p
You and I are the same age so shoot me an e-mail if you’re ever going to be in Nashville and want to see the city. Take care lady!
Tiffany
Stay true to yourself. I’ve been in the same situation with a “friend” who used lies, manipulation and the fact that I REFUSED to address her BS to try to smear my reputation. Its sick when people behave that way and you cant knock yourself for trusting them, when you have a good heart and try to give people the benefit of doubt and not judge, some snakes will take advantage of it. Its sad when people are so insecure that instead of working out their own issues so that they can feel better about themselves, they try to “destroy” someone who they so clearly perceive as a threat to them. Your confidence, great attitude, zest for life, intelligence and apparent beauty are clearly a threat to her. I live by a motto when I deal with my “haters”: I cant control how other people behave but I can control how I react to them. Stay strong, step over her and continue to do what youre doing. Its only when we move forward that all the dogs begin to growl and bark. You are obviously moving forward – Just be sure to carry pepper spray for the dogs and you’ll be fine. LOL! Luv ya!!!
Thanks for clearing up some of the confusion. Anyone who saw Tamra and Simon’s dinner party had to see how devious and mean Tamra can be. All the best in your future! I always thought Jo took Slade for granted. I hope that you two have found the real thing and have a great life together!
Love you Gretchen! You’re awesome and as we are seeing with Tamara, karma is a bitch. What goes around comes around. You keep being you. Santa Clara , CA loves you!!!!
Hi Gretchen,
Your blog was very well written and made a lot of sense. I have been in your position and have had to deal with women that start trouble such as this. I think this all started with a bit of jealousy towards you and then spiraled out of control.
Instead of Tamara taking the higher road, she chose the easy way out by continuing to lie to cover her other lies causing this snowball affect of BS. It seemed to me when she asked you to remove the blog, it was then obvious that the truth was here. Which is why I had to Google your site and read it!
I don’t think you wrote this to be a nasty bitch as she put it she left you no other choice! I would have done the same thing.
All the Best Girl!
Kelli
I think you are the best on the show, Tamra is just wanting more camera time! the more she can stir the pot the more they put the camera on her and that is what she wants.
you are taking the high road and more of a lady then Tamra!
Keep it up.
You are so cute! You’re beautiful, bubbly and have such a great outlook on life. I love watching the show because your enthusiasm and spunk always cheers me up. Don’t ever change!
Gretchen -
You are one of my idols and I know you know that Tamra is purposely bringing you down because she obviously has nothing better to do with herself. Get all your facts straight about her, gets some advice from a counselor, and present it to her as if an intervention. You, Tamra, and one of your closet’s friends who feel you pain should have lunch together. She feels she has more power and can say whatever she wants to say to you when you are alone. With your friend there (not Slade, she hates Slade) backing you up will show her that you are serious, you are sick, tired, are 110% done with her BS.
Gretchen, just wanted to say your hair looked great on Watch What Happens Live. You should wear it like that more often!
Tamara is nuts…You have been nothing but a fun and sweet person from the beginning and she has had something against you from the start!I think any person with a brain can see that! I feel bad that you have to keep taking crap over and over! But regardless you are still so quiet and try to let it blow over.It shows your character and the way you handle things makes Tamara look even worse because of the bad natured way she acts.And honestly I think she is jealous of you. I actually think you are the most “real” girl on the show. Many of the others seem to be all about gossip and bitchy, and well I dont think I have ever seen you act bitchy. So stay yourself and know that the smart people out there can see the truth! My friends and I watch the show together every Thur and you are our favorite Housewife!
Hey Gretchen! I love you
100%!! You are my favorite
On the show. You are so sweet
And caring, keep your big big
Heart safe from your
“frenimies” and keep making us
Smile and laugh when we watch
You!! Take care!!
Erika V
Girl, I hate to say I know how you feel because I have never met you or Tamra, but I have gone through the same thing recently with my best friend of 6 years. Tamra is obviously insecure about herself so she feels the need to be the “mean girl” to people she sees as a threat. You seem like a very sweet person that has made some bad choices and had some heartache but you are at the core a confident person. That scares Tamra. People like her can’t understand confidence so they try to tear it down to make themselves feel better.
Losing someone you love is not an easy thing to get over. I lost 5 people over 5 years and it took every ounce of strength I had to get through it. So I know the pain you had to go thru with losing Jeff. All I can say is make him proud. Thats how I live my life everyday and it is a day to day struggle.
As far as Lynne, she would rather be her daughters friend than mother. I truely believe you did the right thing by let her daughter know that if she ever needed to talk you were there. Lynne is clueless if she thinks you have to be a parent to understand a teenager or see that someone is reaching out for help. You will be a better parent because you have made the mistakes and learned from them. Hope this helps.
I have been watching since season 1 and I think you are the most genuine of all. Tamra is just a jealous bitch! I wish you and Slade the best of luck also. I never thought Jo was good enough for him, but you are! I’m so glad you found each other!!!!!!!
Gretchen was NOT on Season #1 so I’m not sure what you think you’re remembering???
Hey Gretchen!Saw you on WWHL tonight and you did look cute, but no more straight hair parted in the middle makes your face look so long! You have beautiful hair, keep the curls! Time to let go of that blog!My Mother used to tell me that you can protect yourself from everything but a liar, and to maintain dignity not to be involved and the truth will come out in the end.At this point everyone knows what tamra did, you’ve moved on in all other aspects so move on from this and don’t be involved anymore.Take down the blog and rise above it!
you rock…period the end:) Thinkin of jeff right along with you! Xoxo- Bonbon
Gretchen…I am the same way as you and feel the need to defend myself when I feel I am being wronged. STOP. Tamra is white trash…it’s all she will ever be. The more you defend yourself the more you validate her. I think her husband filing for divorce over his accusations pretty much sums up what Tamra is about. She is a gross and fake human being. Enjoy your life…don’t waste it defending yourself to trailer trash.
Side note- Is it just me or does Vicki look identically to Miss Piggy?
I itended to get notified for any follow-up comments. I really need to know if Im the only one that thinks Vicki and Miss Piggy may have been separated at birth!
Gretchen, not Tamra, not Vicki, not J or anyone can ever take away what you had with Jeff and his children. Stay focused on healing yourself and everything will eventually find its place. Yes it’s going to take time so don’t rush it. Be true to yourself and the peace will come. Doesn’t matter what anyone else says or thinks~~ Hugz
January 22, 2010 at 7:11 am | Reply
hey girly,
i love u to death i wish u lived in texas like me. we are so much alike you never know what will come out of my mouth for shock value as u. but we stand by what we say. i would love to party with u we would have sucha blast i am a lil older but still hot ) and a hoot , i like u could care .less what anyone things , we never try to hurt anyone its all for laffs. hope to hear back from ya heard your song it was great how can i get it.
firends
lyndsay
Gretchen, I believed your story from day one and just like everyone else I think Tamra is finally learning her lesson, instead of obsessing about your life she should have been taking care of HOME….oops, KARMA’S A BITCH AINT IT TAMRA!!!
http://www.absurdtosublime.net/?s=sex+and+single
Read this post and then ask me who is full of BS.
Real men are too busy to get involved in this type of banter. You’re in the same level of hierarchy as Tamara Barney.
Now that Simon is divorcing her she probably will be to busy looking for a job or another man to take care of her so hopefully the bitch will finally mind her own damn business!
Oh Gretchen I love you! This was a very well said blog! The snatch just wishes she was you! She lives here in Ladera and we like to call her “ghetto rich” hahaha the chick lives off credit and has filed for bankruptcy twice in a 12 year period. Sorry but to get a little more dirty look at occourts.org. Click in the online cases. you can see all of her civil suites and her family law suite with her husband as the petitioner. She is broke as a joke and her WHOE LIFE IS A FRONT! Just had to throw that out there but your a pretty classy lady so i don’t expect anything but a bunch of giggles from it. It’s too bad you have to go explain yourself but just know your South OC ladies love you : ) xo
Laderahottie, I just tried to go to the occourts.org, and I cant seem to find it. Can you post the link for me? Would love to read it!!
I just typed in what she wrote and it took me straight to the page…
oh i forgot to add in…SHE LIVES IN AN APARTMENT! hahahaha can’t be ballin that hard!
you live by tamara? is she as cheap a bitch as she comes off as being? throw some eggs at her for me!!! lmao
haha yes I do! I see her at CVS all the time. She always hides behind big ugly glasses. haha i could get real mean and talk sh*t about her white forever21 cheezy imitation juicy couture outfit…but she sees the tag every time she puts it on so no need to rub it in any further lol!!!
Hello to the best O.C Housewife… Her and Vicki were just so jealous of your beauty and how you carried yourself with the up most respect. When they did that to you at that dinner party I just thought was so immature.. She wonders why her son is heading down a road of being a BUM.. Look at how his mom acts telling him to get you when you are that drunk. That is just so disgusting to tell your son to take advantage of a drunk woman. She needs to look in the mirror and figure out who she is. Her husband can’t even let her go anywhere alone, now I know why? If she had any chance in the world to cheat, I totally think she would. She acts like she is someone that is on-top of the world but little does she know, she won’t get anywhere in life acting the way she does. After all you were dealing with having to take care of a man you loved dearly on his death bed has to be the most hardest thing anyone could do. You could tell by the way Jeff talked and looked at you, that you were the light of his life. I am sure was not a dumb person to let you use him, if that is what he thought you were doing. He loved you with all of his heart and he just wanted you to be happy. She really was sick to her stomach when that bike got delivered to you…lol.. Just cause Simon was her boss not her husband and would never do something like that PISSED THE OLD HAG OFF.. I don’t ever think you should forgive her for what she has done to you at such a hard time in your life. You are truly a wonderful, beautiful, and so full of life woman that I look up to you. I watch every show cause I love your personality. I wish I had someone like you in my life cause you are such a strong woman and always look so beautiful no matter what. When Tamara did what she did on the reuioun show I wanted to fly to where ever you girls were to just let her have it. I would love just to smack her in her mouth. She acts like she was perfect her whole life give me a break you had a child at a young age and struggled she can’t say that when simon came around she wasn’t thinking I can’t let him go I need some of his money… Cause we all know she didn’t come into the relationship with anything to offer but to lay on her back and take care of his kids..lol…I think it is so funny that all of the sudden when Simon is struggling she wants a divorce…UMMMM can we say money hungry…He probably can’t wait to get away from such a liar who made him look so stupid on TV. So with all that said you just make sure that whatever she says means nothing.. I love you so much and just keep being you don’t let her make you cry anymore just laugh at her. I would love to come out there to visit and give her a piece of my mind. I will just act like one of your long lost friends, she wouldn’t know what hit her. She is nobody… Well I am going to try to win the gretchenproject cause I am a mother of two wonderful boys that are 1 and 4, and they have wore me out and I would love to win that. Well have a Blessed Day and let her explain herself to the Devil when its her time..lol… You stay sweet and good luck with you and Slade.
People like Tamara who spend so much time and energy on trying to put other people down are just insecure about themselves. What goes around comes around. Keep your head up high Gretchen!
http://www.absurdtosublime.net/?s=sex+and+single
gretchen that sight has been taken down or something. can you tell us what it said? thanks
i can’t find the link. what does it say?
Pathetic…She(Tamra) is clearly obsessed and upset that you keep a blog up. If what Tamra says is true than why does she care. Jealousy, selfishness, or whatever it may be she is clearly always panicky and trying extremely hard not to be a hypocrit. She will get caught in her web of lies. I mean you can only spin for so long before it comes back to you. She is already hanging on by a thread….truly almost painful to watch…I don’t know how much longer I can watch if she is still on this show…I know that is probably not what you want to hear but Tamra is unbearable. It’s not even good drama it’s sad. I love the rest of the crew!
It’s sad that some people “go there” and take digs at Tamra’s outer appearance in an attempt to support you and agree she’s a nasty person based on her apparent need for attention and drama. However, a personality flaw with someone does not make them phsyically unattractive. You are being classy and mature by not trying to tear her apart in all ways, just stating the facts about her issues, but I’m saddened that others need to go there and be so judgemental in a new way. As if they’re reading your story and wanting to hate Tamra too for their OWN personal reasons, which can only be to take jealous digs at her appearance because they don’t have any experience with Tamra personally. Jeez, it’s like Alexis and Jim said, “Go by your experience with the person.” I agree, Tamra’s credibility is definitely questionable and she would be someone I’d stear clear of befriending or trusting but that doesn’t mean “Tamra is just disgusting, she has crows feet.” Grow up, peeps.
I do believe Tamra, like most women and probably ALL women for that matter (and some men), have a need for Drama in their lives. Some more extreme than others. Example: Why do we watch the RHOC anyway? If the show was based on ONE successful entrepenuer who was incredibly cocky (Vicki) then the show would lose ratings at a record pace. It’d be too boring for more than half of us. Another example: Why are we all here looking for the “other side of the story?” Because we’re interested in knowing what’s going on.. and why? It’s not our business… so we like drama, especially if it’s not OURS. The same way women like to listen to our friends talk about something going on in the personal life of someone they WORK with, whom we don’t even KNOW. It’s just interesting.
I believe Tamra was contributing to her own stress by being so obsessed with your blog. She mentions it all the time and even plugs where you can FIND IT. Surely, if she believes you are writing “lies” about her and you have a different perspective and belief, obviously so is everyone else who reads this. Why would you send people to see it? And you have some pretty good examples, it’s not like you just came out and said “Tamra’s this and that and the other thing, the end.” you’ve got a time line.
I do believe Age and Beauty are threats to other women. When you have the two together, it’s an almost obsessive combination. It can cause some to embark on a journey to find “dirt” of any kind on someone so that instead of being the “loveable, hot, new girl.” they’ll be known as the “toxic, flawed, drama queen” that everyone wants to avoid because they are so shredded inside. I think that is why Tamra clung to J. Whether or not J had any proof or credibility to back up whatever it was he claimed, Tamra obviously fed into it and continued to have conversations with him. I know people who, once they don’t like someone, you can put them in a room with someone they either don’t know, or someone they dislike a little less than their current “favorite person to hate” and they will be best friends by the end of the night with that ONE topic that they have in common. It’s sad, not to mention PATHETIC. A lot of the time, stories shared back and forth are hear say or just opinions. A lot of hear say stories are butchered like the game of telephone as well. And I’m sure we all know, the subject in telephone can be butchered from the originator to the first repeater. It’s pretty easy. So, J seemed to want to get in the good graces of Tamra to possible get his fame if he wasn’t going to get it from being your buddy, and she wanted to so desperately have some dirt on you, that she continued to feed into his crap. Just like you fell for her phony sincere apologies and pleas to “move forward”, she seemed to always fall for the opportunity to gossip.
Other people’s lives seem far more interesting when you’re unhappy with your own and/or have a TON of time on your hands.
I guess lesson learned for all that we always need to have our guard up. Whether we’re 16, 25, 30, 40 and so on… even in our 80′s we will probably still need to know which ladies in the nursing home lobby we can’t open up too and which ones we can. And some people have been at it for so long that we may believe they’re sincere and innocent and have a hard time convincing ourselves they’re the problem! But what doesn’t kill us only makes us stronger, right?
I think it’s good you got out what you had to and you shouldn’t have to put up with that stuff, especially since you don’t deserve it. Sure, people JUDGE…. but obviously, assuming makes an ASS out of U and ME… and you never know for sure until you ask. If I hated plastic surgery and thought you looked way too perfect and wanted to hate you for surgically altering yourself, what the hell? Especially if it comes out that you’ve never had anything done, like you haven’t… but I’m so caught up in my assumption that I don’t believe you? And if I really wanted to KNOW, I could just ASK right? Sure, things can look one way at first but before you KNOW for sure and become set in your opinion and feeling about it, I definitely think it’s good if it’s something you’re RULE your own opinion on and judge… you should definitely find out more and ask the person or people involved. I definitely think she should’ve stuck with what you told her. That way, in the end, if YOU lied, she could’ve just said, “That’s the last time I’ll ever trust Gretchen and SHE ruined my trust in her.. not someone else.”
I always say, the only person who knows the most truth about me, IS ME.
So, F it. Bottom line, Tamra seems bored or like she needs to quit real estate and join the government on Espionage projects… maybe she can teach “self sabotage” because she just destroyed her own credibility by directing everyone to read about herself to prove herself as an “honest” person. Haha, WEIRD.
Anyway, I think you’re gorgeous and I thought this show was kind of goofy until I saw that you joined. I was totally infatuated with how pretty you were, you know how you sometimes need to double take someone cause it’s like ART? That’s what it felt like, so I got hooked on watching since you seemed like the only normal one and you ARE a dork. I love it.
Love ya, Gretchen!
Ever since I started watching the show, I always thought of Tamra as a liar & a mean person. I’m so glad you cleared all that up & I know you’re going through tough times now but you’ve been keeping your head up & doing whats right. I think that you posting this blog just made it clear to everyone what type of person Tamra is. Its not easy to go what your going through now but I think that you’re taking things really well. I always liked you Gretchen & I always will because I don’t think your a liar or “victimizing” yourself as Tamra would say. I think you handled things very well actually :] & as for that, I also think your right that shes VERY contradicting. Shes said in the past that she didn’t care what you said or though of her right? So then why in season 5 when you guys went out to lunch did she say to please take the blog down? Totally contradicting. If she wasn’t the person she really is then why would she care what is said in this blog. Maybe because its showing her true colors & she obviously does care whats been said here. Stay keeping your head up Gretchen & doing the right thing. & as for this blog, don’t take it down! I think everyone should know how much of a BITCH she is :]
XOXO
Natalie
Gretchen~
It feels great to vent doesn’t it? I think it brings your own self closure and now you can get on with being happy without that camel (toe) on your back. lol..From the first moment I saw Tamra on t.v., I knew she was a slithering reptile in the grass. I didn’t like her attitude from day ONE! You’re a breath of fresh air on the show and you crack me up with all your Gretchen”isms”. I couldn’t imagine being bashed for lies within the public eye but truthfully, it’s only Tamra that looks bad. We all know you’re a good egg. Enjoy your time and let the envious,back stabbing,lying self absorbed Tamra enjoy divorce court!
Your soul is pure. You are an amazing person. My mom always told me that it doesn’t matter if you 16 in high school or 35 with kids and a husband…girls will ALWAYS treat you the same. Stay sweet Gretchen. xoxo.
Ever since Tamra has been on the show…she has always been a trouble maker. She has always caused trouble. I noticed that this season, Vickie has somewhat stayed farther away than she did last season. She found out that she is “trouble”. Tamra is very jealous of you and I believe that is why she has done the things that she has done to you. Stay strong and “fight back”. Your my favorite by far. Love you
OMG girl….I’ve been defending u since the beginning of this all….DO NOT take down your blog as Tamra requests. She spun her lies for months…leave the truth posted!!
~TEAM GRETCHEN~
Gretchen (Christine like me… Yay!!!), DO NOT remove your post detailing all of this. All last season I could see that Tamara just hated you. And it’s so sad to see that some people are so filled with jealousy, hate and evil that they’re not happy unless they are hurting others… and you are her choice. But I was in the same position with a neighbor. But since I was friends with all my other neighbors, and she was new on the block, she just had to hide her hatred for me even though she had already told me she couldn’t ever like me in our first conversation (which I thought went very well). I thought she was joking when she said it at the end of an hour long chat and I asked her to lunch. And she hit me with, “I don’t think so. I just don’t see us being friends.” I laughed and thought because we had such a good conversation that she was just being ironic. Yes, she may not be the most attractive person but that stuff doesn’t matter to me. I sensed that she was looking me up and down but I just thought it was a quirk. But she repeated her statement and walked away. I stood there wondering if it was just a joke. But she had no options but to be polite to me since she desperately wanted to be the center of attention with the neighbors. But soon after, I was diagnosed with Lupus. I was in and out of the hospital in critical condition for the next several years. The docs didn’t know if I’d survive it. It affected my teenage boys who are all very close to me. We have no family here and we had just moved to this city the year before I became ill. But what I didn’t know was while I was house bound for the next few years (and still am) this particular neighbor wasn’t satisfied enough that my family was dealing with such a terrible time. She told horrible lies to nieghbors for blocks away. Lies like, we sold drugs out of our house, that my boys were drug runners for me while I supplied the drugs. That I wasn’t really sick but was laying low in order to sell drugs. That we had no money (which we are just fine thank you!), and so much more. One day, her 1 yr old son and another neighbor boy who was only 4, walked up our deck which is on the 2nd story on high stairs. Her son fell and my 14 yr old son heard crying, went out there, helped the baby, carried him down the stairs and told the boys not to play on the our deck stairs because they’re dangerous. 5 mins later, our front door flew open and she barged into my house and attacked my son, accusing him for pushing her baby down our stairs. My son told her what happened and she still went off. Her 6’5″ – 250lb husband came over and grabbed my 5’9″ – 145lb – 14 yr old son by the shirt and reared back to punch him. My son just smiled and told him to go ahead and do it. To hit him. He knew if that man hit him, he’d be in jail for a long, long time. My husband had me at the docs. We left immediately. That incident was the final straw. I was tired of being woken up at 3 am by the police claiming that there was a noise complaint about music blasting from my house, and so many other bogus complaints. I finally had it. I decided that although I was sick, I needed to clear my name with the neighborhood. So I did. And when so many people who I didn’t even know learned that I have Lupus and that’s what we’ve been dealing with for years and that my neighbor knew I have Lupus and was spreading these horrible rumors, they turned on her. She moved within 6 months. And on top of it all, it turned out that she had been attempting to fool around with many of the neighbor’s husbands, that I wasn’t the only one she targeted but was the worst case and… she and her husband in the 2 years that they lived next door to us, were having marital problems and ended up in a divorce. So, DO NOT remove your post. If I hadn’t gotten out there… sick or not to tell my side of it and that we had done NOTHING to this woman… and I mean NOTHING to deserve that, I recieved so many apologies. I had one man who approached me in tears because he got sucked up into her stories and found it fun to talk about the vampires/drug dealers who lived next door to their friend. It’s one thing to take the high road and not care what people think but it’s another when it affects your children, your ability to just live in peace and our ability to cope with my disease. And I know in my heart that sadly, this woman will never change and will always need to attack people especially if they are jealous by your looks. And that is all it took for her with me.
So good for you! And thank you for telling your side. All I could hear coming out of Tamara’s mouth was poison. The expressions on her face were just pure hate. She needs to get her facelift fixed so she doesn’t look so chinese and fix those crows feet. And stop complaining when she goes to workout… she needs it. I don’t like being mean but…
And I’m sorry that Lynn acted the way she did. You totally called and told her exactly why you wanted to take Alexa out and didn’t do anything different. And for Lynn to act like she knew nothing about it when Alexa griped about your day with her, made my jaw drop!!! And now look at what’s going on… All Alexa keeps doing is crying about being depressed. Unfortunately, you got sucked into a teenager’s drama for attention. She’s playing games with her parents and what cracks me up is when Lynn claimed that she knows everything about Alexa and Alexa shares EVERYTHING with her. Good for Slade for setting her straight on that one. So now that their no discipline, underage drinking, no parents – just friends way or raising their girls is now coming back to slap them in their face, I think she owes you an apology. Especially with the mean things she said to you. That was so uncalled for and had nothing to do with being a “Mama Bear”. That was her not wanting Alexa to think that she gave you permission to talk to Alexa about her so-called-depression. They’re afraid of their own girls and don’t want them to ever be mad at them.
So you just keep on being you!!! You’re fun, you’re honest even when you make mistakes in your life. And I love it!!! Good for you!!!
All my best!
From one Christine to another.
Finally read “THE BLOG”. You should leave it on here. Tamra has proven, over and over, that she is not capable of putting things behind and moving forward. “THE BLOG” is killing her. The truth is here in black and white, and there’s nothing she can do about it. She is definitely a ‘frienemy’.
Don’t take it down. It was clear before that she was “spinning” the issue to suit herself. This only cements that. Even though see has been see-through with her intentions, she needs to be called on it. Good job. Don’t take your post down.
Gretchen, Seriously hun, you need to let this go and grow up!!! your not in high school and reading this whole thing made my head hurt, I mean are you serious???? You seriously sound like a nut and its obvious that your taking this whole thing to extremes!!! Let it go already! I wasnt bothered by you last season, I had my doubts, but now this season, I seriously have no respect for you!!! This blog is ridiculous and the content is garbage!!! No wonder Bravo took it off their site, now your making an ass out of yourself by reposting it months later!!! OMG you have seriously lost it girl!
Tamra???? Is it you??? It sure sounds like the way you talk…the whole “seriously” thing gives it away. You say it over and over whenever your flustered.
LOL Mia (or whoever)maybe your not intelligent enough to understand the depth of Tamra’s lies and jealousy! When I’m not hating Tamra, I’m feeling sorry for her, because she obviously has allot of deep seated anger and hurt that she passes on to those around her.
Gretchen…you go girl!! Your gorgeous, inside and out.
That’s what I keep saying! She is posting comments all over this site using other names! For real!
Wrong! Everyone who has an opinion doesn’t necessarily agree with Gretchen’s side of these issues nor how she’s chosen to address them here on her blog. Continuing to be accusatory of others when they happen to disagree with you or Gretchen is actually the most childish reaction. That’s one of the main characteristics about Gretchen (and Alexis) that is the least likable. How old are some of you that keep making this outlandish claim?
Yep, sounds just LIKE Tamra! Gretchen, KEEP THE BLOG UP! — I’d never have seen it if Tamra hadn’t mentioned it! tee hee!
Yeah, seriously Tamra. No need to get angry. Gretchen should defend herself. She has nothing to hide and she has no reason to put up with your BS. Quit blogging this crap on here.
I was just watching this week’s episode of Tamra saying you were saying awful untrue things about her. She is crazy! She needs to leave you alone and worry about her life. You should keep this blog for as long as it take her to apologize for being awful to you. I love that you are the most real housewife in the cast! You go Gretchen!
Gretchen your a blast. I have to laugh about Tamra always saying that you play the victim, but she’s the one always crying about her marriage, no money etc.Yes the truth will set you free, and Karma will kick your butt.
Jeanna and now you are my favorite housewives because you are nice to people.
Been there, done that and got the Tshirt.
Kate
Hi Gretchen,
You are such a breath of fresh air from the other housewives. You seem really genuine. So you’re not a saint, but who is right? But from what I see, you don’t look for trouble, you don’t find satisfaction in belittling or embarassing others and that is what makes you the most beautiful housewife.
Your personality is what makes you beautiful and that’s something Tamara can’t buy and that’s probably what eats her alive. I just hope she doesn’t change your bubbly TX personality. It’s really sad when people take advantage of and exploit peoples niceness.
Stay beautiful and I hope to meet you one day sunshine!
TEAM GRETCHEN!!!!!
I love u so much Gretchen, u are by far my favorite housewife. I was on the fence last season,but i really see u are a genuine person….it shows, and now that i read ur blog…….I think Tamara has alot of nerve, she needs to work on her own life and stay out of yours!!!! I love ur sense of humor, and u have this “free-spirit” that i really love.
I truly wish u well in ALL u do…. God Bless!!!
Wow!! what a blog! Tamra thinks shes hot shit, but shes not! I think some of these women are just simply way too much. You are just about the most down to earth on the show. Vicki, is such a bitch. She shouldnt be proud of the way she conducts her life. She measures success by her material things, and dosent treat people very nicely. Lynne is nice but , can we say CLUELESS!!!!! her and that husband of hers seriously cant raise kids. They said “where did we go wrong?” LOL. Well , you didnt parent dummies!!! And Im sorry but the new girl and her husband! Well, I think we still have some more that hasnt come out yet. He seems a little off. Nothing is as good as it seems.
Gretchen,
I don’t normally comment on celebrity blogs ’cause who am I to say I know anything of what is really going on but after reading your post I had to. I won’t say anything mean about Tamra because I only know from what I see on TV and of course it’s extremely edited.
All I want to say is that I started watching RHoOC because I lived in the area and it looked like a cute show. But now it’s turned into what looks like grown ups going through high school fueds again. The drama’s there because it makes good TV but it sucks that someone that seems as nice as you would have to be pulled into it. Hopefully things will resolve themselves for the best for each of you.
And btw, even with whatever reputation the other girls have for Slade, you guys seem really happy and you deserve that after going through such a profound loss.
Keep strong and lead by example. Kill her with kindness!
Gretchen, I am glad you’ve had this blog/outlet to get the true side of this drama Tamera has created out in the open. Why do you think Tamara wants you to remove this from your blog so bad? (because you state fact, Tamara spews hot air!).
Trust me, Tamara is as transparent as they come. Since you joined the cast & the first “issue” she took with you, I knew it was seeded with jealousy and nothing more. People like Tamara, look at gorgeous women like you, then find any reason not to like them and create stories that shed them in a less than perfect light, this is her M.O. Tamara will never admit it, but she is threatened & sickly jealous of you. And I say people like that, you brush them off your shoulders, keep moving!..
Tamra is just a bitter old washed up hag. Even her husband knows…after all he is leaving her. She is horrible and such trash. She talks trash about everyone else because she knows she is trash so it’s her way of making herself look better to others.
As for Alexis (the new housewife) she seemed to go overboard on the new episode. Even if that woman was doing as she claimed (I didn’t see this during the episode) then I feel she should have gotten on her husband’s case too becuase it did look like he was enjoying watching them fight over it all. This leads me to wonder if he did or said something that might have given the woman another idea and left that out to Alexis.
Lynne needs to pull her head out of her ass. Her own daughter even says they should be grounding her. She admits she has no respect for her parents and doesn’t take them seriouslly becasue they do not lay down the law with her. Her daughter is a spoiled rotten brat (and that’s the pg way of putting it). What were they thinking giving their daughter a bmw and a nose job for her brithday. Statistics say most kids her age crash their first car within the first 6 months. Not only that but giving her something like that is not teaching her the value of money and she will always expect bigger and better things from them as well as others. As for the nose job peer pressure may be really hard with teenagers but this only teaches her that nothing then perfection will be excepted and that this way of thinking is ok. If her daughter doesn’t already have an eatting disorder I would say it’s just a matter of time. You are right that having a kid doesn’t make you a good parent. Both Lynne and her husband have failed at parenthood. Slade was right when he said no teenage girl tells her parents everything. I sure as hell didn’t and I was actually a pretty good kid even though I made some mistakes too (at least I learned from them but I had much much better parents). Every kid screws up and is pressured into doing something they shouldn’t by their peers. Lynne is fooling her self thinking her daughter is any different. She admits to parting and said on camera she needed a drink and she was only 16. She obviouslly has a drinking problem already.
Vicki is a back stabber and you can tell by comments made on the show.
Sorry for your loss Gretchen. In time Tamra will be exposed for the trash she is. Anyone with half a brain can see those other women for what they are. Gretchen keep your head up. Like the old saying goes “misery loves company”. You are the only one left on the show that makes it worth watching (can’t say much on Jeana because I watched very little episodes she was on). The rest of the women make me want to change the channel and sometimes (I am probably being modest with saying sometimes) I do as a result.
Almost forgot…
Gretchen you seem like you would be a better parent then Lynne. You seem to remember what it was like to be a teenager which is good to keep in mind when raising kids. This is something that seems to be lost on Lynne. As for how Tamra and others have talked trash about you and slade I say the need to put up or shut up. I hear some of them talk about that they have heard “rumors” of slade and his kids/child support or the call from your so call boyfriend. They don’t show proof because they can’t prove it. If someone makes a claim but can’t back it up with proof then they all need to shut their damn traps.
Hey Gretchen, I have been watching the show for awhile now, and I do believe that Tamera is just plain jealous of you and any happiness that you are having. She has cheated on her husband, put him down, and now she is getting what she deserved. My daughter’s and I were watching the show last night (aired on Bravo) and Tamera and Alexis was at the tennis court and Tamera told Alexis that you had called her a bitch and all kinds of other nasty names on your blog, so my daughter says hey let’s take a look to see if she is lying and GUESS WHAT…….SHE WAS, I have not read where YOU called her any nasty names, so now I know for 100% that you are telling the truth…..Just keep you head up, some people just can’t handle being drama free, they have to have that drama (like Tamera)…….:)
I agree with you i thought the blog was in good taste and Gretchen is consistent as well…I really did not like what
Tamra did last season when she wanted to make a fool of Gretchen, I was less than thrilled with Vicki too..but this season Vicki seems to be getting her priorities straight especially with her sweet Don!
I think Gretchen is super sweet and Tamra just needs to find her way…unfortunate Tamra’s situation.I support Gretchen 100%with her new endeavors and think she should clean up any past image and move forward she is a doll!
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Gretchen, there is still one question remaining. Whose name is tattooed on your finger? If it is Jay’s name, this indicates to me, by which finger it was, that there are some things that you are not revealing about your relationship with him. No one really addresses this question. I’m hoping you will share this with us. Thanks!
Hi Diane, it says Jeffery, not J. I allowed cameras to film it. I hope they choose to air it..
so sweet.
I don’t know what else to say, because so many people before me have already said it. Gretchen – we (the viewers) know/knew from the get-go that you are as real as one can get! I’ve been Team Gretchen since day one and have always thought it was so immature of Tamara (and back then, Vicki) to act so hateful towards you.
I’m so glad I read your blog but I already knew that everything out of Tamara’s mouth was a lie. The one episode from last season that sticks out in my mind, doesn’t even involve you really. It was the episode where Tamara and Simon were moving workout equipment downstairs from their upstairs and the whole entire time, their little girl is in her bedroom screaming and crying and Tamara just keeps yelling at her “SHUT UP, MOMMY IS BUSY RIGHT NOW!!!” over and over again..I kept thinking wow…if that doesn’t reveal her true colors, I don’t know what does. I’m a single mom of 3 teenagers and even in my darkest, most stressful hours alone with them (when they were little and even now, haha) I’ve NEVER shouted at them to “SHUT UP” that is just not right.
I have felt so much compassion and adoration for everything you went through with Jeff when he was sick and I was all the time defending you to people on Yahoo! Answers and other forums that there is no way that a person could endure what you did for the reasons of just fame and fortune. Anyone that could think that you were with him only for anything other than genuine love, well they’re crazy! A person does not subject themselves to illness, hospital stays, doctor visits etc for as long as you did if you were only in it for the money. I believe that your love for Jeff was true and complete and I have to give a shout out to Slade for understanding that Jeff will forever have a place in your heart.
Please don’t take your blog down. You have every right to defend yourself in all this and I applaud you for being so forthright and honest about everything. This is something that Tamara will never be able to claim b/c all the world now knows she can’t tell the truth to save her life.
Also….I applaud your efforts in trying to be there for Alexa and its obvious that Lynne and Frank are just not understanding your intentions. I like Lynne but I have to agree with what appears to be your comments to her in the upcoming episode of TRHoOC next week…just b/c a woman can have a baby, that doesn’t make them good parentals! Seriously! Alexa is walking all over them and she does need guidance that she clearly isn’t getting from Lynne and Frank and your offer of just being someone she can talk to was very generous of you and I wish more people would take the initiative that you did. As they say…it takes a village!
Keep on keeping on Gretchen…you’re doing just fine!
Good 4 U Gretchen!!!
Keep on being your true self …. Someone who is a true beauty, someone who makes others laugh. Thanks for the entertainment. U r a very good example of a strong woman!!
Gretchen – you need to let it go. Completely. You are bogging yourself down with all of this. Wipe the slate clean (wipe the blog clean). You keep the drama going by maintaining this blog. What’s the point? What’s done is done. Move on.
It’s obvious from the show that Tamra was out to get you from day one. Before you came along, she was the pretty one.
Tamra Barney is an extremely unhappy woman who chooses to viciously attack you on a continual basis, rather than face the fact that she has a great many issues she needs to deal with. That is what a coward does. Tamra Barney is the biggest coward I have ever seen.
Come on Tamra, when are you going to grow up and stop making a fool of yourself? Even if Gretchen was the worst person on earth, don’t you realize that by going on and on about how bad she is, you make a complete arse of yourself? Why does it even bother you? It’s time to take care of your own life – in other words – Let it go!!!!!!!! You will find that when you take all of that anger and wasted energy, and apply it toward your own happiness, your world will completely change for the better. You are so beautiful and have so much going for you, but the hatred is making you look so ugly and so infantile. It doesn’t help that Vicki continues to fuel the fire and then walks away laughing as she watches you look like the idiot!
Gretchen: Continue to hold your own – you go girl!
Carole Babb
I am so proud to see such a young woman stand her ground and not back down from someone so horrible of a person. It seems her insecurities and her downhill life has taken a toll on her and who else, but the pretty firl to pick on, because shes not that anymore. Her husband is a mean person to her and controling and shes sees the true love Slade and you have, that it is truly genuine. I had a friend I trusted with a deep secret that happened to me as a child something that was horrifying and I would not wish on anyone, but she ran into money and the kinda life she envied that I had made for myself. We started having mutual friends and she did the same thing to me, but completely flipped it around to make me this horrible person and out of all my friends I was lucky enough to have a few still stand bye me, but I did not have your backbone. you have given me that courage and strength, knowing that no matter what I can stand my ground regardless of what I have been through and love who I love. just having the ability to look at what you have been through and know in my heart I can make it regardless of what I have or am going through. I can now pick myself backup.
As the loss I dated an older man (I am 27 years old) and was judged every second over this and that and like you there was people who were just like Tamra. He passed away it wasn’t about money it was about love bottom line. The people who truly knew us knew that and no matter what knew it really was love, just like Jeana knew with you and Jeff ( my biggest sympathys to you and his family). I loved him and trust me I can feel your pain deeply you have the good and bad days, but i can see the happiness in your eyes when you look at Slade. Thank the Lord for him everyday.
You just have been an inspiration to me and I want to truly thank you for that.
One last thing, Tamra is a jealous person, like at Lynnes cuff party her and Vicki were away from you, Jeana, and Lynne and Tamra’s words quote ” God shes so beautiful it makes me sick “. That tells who and what her motives are your past is your past and make your future the best as you can. Thats what you’ve showed me and love Slade everyday as if it were your alls last!!!! Good luck and God Bless
Slade Tamra is full of B.S.!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 100%.
It me Gretchen, but yes she is . Thanks for posting. xoxo
Is all the OC wives turning against you because of Tamra. Even Lynn?
Please PLEASE post a scan of that Email from Simon – just line out some of the email addresses so we know who was copied yet cant see their actual addresses. Once you publish that email – this will all go away quickly.
They posted it at another website. Click the link in my other post “Truth be Told”
I don’t get this -
1.)Simon doesn’t like Tamra to travel without him.
2.)she lied to him so he would go to Vegas to be with her, which is what he wanted.
3.) He decides to copy you all on this. Dude is nuts.
4.)Someone decided to post this personal message online (like posting personal photos) Only 4 people were sent this message so who released it to the hounds?
And HOW SAD that she felt that she had to lie for her husband to come see her.
What was the BIG LIE?
Are Jay and Simon really Vegas drinking buddies now? SAD
When someone goes with the “cool group” they are riding on their coat tale. Not their own, this is what has been obvious for so long about Tamra. You don’t need to explain or return an answer to her “stories”. No one really cares what she says or does. This is now evident with Simon filing for divorce. Who will be her friend now when she has no place or status? Vicki? Her track record from her own mouth was to let the “losers” go, she didn’t have time for them. This was about Jenna, remember. When she was having financial problems, Vicki let her go. As she will with Tamra. Wait and see karma is waiting just around the corner for Tamra, she needs to come clean with herself first then others.
I’ve enjoyed reading your blogs and I must admit I’ve never done anything like this (writing on or about a blog) I do enjoy watching the show. I simply love your humor and attitude! Ride that Harley girl!
Why does Tamra want you to take down your web site? Because you speak the truth. The only one talking bad about Tamra is Tamra. she is a big fat liar. The only way you can be thin is to not eat. Well that only last for a short time and when you start back to eat, you will get fat tamra. Isn’t it interesting how Tamra seemed to have the good life and Vicky has marital problems. Well the wheel has turned and Tamra is at her little 2 bedroom apartment alone and Vicky and Donn are happier than ever. I believe that it is Tamra that is the person who always stirs the pot. Vicky is better off without her. I wouldn’t even give Tamra a second thought. She is a jealous bitter person.
Maggie Says:
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I itended to get notified for any follow-up comments. I really need to know if Im the only one that thinks Vicki and Miss Piggy may have been separated at birth!
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Hey Maggie I’m with you !!
Gretchen
Just forget about all those pathetic women that choose to lie and hate on you. You are a beautiful, strong women that doesn’t have time to deal with their childish behavier. Just live your life the way you want and never say your sorry for making the choices you’ve made. I watch the show just to see your amazing life. You and Slade are a great couple and I love that he always stands up for you. He’s a keeper!! Always smile and just keep being yourself…because your amazing. I wish I had your life. Love, Karen
Just love you!! I think the only way this fight will end is if you bring out your big guns (e-mails & stuff) and just shut her down. She will never stop and she lies so much. Even in her marriage she says she didn’t cheat but Simon says she had over 100 texts from an ex(she didn’t deny). Shut her down. You have been more than generous with her. I hope you have found love again, sometimes it just shows up when your not looking. Maybe you should start a mentoring program for teens, seems like it would be such a good fit for you. I have 3 grown daughters 18-26 and have loved that my friends and family were available for them. All teenagers ONLY tell their parents what they want to hear. We can’t be blind or arrogant about it. Wishing you happiness…….A Michigan Housewife
Hey Girl ! My daughter (14 yrs old) & I LOVE LOVE LOVE you !!!! We have watched RHOC since the very 1st episode. We look forward to each new season & each new episode. Even as a very sweet (and inncocent!) 14-yr old, she sees Tamra for the green-eyed monster she is. We also cannot believe how Lynne & her husband “parent” their girls! BMWs for birthdays? Nose jobs when in such deep debt ? (Not to mention what kind of message this sends!) Allowing & dismissing alcohol consumption before legal age? We both agree that you were very clear to Lynne of your intentions when you spoke about getting together with Alexa. Honestly, Lynne seems either high or suffering from some sort of dementia. I guess Alexa just thought “Cool,someone is going to take me shopping and buy me whatever I want”! It was clear that you were offering friendship & support rather than goodies (afterall, she deserves goodies, right?) she turned on you… it was nothing short of a temper tantrum! Alexa seemed so annoyed that this was not “Buy Alexa whatever she wants” Day, that she was going to throw you under the bus. BRAT! Well, no sooner did Lynne say that Alexa “tells her everything” did Alexa made her step in it… and deep! We agreed 100% with you— Parents need to be PARENTS, NOT friends! Kids have enough friends, they only have TWO parents. Guess they haven’t taken the time to stop & think about how it has been working for them–IT’S NOT! Back to Tamra. What can anyone say about her? It is so obvious she jealous of you that she could spit. A comment 3 or 4 back (@93-93) wondered how Tamra’s behaviour could make her ugly… well, it’s easy. There’s an old saying: “Pretty is as pretty does”. And everything she does is UGLY ! As a PSYC major, you are familiar with the term “PROJECTING”. Well, everything Tamra hates and suspects of herself, she is “projecting” (or ‘attributing’) to you. If she knows she is a liar, she calls you a lair. That simple. I can totally understand why she would feel threatened by you, you are gorgeous! I know that I’d feel like a toad next to you too. But, as a grown up, mature & hopefully well-adjusted woman, I realize that my looks (and yours!) are not the total sum of my being. I KNOW that I have more to offer than appearance- as do you! Tamra (sadly at her age, what 42 ?) has not come to that realization. It only comes from a sense of self-esteem, confidence, generosity of spirit and personal accomplishment. Accomplishment does not come from the ability to buy $1500 shoes, marrying a wealthy man, face lfts, Rolex watches or living in Coto. It comes from what a person contributes to the people around them. Gretchen, your spirit of kindness, love & generosity is there. Should you become horribly disfigured tomorrow, you will still be beautiful. I hope Tamra learns this, and soon. She has two small daughters for whom she is a role-model. Her sons would benefit from a well-adjusted mother also. Perhaps this is why her son, Ryan, is struggling so much. I don’t think he knows what it means to be an accomplished HUMAN-BEING. He’s all over the place & cannot find his bearings— no father in the picture and no mother to model self worth. OK, so I’ve said my peace! Blessings to you, and hang in there… we love you!
I had the biggest laugh when I heard and read the copy of the divorce compliant on line. Tamra is such a joke. Well the jokes on her now. She is a housewife…. but will not be living up to the show when SImon leaves pay backs a bitch. You keep up what you are doing with the song and for Jeff’s name. Can’t wait for the makeup line to come out i’m a sucker for new products
Well Gretchen,when people are miserable in their own life,they want others to be also.It makes them feel better by tearing down others.Its sad but true. You know what really happened and you dont have to explain to anyone.Follow your heart and move on.What goes around comes around and look,Tamra is divorcing..hmmmm go figure…take care,be happy and be yourself always…
You REALLY need to take that off and move on Gretchen. People like you and will even more if you “woman up” and not be so petty now. It is time to do the right thing and move on to another drama story. K? No one even cares any more about your guys fight. Just be classy and stay on the right level of the playing field and be mature. Not sure I like the song but good job in trying.
If no one cares, then why are you posting?
Gretchen – Stay true and you will always come out on top and above the rest. Please do not ever remove the blog for Tamra when she asks…….and she will keep asking because the truth is killing her! Everyone that does not yet know the details will want to read it at some point and it needs to be available. You are the best! (We are from Northville, MI, come back and see us sometime!)
OMG! Tamra has the balls to say you and J were having an affair or together when she is married and texting her ex-boyfriend? Holy Moly! If that isnt the pot calling the kettle black…Tamra is such a joke and a sorry excuse for a person.
Why is my previous comment still awaiting moderation?
Tamra is an aging, insecure woman who is obviously looking for camera time. She has found a niche as being the bitchiest OC housewife (trumping Vickie now, who apparently watched the show and realized how horrible she came across….she has been doing a good job at damage control this season! Tamra needs a lesson…) Hold your head high, girl – you’re the most real of all the OC ‘housewives’! Being an OC housewife myself, I enjoy watching the show. Keep your spirits high and a smile on your face.
Gretchen, anyone who is a fan of the show can see how crystal clear it is that Vickie & Tamra absolutely hate you!!! I personally think that it’s a jelousy issue. Tamra for starters, is super insecure and she is hot but I don’t she has enough self confidence. You on the other hand are pretty and obviously super confident and I think that just efen pisses her off. YOU ROCK GIRL!!!
First off I just wanted to tell you that I admire your strength. I watched in the last episode the pressure you are facing to take the blog down and I say DON’T. Tamara is using your problems to direct the attention off her own troubles with her marriage and finances. I really felt that some of her comments last season were harsh. She basically told you that you were a horrible person for going away while Jeff was in the hospital and I am telling you I am currently going thru the same thing. My father-n-law is in and out of the hospital and sitting there day after day hour after hour and make you crazy. Well I could go on and on but I will tell you what my mom tells me all the time. When people gossip just “consider the source”… Handle everything thing with class and never forget that you are a lady (even ladies know how to kick there heals off every once in a while)..
Gretchen,
No worries, we all love you and believe in you. Besides Tamara is getting what she deserves (DIVORCED) proves to me that someone has been lying to her hubby.
I think Vicki is an evil control freak and is a bad influence on Tamra. Anyway, speaking of the dinner party, who the hell would pimp out their own son to someone whom she contrived to get “naked wasted”? White trash, that’s who.
I think that Vicki is an evil control freak and is a bad influence on Tamra. Speaking of the dinner party, who would pimp out their own son to someone whom they contrived to get “naked wasted”? White Trash, that’s who.
Gretchen! I am a huge fan of the show and I am so sorry that you are having to go through this situation. I think jealousy is the root of all evil and jealousy has bit Tamra in the ass!
Well I noticed on Bravo’s web site is says Baylor University is in Dallas, TX. As a Baylor alumni myself that should read Waco, TX. Tell them to fix it! We went to a great university and the location should be know. Take care!
Hi Gretchen,
I am so sorry that J, someone you thought was your friend let you down. It really hurts and no one should have to go through that. I would love to be friends with someone like you. Don’t let Tamra get you down. She is jealous of your youth. I saw through her lies the entire season. She is the meanest woman I have ever witnessed in my life. Haters come a dime a dozen. Keep on doing your thing girl. You are beautiful, kind and fun! I would love to be friends with someone like you.
Amanda
Perhaps this J is the one, she was having an affair with, that Simon declares in the Divorce papers.
Interesting how someone can get wrapped up in themselves, and when they start to unravel, everyone in the line of fire gets shot.
Tamra, should seek help with her problem.
Taking sides would be stupid at this point. We are not around either of you, but it does seem that there is truth, if Simon her husband feels he can no longer trust her.
I feel sorry for her younger children. I believe Ryan has learned from his mother and their fate is the same.
Good luck
Is THIS the blog that Tamara keeps going on and on about?? There’s nothing in it that she should have a problem about, except that it calls her out as being untruthful & a sad excuse for a person. Really now!! Tamara needs to get over herself!! She’s a joke and Gretchen…don’t worry, you have wonderful karma and it’s obvious she does not!!
And honestly, if Tamra really had a problem with this blog, why does she insist on shooting her mouth off about it when the cameras are rolling. I mean, I wouldn’t have even known about this blog or it’s supposed “trash talk” unless she brought it up. TWICE!!!! ON CAMERA!!!!
I just wanted to say first off that you have alot of friends here in South Dakota!!! Second that we r sorry for your lose. but keep your head up Tamra will get what she has coming cause KARMA IS A BITCH!!!!! your big fan Jaime in south dakota
Tamara has always felt threatened by you!! She thought she was the “hottest” housewife, until you(much better looking) came along,and took her spotlight. She is a miserable person!! Stay with the show!! You are loved
You appear to be a positive, fun person who would not deliberately hurt anyone. Don’t stoop to her level. I knew girls like her when I was in “High School” She is out to start TROUBLE. I admire your courage to face down the other housewifes as well. Yeah!!
You are pure of heart. Stay true to yourself.
Soon this will be over and Tamra will find someone else to talk about and trash! You never know what may happen, If Tamra & Simon Get Divorced, She might just go after J…(LoL) All those times she claimed to have these late night talks with him she was probably having more than that! Maybe thats why they are getting a divorce..Ha Ha Ha.. They were just using you as an excuse to talk! Well anyways you are doing the right thing by taking the high road and as others have said SHE IS JUST JEALOUS! She is hating on you because you are everything she is not,she doesn’t hold a candle to you and she knows that.You are so much better than her and all the drama that follows her around!!!
Gretchen,
I recently had to break away from someone I thought was my friend. It totally brings you down and you have to decide what is best for you. It’s strange how I can relate to people on a tv show that I watch. You are a sweet person and it’s none of anyones business what you do…Just remember they aren’t paying your bills!!!LOL
Lora
You are a sweet person
LOVE LOVE LOVE you Gretchen! Ignore Tamra…she is just sad. Lynne is scary ignorant and you did try to be a friend to the brat child…nothing more. Take care of you and be well!
I had to t-vo the last episode and just watched it. Lynne and her hubby’s lack of discipline is sad. They truly just don’t know how to step out of the “friend” mode with Alexis. They really have NO idea what it means to “parent” their teenager. Kids CRAVE boundaries, they need them, this is textbook stuff. Unfortunately, it is too late to change now. But they can work on developing a new relationship with their daughters that at least encourages showing them respect. They need Dr. Phil!!!!!!
Gretchen,
I am just now reading this blog that Tamra keeps asking you to remove. Don’t you dare, you have set the record straight and now it is on her.
She is such a liar, and I am so thankful that Simon has finally removed himself from her. I hate it for the children, but in the long run they will be better off, if they are w/Simon most of the time.. She is such low class… as Jenna has reminded you several times… and your mother as well and Slade…
You have more class than she could ever think of having. You are a very classy lady and alot to be proud of.
You were a very good to Jeff and I am sure he is looking down at you and smiling as he can see how you are moving on with your life. I can’t even imagine how you had to deal with seeing him go down each day, it takes a very strong person to beable to do that, so that shows you how strong you are.
Good luck w/Slade, he is a funny guy. From watching you two, you make a wonderful couple.
I do hope that you and Jenna are still friends and keeping in touch. My opinion, you two are the two truest people on the show. To bad she wanted to move on from the show, but glad to know you are still on there. I do hope she is doing well with her life and family.
You are a very real and beautiful lady and w/much class, that is the reason for Tamra’s behavior. She is so jealous of you, and Vicki is jealous as well. They want what you have, original/natural beauty, but they don’t… so whatever you are doing, keep it up girlfriend.
Alexis is a sweet and pretty lady too. She seems like she is real too, when it comes to friendship….
Stay away from Lynn, she is turning into Tamra, and speaking ugly about you behind your back.
Will close, but hang tough as you are.
Good luck to you and Slade as well…. you two make such a nice couple.
Advid viewer from Charlotte, North Carolina
Love you Gretchen!! Sometimes jealousy rears it’s ugly head. I believe that is where ALL this stems from. Love you girl!!
Gretchen,
I do admit that Tamara is jealous of you, it clearly shows. I know you mean well and you are a kind person. BUT, the only thing that is keeping me from believing you 100% is that you do have a tatoo of “J” on your left hand ring finger. I just find it hard to believe that someone will get a tatoo of a “dear friend” on their ring finger, and to loan them 18,000. I sure the heck wouldnt UNLESS there was some intimate feelings towards them. I understand your frustrations of being defamed, but sometimes…you create your own problems. The best way to clean it up is to admit to your wrong doings, accept them and move on. Bless your heart…wish you the best.
Is it possible that Gretchen’s tatoo of the letter “J” on her ring finger (usually associated with marriage) could be a tribute to her late fiance, and not to a devious bastard. Might I remind you that “J” is also the first letter in the name Jeff and that they were engaged and the tatoo is where her wedding ring would have been. Just a thought.
could the “j” on her finger stand for JEFF? just askin’
It actually says Jeffery. There are pictures of my ring sliding forward and when they blew up the picture, you see the “J”, the round top of the “e” and the top of the two “f”‘s. That is why they try and claim it says “Jay” I removed my ring this year and allowed the crew to film my finger up close so they could clearly see “Jeffery”. Lets hope they allow that to be aired. Thanks for asking.
You know, as far as I can tell Gretchen has yet to be “caught” telling any lies so why are people still insinuating? (The “J” tatoo! Come on, what’s next?) I can’t imagine living life under a microscope.
Seems clear from her blog (though lengthy & kind of high schoolish but I get it) that she’s avoiding personal attacks on Tamra and merely clearing up accusations & pointing out inconsistencies.
I suspect that with the demise of Tamra & Simon’s marriage the attention will shift away from this feud and the dust will settle, allowing Gretchen the opportunity to take this blog down because she will eventually feel vindicated.
Gretchen,
Thanks for clearing this up. I believe you now. I guess I was one of the one that fell for all those gossip on the internet…sorry
It really does not matter wether or not you and Jay had a relationship…past is the past, and what counts is today and tomorrow.
No matter how nice you are to people, there is always someone that will hate you for no reason other than jealousy/envy. The BEST thing you can do is to kill them with kindness. Sometimes that is so difficult, especially if they keep bashing you behind your back. Of course you have to stick up for yourself and defend yourself, but killing them with kindness, will make them miserable even more. That is the only revenge that WORKS. All you can hope for is for them to wake up and smell the coffee….and realize their actions is out of envy. They may wake up, or not…but you had nothing to lose.
The most important thing is that you to know the truth and the people that love you know the truth! The others can SUCK IT! Best wishes!!
Wow, I new she hated you from the begining but wow what a waste of time. She is absolutely obsessed with you jajaja. Well I’m glad that you have the courage to continue forward and just like she said in one episode “keep your enemies closer” uhhh it seems like you’re doing that if anything it does sound like she wants the truth to be tucked away and that’s her motive to be friends. Love the show though… oh and what else did that email say from Simon… curious.
well she is just hating on you
she wishes she was you
she is the one that looks like a stupid ass
even is this season
Hi Gretchen… I have to say, although I don’t think you are perfect by any means, and a little wild and overwhelming for my taste… you don’t even compare to how much of a bitch Tamara is. And it is so much more than everything you write about. It’s every show she is a bitch to someone about something and usually for no other reason then to just be bitchy! She literally acts like a 16 yr. old.
Gretchen,
I know, and I believe all the viewers of the show know how jealous Tamra is of you. She seems very insecure and thrives off of trashing you to make herself look better, because she knows its the only way she can possibly beat you since she cannot do it in the looks department.
Im disgusted by her, everytime I see her on the show, it makes me want to switch the channel. I’m sorry about your loss and it was nice to see you go see Jeffs children on the show. They obviously care about you deeply, so if the relationship you had with Jeff was fake, then how could his kids love you so much? Makes no sense.
As far as Tamra goes, I read Simon filed for divorce because of how she lies and cheated on him. Classy! Hear she is talking about you cheating on Jeff, and one year later, her husband files for divorce because she cheated on him. She’s projecting her own issues onto you!
Gretchen, your beautiful, and I watch the show because your such a lively , funny person. Continue to be yourself and don’t let a jealous trash bag change the person you are.
Take care of yourself,
Shaun
I love you Gretchen and I am glad THIS SEASON YOU ARE SPEAKING YOUR MIND AND STANDING UP. Tammmmarrrrahhh is a HATER AND JEALOUS HAG. DO NOT, I REPEAT, DO NOT REMOVE THIS BLOG. THAT SKANK WILL FIND A WAY TO SAY “SEEE SHE REMOVED IT BECAUSE SHE IS LYING” and try to spin it out of control. This is proof, even her soon to be ex (who still blogs and indirectly is trying to get her back – crazy they deserve each other) even he realizes she is a Liar! POOR TRASH. You represent educated, beautiful successful AND LOYAL young women who needs that. Too bad those in the 40s are acting childish and stupid which is embarassing. Keep up the GREAT WORK AND KEEP BEING YOURSELF. KARMA IS SOMETHING ELSE. LOOK AT TAMARRRAH NOW. Yeah she will finally snag somebody with LONG money this time around. Good riddance to her. I wish she leaves the show. Now she is trying to blog POSITIVE, PLEEEZE. She and Vicki both are a piece of work. Love love love love you and I hope to go jogging and or partying with you one day. STAY POSITIVE. THANKS FOR TELLING US THE TRUTH AND DO NOT REMOVE YOUR BLOG. DO NOT. FORGET THOSE HATERS!!!
XOXO RONNIE (I am a woman BYw).
Gretchen, you have been gracious, classy, truthful and a lady throughout all of this. I don’t think there is anything else to say. I am sorry you have had to go through all of this. XOXO Cheryl K.
Gretchen, Tamra is jealous period if she wanted to be friends she would have faught for you againest this J dude/stalker/creep and had YOUR BACK! stay strong! be true to yourself! =D
Love the gretchenproject thxs for the tips soo cool beans!!! I’m guna try the velashape yay! my hubby says do it whatever makes you happy and that’s what makes us girls! trying new things!
God Bless
=D
Oh to sladesmiley I ready the other blog posted and so what if Simon is just as much of a smuck as Tamaaarrrah. That’s why there were together. Oportunist. She is now or supposedly Vickis best friend and then she broke up Vicki and Jenna. Tammmrah is getting what she deserves. Heck, Simon is now trying to get on her good side because he probably knows she is getting more press. Shameful. I will stop blogging about those two on Gretchen’s blog because this is about Gretchen. Go Gretchen. You are beautiful inside and out. Live your life!!!
Hi Gretchen,
You really don’t have to explain yourself,we could all just tell Tamra is a jealous person. I kinda feel sorry for her because it seems she has everything but she’s empty inside. Just watch your back and don’t change.
First thing, I really like watching the show!
Second, I do see you trying to stay out of the ‘box’ everyone wants to put you in. Most people I know would not give so many chances to clear the air they would just be nasty! This also wouldn’t be great tv without villans either. That being said, I do wish you well and hope that there will be a break for you and Tamra in the future.
I know what you were saying about how you felt after Jeff passed away. I too lost a loved one and it ‘Broke’ me. Its been a few years for me and I am still trying to recover. So be proud and hold your head up high. Mostly be true to yourself.
Love the show! I am (hopefully) looking forward to a spin off show that just features you! You are on your way up (so many things going on) and I know you have many more good things coming in your future.
Congrats Gretchen!
—Carolyn Braden
Interesting that Tamra attacks Gretchen…Think about it, she is just pissed off at the world that her life sucks so she found a bulls-eye (Gretchen) and decided to take it out on her. Hello Tamra, why don’t you try and think for yourself rather than be a puppet for your husband Simon. And focus on your problems at home before you worry about others. Interesting they are getting a divorce…but unfortunate for the kids.
I only know what I see on TV/read, and I know that it may be altered to some degree but it portrays Tamra to be an insecure jealous freak if you ask me. Hey maybe she is, well at least I think so! So, my applause goes to Gretchen. First of all to deal with the loss of a partner is something no one will understand fully until they have gone through it them self. Tamra and anyone else in that clique should shut up because they have no clue what Gretchen is going through. It is hard enough to start your life over after something so tragic and for them to inflict extra stressful drama on Gretchen is selfish and frankly looks like they are using her miss-fortune as a pedestal to gain attention because they are insecure. Trust me I’ve been there and wish nothing but great happiness for Gretchen!!!
xoxo-Team Gretchen!!
Gretchen-
I think its great the you cleared things up for everyone and now we have all heard both sides of the story. You guys should both put this behind you, and for you to do this you should remove your blog.
G, i have seen the show since day 1 and you my friend were a target !! T doesn’t like you and she is jealousy of you..your beautiful and you will be successful.of all the girls on the show you my dear have what hollywood wants..have fun but watch out for the bad guys..or girls..you know who
Gretchie–if you had been a gold-digger and a sleaze, Jeff’s kids would have seen through you in a red-hot minute. And they wouldn’t have given you the time of day. It was obvious how much they cared for you. Keep your head up, kid. Love from Vickie
Hi Gretchen,
I would like to let you know that you come off as a real and genuine person. I think this season has really done a lot to show you in a positive light. It is clear now more than ever that Tamra was having some serious on-going struggles of her own and may have been resentful of your youth and freedom. Frankly, nobody really cares about any of this “J” gossip and it was strange that Tamra was so concerned about it herself. I know it’s hard to forgive someone who’s hurt you the way she has, but can you at least understand that her mind and heart have not been quite right. If I were you, I’d take down the blog and just let by-gones be by-gones. You don’t NEED to say or write anything more about it…it’s pretty clear to everyone what’s been going on with Tamra. It seems to me that you’re a person who does not need to keep re-hashing a bunch of old gossip. You shine well enough on your own, you don’t need to say anything more about it.
I don’t think she should take the blog down..it’s her personal feelings, and they should be known if she want’s…BTW…Is this Tamra? Because I wouldn’t put it past you to sign onto her blog as a different user and try to convince her that your mind and heart are not “quite right” and to take the blog down..lol…OMG! What a LOSER! LMAO!
Gretchen, you are a sweetheart. Keep your head up and stay away from people that bring you down!
It’s not nice to say, but vickie does indeed look like miss piggy. I think her personality and character is so darn unkind that it makes her look bad in spite of all the supposed money she has with wich she could do something about it. Gretchen has always been the most real and sincere person on the show. Tamra is mean spirited and a liar. Vicky joins right in, those two deserve each other. Defunct character in a person can never be fixed. Lynne is clueless. She needs to give Gretchen the credit and a thank you in regards to what transpired between her and the daughter. Lynne wouldn’t know how to take a stand on anything. The verdict is out on Alexis but she is very superficial and phony.
Inger..sometimes the truth hurts…and as someone that claims to pride herself on her honesty then she should be abl to handle that her and Miss Piggy could share i.d. : )
Gretchen,
Tamra sucks. It’s so obvious she’s jealous of you..she always has been and always will be. I love watching the show because of you. Keep your head up!
Gretchen, I am 61 years old and let me tell you that people like Tamra are so unhappy that they want everyone to be unhappy. You are so precious and gorgeous so donlet these kind of people get the best of you. The thing to do is not to socialize with her. She had plenty of her own problems to deal with. And Vicki, has had to turn over a new leaf with her husband because if she hadn’t, she would be headed for divorce court too. I am so proud that you and Slade are together now. Don’t let anyone come between you and him. I just want to see you and him have a baby. It would have to be a gorgeous baby since you and Slade are such a pretty couple. Stay strong and put your faith in God and not in people. Love you girl. You are my only favorite one on that show beside Slade. The other women are so pathetic. Alexis started something at someone else’s home and should have waited until some other time to conduct her jealous fit. Her husband was embarrassed but what is so funny, I think he liked that attention. Lynne is one that I liked until she and her husband can’t face the fact that their girls are TROUBLE. They better wake up. Do you know when their daughter should be home? When THEY TELL HER TOO and if she isn’t then go get her and drag her out by her hair. Do that a coouple of times and she will get the message. Keep the faith and we are praying for you.
Hey Gretchen,
I’m a big fan of this show, and you are definitely my favorite. I think you are so funny and just the sound of your laugh makes me laugh. I love your spirit and how you can make a good time out of any moment on the show. The episode when you girls were on vacay and the boys showed up (the opposite of Vicki’s request) happens to be one of my favorite Gretchen moments… Vicki announces she’ll be going up to the room instead of going out and you put 2 thumbs down and make a noise with your tongue. Hahaha. I love that you do funny stuff like that and don’t even care if it will piss someone off. I’ve even got my boyfriend to watch the show because I’ve made him watch how funny and cooky you are. You remind me of my friends. You seem like a real person. Thanks for making the show so fun!
As for Tamra, some people are just poisonous and like to spread misery. No reason to stress over it anymore than you have written here, and a great opportunity to move on. It will be a great way to weed out the bad, and bring in the good.
I watched the Tupperware party tonight. Loved that idea! That stuff lasts forever! I still have a starburst top, dark olive Tupperware container that I think is about ten years older than me, and I’m 25. Haha. Now that’s quality!
Please continue to be on the show and make your fans laugh. Put your dogs on the show more! They are so cute!
~Ashley
Dallas, TX
Girl, you are the greatest! I love you and your personality! Your big ol’ laughs crack me up! Tamra is SO jealous of you and everything about you! Her and Lynne can suck it! Lynne must have something eating at her brain, she ain’t all there. You just keep on keepin on gorgeous!
Gretchen,
You are my fave. I’m sorry about your loss. Stay strong and hold your head up high, even in the storm of controversy. You will come out on top. Continue your life in your ever funny and bubbly fashion. You rock, let’s dance!
M
Gretchen:
Karma is a bitch & so is Tamra…she should have spent a little more time worrying about her real life problems & a lot less trashing you. Clearly people who live in glass houses shouldn’t throw stones…and for someone who was so sure you were only with Jay for his money, it sure is funny that as soon as Simon didn’t have as much she was outta there…
You have been a refreshing woman to have on the show & the only reason I could stomach it for another season.
Keep enjoying life…
Gretchen, from the first time I started watching the series, I thought you were the most sincere and kind-hearted out of all the housewives. You are a special person and it shows through regardless of the editing of the tv show. I wish you all the best.
I didn’t even read the blog…but it’s your’s and if you don’t want to take it down, you shouldn’t. And I just have to say…it doesn’t matter what you DID or DID NOT do. It is your business, not Tamra’s. I can’t stand her…she is the epitomy of “Mean Girls”. She is NOT a good role model and should be ashamed of herself…She really took the focus off of herself and put it onto you and I think that was her intention. The past is the past…true or not…it’s YOUR life…not hers. She really needs to get one…(a life). Good Luck to you and your future…please don’t let jealous girls get to you…
Love the show but there is way too much B.S. even for a reality show. We are in a very very deep recession. Come back to reality and you all should have jobs. Not rely on men for financial support.
Hey Gretchen…you really rock. You are the only fun part of the show and I tune in week after week to see what you are up to!! Tamara is just pathetic and has a sad sorry life. I really think that she is just so jealous of you and your beauty that it clouds her head and she doesnt know what the hell to do! I know that you have suffered emotional distress because of her actions but at some point you have to realize that everyone watching the show can see right through her!! She is lame and I think bravo should dump her off the show. Its tension that is hard to take sometimes. One shot is of you and the light around you and the next is of her and the darkness she brings. I think alot of veiwers would agree that she is not good for the show.
I dont know why Jim and Alexis are part of the show…they just dont seem to fit. I dont know.
But anyway, back to you….thanks for keeping this blog up, I kept meaning to read it and Im glad you were able to set the rcord straight.
At the end of the day, it is your life to live….none of what anyone else thinks truly matters..but I think it was healing for you to clear up soome things and it did open my eyes too.
keep living your life and be happy…with whomever you choose….doing whatever it is you want to do.
you are beautiful smart and funny!! Its hard to be all those things and not have people be jealous. Be proud and live your life!!!
God bless and stay strong!!
TEAM GRETCHEN!!
oh one more thing….I love your style and your clothes!! where do you shop and who does your hair!! And you always look a thousand times better then EVERYONE around you!!! And dont get fake boobs!! you do not need them!! you are perfect just the way you are…fake boobs would ruin your natural beauty!!!
ok bye!!
I whole-heartedly agree w/ courtney– you do not need bigger boobs!! You are fine just the way you are.
I find it funny that this is the one message out of all that I’m responding to, but honestly, Gretchen, you are beautiful the way you are- don’t f that up!! I saw the show that was 90-10 in agreement– please don’t become fake!!!
Ditto on the boob job, G. You are in great proportion; don’t mess with that. Also, you are a very forthright, real person; stay the same on the outside as you are on the inside. Once women start messing with all that surgery they lose their true beauty and replace it with something hard looking. You are a lovely young woman and, with the addition of more gradual life experience, you will undoubtedly be a lovely older woman someday. Don’t mess with that; or you will take the brightness off of your natural beauty.
And just a side note, I lost my mom after a prolonged illness many years ago when I was 17. For months we took care of her at home, in an intimate manner. We put a lot of energy into making that alright for her and trying to respect her dignity with humor and a “no worries” attitude. It takes a LONG time to recover from that and to grieve. I didn’t realize how long until I could look back on it years later. I don’t know anything about Slade b/c I didn’t watch the show previously when he was on, but take it slow, girl. Just be sure he’s the right man for you period and not just a man who’s keeping the pain at bay.
As for Tamra, well, I’ve been Team Gretchen from the first. People have said so much already, but the one thing I keep thinking is that part of me would love to see Jeff’s children have the chance to address her on the things she has said. How sad that they have to put up with this woman’s public assumptions about their father on top of having to deal with his death. The other part of me says that it wouldn’t matter b/c people like Tamra don’t function in reality; they live in a world of self-delusion where they work the truth to their own advantage so that they don’t have to face themselves and the reality of their own behavior. Addressing her would probably only cause them more pain b/c nothing useful would come of it. It was good to see that you and the kids have stayed close. It was obvious last season that there is a lot of love and affection between you and them.
I guess I’ll close with the observation that God tells us to love our neighbors as we love ourselves, but He doesn’t tell us we have to like them.
Keep laughing, Gretchen! Peace.
I totally believe you Gretchen.
Tamara has some serious issues about honesty.
Now I understand why Simon filed for divorce.
You are a good person and I love your laugh.
I just want to say your amazing and don’t let jealous people bring you down! Just be happy that your a big deal and so important that she has to keep talking trash about you! I mean really Tamra needs to get a reality check! She needs to focus on her own life and her own dramas instead of being worried about you! Tamra is so worried about you that she let her own marriage fall apart…. awww do we even feel bad?? Hell NO! Poor Simon though to put up with her being soooo fake! You are beautiful hunny bear. Slap the fake blonde out of her hair next time she makes up lies about you! I wsih you well!
TEAM GRETCHEN ALL THE WAY…..
XOXO
Wow I feel bad that you still have to deal with all the drama. I just wanted to say Tamra is so jealous of you. It’s so obvious. In the episode with the girls “slumber party” when you were hugging Alexus you can blatently see Tamra looking you up in down. She was checking you out because you are so cute and skinny and she could NEVER pull off the cute short white short that you could. Thought that was funny that it was caught on camera! She shouldn’t hate you just cause she ain’t you! Love ya Gretchen!!
Gretchen my dear I forgot to say that I saw you on Watch What Happens with Mr. Adorable Andy Cohen and the 30 rock dude — you seemed surprised that people really do like you — Hello !!!
Yes, we humans instinctively like honest real people and if a person has a good sense of humor thats a big asset as well. You Gretchen are all the above and then some.
I’d bet my right arm that Tamra reads this blog, so I would like to address this to her directly.
Tamra grow the hell up, be nice to people and maybe your future can change for the better — you know your not a very attractive person just by your actions, and this is something you can change if you work hard at it.
The best thing you can do is come clean ON THE SHOW to Gretchen, and admit to your lies.
We, the viewing public will give you a second chance however it won’t be an overnight redemption. Your husband has severe ownership issues and if you move on thats probably a good thing. Anyway Tamra you can clearly see by all the responses on this blog that even though the shows get edited the truth will always come out.
Gretchen, love you girl, and wish Jeana was still around, she has a few problems but is a sweet gal and I hope you stay in contact with her.
Will always wish nothing but the best for you Gretchen and anxiously await what the future holds for you because I know its going to be all good.
LJV – Apple Valley
Gretchen,
Don’t take down your blog as long as Tamra continues her attacks. In fact, you can add new, additional lies as she makes them so that there is a running log of them.
Good luck!
Well this is all I will say, I have watched Real Housewives of OC since its first show and I often find it humerous when people who have money #1 think they are somehow better than you due to their funds and #2 those people are still white trash. I don’t know Tamara personally, however due to the way she carries herself on this show…she won the award. She talks ill of Gretchen because she is first and foremost JEALOUS. Her statement is…”Im the hottest housewife”…WRONG!!! She’s not attractive inside or out. But on a funny side note….anyway you could convince Slade to cut his hair?
Know that tamra is getting divorced for adultry which makes her case even harder to believe I feel that everything you have said is true. And I believe someone said if you were a golddigger jeffs kids could see right through you and the fact that they think of you as one of there moms by all means says right there that you werent using jeff even my sister says ( by the way she doesnt watch the show often) she said she saw you and said wow that had to be her heart she is very strong for sharing with the world…so i think alexa needs to figure out who is the true person in this situation even all the girls cause its getting to the point where its rid. for you to deal with and for me to watch on tv youve taken the high road but for tamra she prob needs the drama cause her life is shit just like j she is trying to keep her 5 min of fame.
TEAM GRETCH
Miss Gretchen,
This morning on ‘Watch What Happens’ you mentioned attending Christian schools. There is a hint of this loving and compassionate teaching in your attitudes. However, with all due respect, what caused this “U” turn in your personal life dear one? It appears your life has turned to materialism, alcohol and sexual promiscuity to fill the void. It makes me cry to see you and Alexis compromising your Christian values on national television. I pray for you both that Jesus’ love will once again shine brightly through your actions to a lost and dying world.
You have such an opportunity to do so much good. But instead we watch excessive behavior. Why not spend your efforts to promote the causes of those who cannot help themselves. Please know I mention these things out of love and concern for you. Remember Jesus came for we the fallen and His loving arms are still there to wrap around your precious heart. He can forgive anything my love. Just please, PLEASE don’t turn your back on Him.
Please forgive me if this offends you. But I feel it important to remind you of who loves you most and what really counts at the end of this life.
Martha
Gretchn, Do not remove your blog. Tamara has bashed you so much on TV this is your way of getting your comments out. She doesnt like the fact that someone is actually standing up to her. He sorry for an excuse for husband used to take her shit now he is finally standing up to her. She is having a hard time not being in control or on top. You are adorable and make that show.
Lynne needs to get a clue on how to raise kids. I am a single mom and would never let my child/children walk all over me like they do. Plus I pay attention to my child. That is the key point of being a parent.
Vicki – That is a whole other issue. Which if i commented on that would be as long as your blog.
Gretchen,
You’re so beautiful and from catching up on your website, you’re amazingly smart!
From my itty-bitty titties to yours, keep what God gave you. The other women on the show are more unattractive than you, so all they have to go on are their tits. You and Vicki are my favorites, by the way.
Tamra is the most confrontational person I’ve ever seen on a reality show, and not only is Simon a controlling tool, she’s allowed this behavior and acts out to others because she stands no chance with him. You having a background in pyschology know this already, but I believe it’s important that it be stated.
I believe your intentions with that spaz-case of Lynne’s (Alexa) were pure, however, Lynne is brainless, and spineless when it comes to both of those over privleged ding-bats. And, BTW, BAD facelift, she still looks like a bulldog and her boobs are the only young looking thing on her and they are very plastic looking.
I think you and Alexis can have a good relationship, but beware of Jim (and no, he’s not a good looking guy). I hate men like him who believe they are above changing a diaper. He lives a life of convenience and lack of reality. Alexis is beautiful, but her lips are too collegened and those tits are too big. I think it covers up her heart and I believe it too is big.
Try hard to make nice with Vicki, do it for me, since she’s one of my favorites too. I really hate that she and Tamra are friends. She deserves a real friend, and not someone who’ll talk behind her back about her (and yes, dear, you’re guilty of doing this too).
I know I’ve written this in vain, just to get my thoughts out there, but I do hope you read this.
You’re a beautiful doll, and if you ever make it to the East Coast Hollywood (Wilmington NC) it’d be great to show you around!
Hugs!
Great comments!
Couldn’t agree more about Lynne, I’d go slow w/ Alexis, and I think Vickie has a huge heart but she needs to chill- she’s way to obsessive! She’s trying though; her and Dons’ renewal vows were heartwarming!
One thing, though- rather than saying “more unattactive” it should have been “less attractive”.
Deb, I see what your saying…. I was trying not to elude to the fact that I believed any of the others (Tamra and Lynne in particular) were attractive at all. So by saying “less attractive” leads the reader to assume I think they are a little attractive.
My bad….. I do believe Gretchen is the most naturally beautiful one on the show.
Gretchen,
Enough!!. For the record I am NOT a fan of Tamra. I never have been. I think that this thing between the two of you has been beaten to death. Be the bigger person and let it go. Life is short and this is just crap. You will never reach an agreement. You’ll just have to agree to disagree. Move on. I think you are funny and full of life you really don’t have to justify yourself to her or any one else.
I use to like Tamara until she made it her mission to talk about you. She is pure evil… I’m glad you held your head up and kept the blog up. She owes you a huge apology! And Vicky there is something seriousley wrong with her. Well birds of a feather…
BTW
Your the hotest housewife
PS
You and Slade are cute together
Frankly, I believe Tamra. Especially considering the photos of you that have been floating around on the internet. Decency and class are not qualities you seem to possess. I am really not sure why you are on this show at all. Other than drama and unsolicited, unqualified parenting advice, I don’t know what you have to offer. You and Slade are a match made in heaven. I don’t mean that as a compliment to either of you.
I doubt that this comment will actually get posted to and/or stay on this blog.
Kate, are you just like Tamra? You sound like her! You sound very jealous and are probably a hater just like Tamra. Get a life! Gretchen keep the blog.
Tamra, is that you?
Yeah. You didn’t think anyone would know, did ya?
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… and don’t try to deny it. =D>
Are you kidding? The only way someone might see through Gretchen is if they are Tamra? How ignorant are you?
Kate your a fraud!
kate you are so right..gretchen loves all this attention she is getting,after all she can sell more bull and make tamra look like the bad person..people like her are a dime a dozen.
Kate & Nannie we gorgive you for rowing with one oar!
Gretchen- Don’t you dare delete this blog for Tamara!!! I think you are a wonderful person. I am a huge fan of the show and I have always seen Tamara for the two faced back stabbing bitch that she is. The truth always comes out, as it will with her divorce and I commend you for staying true to yourself(don’t get boobs)and standing up for yourself. Thanks for being on the show and for adding some reality to it.
Jealousy=Envy. Tamra is just jealous.
Tamra is jealous of you, clear and simple! You are the hottest housewife, a title she had given herself! Karma is a bitch Tamra!
Gretchen,
Stay strong,I think everyone that watches the show has known from day one that Tamra is WT,she may have better clothes now, but you can’t take the white trash out of her,my daughter and I laugh at her brittle hair and leather chest that she wants to show off.When she stood in the hotel room with Vicki asking her to not tell the rest that she was crying, Tamra says she would never do that,she was already making snide remarks about Vicki while she was getting in the car! Whew now that it is white trash, so keep on doing what you’re doing Gretchen and hopefully Tamra and Simon will get booted off the show.
I always liked you Gretchen since you joined the Housewives. Tamra was always jealous of you and she was threaten by your beauty and your youth. Keep rising above it.
i agreed with you at some point but now i think you should be the big one and take down this blog Tamra totally was out of line last year most agree that she treated you awful but now its time to take the blog down and move on as you are starting to look like you are enjoying the conflict
Have all of Tamra’s articles about me taken down and remove what she has said about me from the show and I will Happily remove my blog. This show is airing all over the world now. How should I answer the other people around the world who now question my integrity and my relationship with Jeff. The things she has said and done don’t just go away. What would you do if someone said these things about you and your family so that you had to deal with it everyday? Sorry
I agree. I’m sure her other “friends” are the ones who want the blog removed.Keep up the good work Gretchen. The truth shall set you free and be sad for Tamra. She needs to move back to the trailer park.
Gretchen, You do whatever it is you feel you need to do! Nobody is walking in your shoes but you. And I know that you have people in your corner giving you love and guidance.
Peace and love to you.
Hi Gretchen, you and Jeana are my fav….girls!! Tamara didn’t like you from the start because you are beautiful and honest!!! Tamara talks a lot of shit about every one of you including her “stupid friend” Viki. That b*ich is already getting her karma and she still doesn’t get it. Look at her son and her husband is divorcing her because like he said the show has changed her. But Tamara wants to spend the rest of her life being a mean nasty old hag b*tch!!!!! Just look at her face when she opens her ugly mouth to talk shit about you. You can see how unhappy she is!!! What ever you do don’t ever TRUST her!!! Stay true to yourself and try to stay as far as you can from that B*TCH!!!! She’s nasty and dirty. And I do believe Simon when he said that she cheated on him. Maybe with her “friend” J???? Never know girlfriend!!! And the hell with Lynee, that woman needs to start paying attention to her daughters!!!..This woman is an idiot for getting mad at you for talking to her daughter!! She needs to start acting like a mother. On the last episode she said that she was to busy with her work…you never to busy for your kids you idiot!!!! And Viki…yes you have a husband that you still treat like crap and yes you have a beautiful house and lots of money but you still ugly and your soul is empty!!! Alexis you and your family are sweet!! Later Gretchen
Dear Grectchen,I am so sorry for your loose. I can’t believe that Tamra had the audacity to say and do all those horrrible things to you,karma is a funney thing she is getting her karma back 1oxtimes over. I mean really u were nothing but supportive to Jeff and yes maybe you went a little bit nuts after but who in their right mind wouldn’t of-I wish u all the best life has to offer and keep on being urself trust your instincts and don’t let your gaurd down to let people like her hurt u u don’t desreve that and even w/Lynn and trying to help her daughter good for you cause Lynne has her head up her you know what cause she is in extreme denial about her chidren and what she thinks is right I have four of my own and yes you alays want whats best but the first thing is you have to be a parent and set boundaries and not just be so into your ownself u can’t see there needs and when they’re erroring into the wrong side of life-be her daughters life line cause her parents r so into (oh but they love us!)-dah worry about what ur kids r doing-u and slad were right on with what u both said about kids never tell u everything!!!! I think ur georgeos inside and out I hope u suceed in all your adventures!!
Gretchen: Take the high road, it is so obvious that the washed up soon to be divorced hag is nothing without Simon, or her closet full of designer clothes, makeup or fake hair- Stay real and let it go she is not worth even responding too- I just feel so bad that Simon will have to continue to support her as she had not skills- ( who is the gold digger) I have written before my husband is stage 4 brain cancer! Keep us in your prayer, you gave me a lot of strength in your love with Jeff!!
Nice insight. It all falls in place when you explain it. You can SO see through her on TV.
Take care.
Dearest Gretchy-Poo~
Whatever you do.. NEVER remove this blog! Watching Tamra squint in disbelief at the lunchtable when she asked you to remove this blog.. your reply “I’ll have to think about it”. It was obvious her ONLY reason for meeting with you was to manipulate you and give you (yet again) another false sense of friendship.
Please rest assured: RHOC viewing audience can see right through Tamras sick behavior. The first time I saw her shreik and point “You went to Bass Lake” I knew.. in that instant.. that this women was very troubled. Your reply was “Wait until YOUR husband gets cancer”….. Well Tamra has definately reaped what she has sown.. because her life is unraveling like a ball of yarn in from of the world! She’s not only ugly on the inside.. but it quickly transfers to being ugly on the outside.
I also want to applaud you for your attempt and effort to council Lynns daughter. I feel so bad for you Gretchen because you are the embassador of help and kindness..Sadly these people that you are reaching out to help.. they are clueless. Lynns daughter (as we all saw) is in crisis. Lynn and her husband are a true example of what has happened to some teenagers in america! Their parenting skills were embarrassing to watch. I found myself yelling at the television screen. Lets make a wager: This topic will be #1 at the reunion show with veiwer comments. And it will be your time to shine. You have my permission to throw out one big fat “I TOLD YOU SO” right to Lynns face (btw, Gretch,. Lynn is not your friend either)
Gretchen I listened to your single today. It was just soothing and inspiring,. you have a gift.. You know what is so special about you? I didn’t even know you were a singer! If you are as much of a fake opportunist as Tamra claims,. why aren’t you self promoting your career on the show? .. when I was googling, looking for this blog, I saw an album cover.. for your songs.. and I was shocked! You have never ONCE brought the spot light to your career in singing,. which I admire so much. Its obvious that you are a self made woman, NOT like Vicky promoting her insurance line, OR LYNN with her trademark bootlegged cuffs (she’ll be sued within the year for trademark infringement, you watch) OR JOE (sorry slade, love you…but..) who made us watch and entire season of her trying to stay on pitch!
I adore you Gretch.. Saw the sexy photos, whatever! God forbid that there would be someone stalking ANY of us with a camera! Just watching you rise above that? It blew me away! Thats the kind of role model we DO want! If I had to listen to Tamra use ONE more expletive for putting a woo-woo up her too-too.. I mean, come on..How about some big-girl words!?
Tamra is easy to read: She craves attention..and her life is SO boring, she decided to be a hitchhiker onto YOUR life.
Well cut that beyotch free.. let her fall .. and just walk over her. Tamra needs to get a life… Her own life. Not Gretchens, Not Vickys.. Her own life.. and maybe a real job…
Keep your chin up and remember that you are EVERYONES FAVORITE on the show. WE want to see you and Slade walk down the isle.
(ps) we are all praying for his son..
KissKiss~Julie in Maryland
When she talks about you this season it speaks Volumes that Simon remains quiet and doesn’t say anything to support her now. It is quoted in the bible,”silence is your strongest weapon.”, even though I am not active in my religion, I never forget a quotation like that one.
You are by far the most entertaining and genuine housewife, you make us laubh even through all the lies she said on the show that we all know was just to hurt you. The truth is you outshined her so she stabs away at your back. She should be paying more attention to her own life. Look where the lies got her, it is sad.
It is obvious when she lied cause everytime her stories variated from the first time she told them. You have never changed any statements you ever make concerning any aspect of your life.
I know her current situation with her divorce brings you no joy and that alone tells what a genuine person you are. Personnally I think her lies caught up with her and it gives me a little bit of pleasure knowing she got what she deserved and you did nothing to help cause it, she did this all on her own.
God Bless Jeff and his kids.
Sorry you had to go through so much. Glad you stayed with the show and keep up the good work, we love the way you laugh at my house. It reminds us of Julia Roberts in Pretty Woman.
Okay, I just read the blog and for the life of me, I can’t figure out why Tamra is so upset about it. You are only defending yourself. So since she is so adament about you removing this blog, it seems that she really did lie about everything and doesn’t want people to believe your side of the situation.(Unless there is another blog that you DID remove…is there?)You really didn’t say anything bad about her or Simon, so I don’t get it..you didn’t say ONE thing about her that she hasn’t said about you.. I also don’t get WHY she is so interested in your life. This is a 40+ year old woman with 4 kids and she doesn’t EVER focus on her children. She is too busy getting involved with the “he said, she said bull$hit!” I am 41 and I have 4 children also. My children are my life and I could give a damn what is going on in other people’s lives. I care what is going on in mine, my husband’s and my childrens lives. Point Blank! You never hear Tamra talking about her children, besides Ryan. Most mother’s are so immersed in thier childrens lives and that’s what they talk about, because thier children are thier lives…but Tamra NEVER talks about her children like they are a part of her life. It’s like she keeps them seperate and she definatly doesn’t put them first. I do not like this woman. She really needs to get her priorities straight and stop caring so much about what is going on in other people’s lives. her excuse that J got her involved in all this drama, is just that…and excuse. She likes the drama, and she obviously is looking for any reason to ruin your reputation and take the focus off of herself…she is a horrible person..her intro into the show says it all,”There are younger housewives, but they don’t get hotter than me”. Yeah…whatever…she is a vain, jealous, horrible woman…she is not fit to raise children…I really believe that…and it’s so sad…
Well said. I after reading this blog, I couldn’t understand the reasoning for Tamra’s wanting this blog to be taken off the internet. All I read was a response to all the accusations made to Gretchen. So if there isn’t some grain of truth in what Gretchen wrote, why would it bother her?
Tamra seems like the kind of person who would stab you in the back and deny that she did it while her hand was still on the knife.
Gretchen,
I was going to ask you to remove the blog until I read everything she did. Mind you, I always thought she was trouble but I didn’t realize how much trouble. HOWEVER, you really seem to talk about her on the show to much this year. Let that part go so you don’t drive Alexis crazy. Regards
Gretchen, since you came on the show, I have been captivated by your sincerity. The episode where you were trying to help the daughter really showed me your loving heart. You had no reason to do that except out of sheer kindness and concern for your friend’s daughter. It was sad that the mother reacted so defensively and with hate. Gretchen, your true heart always shines through and we, the audience, can see that you are the sweetest one. Thank you and best wishes.
Hi Gretchen,
So happy that you have kept the blog up, that Tamra wants down. Go Gretchen!!! She will never stop talking smack about you. Not for anything, but it looks like kharma may be kicking her a–. Don’t ever forget what she did because she’s not sorry she did it, she’s sorry it made her look soooo bad.
Also, Lynn is going to be another thorn in your side. She is dumb and angry. She knows how horrified America was when they saw her parenting skills. Now all the time you have taken to boost her, she’ll use to get back at you. Watch your back, you know she’ll be teaming up with Tamra.
Love you, love the show.
I can see that Tamra has major issues, but you still haven’t learned a thing if you think you can trust Slade. He is another fame-seeker and is only using you. Grow up already!
Hey girl keep your head up high, way high! Everyone just wishes that they could be you. You did a great thing with Lynne’s daughter, to bad Lynne wouldn’t open her eye’s to see how much her girls are truley in need of help. I would want someone in my life like you to talk to and ask questions. She’s just embarassed that her kids rule the hosehold. She might have had 2 kids, but that does not make her a god mother. Just look at the swearing and drinking the girls do, that Lynne just shows a bling eye! I live here in Michigan and I gave you so much credit taking on the challage to be a caregiver to the one you love. No matter who says what. “YOU DID GREAT” E-mail me anytime. I am on Go Gretchen Team!!!!! If Tamra would grow the heck up and mind her on life, you would see a change for the positive. Plus tell her to get a JOB!!!!!
Hi I am Jenn,
I just wanted to tell you that you are a strong women who doesn’t need all of this drama.
As for Tamra, some people are just poisonous. This kind like her make the enviroment an awful place to be in! And this is a great opportunity to move on, with or without her. You need positive in your life only. Weed out the other “friends” and you well feel so much better! Remember if they wern’t your friends before you got placed on this show, then they are probably not your true friends now! Girl I just hate to see you being taking for a ride. I am a strong hearted person and the one thing that I hate the most is a lying, back stabbing women who thinks she knows it all! Crazy huh! E-mail me if you want, Very nice talkin, thank you!
Hi Gretchen!!
OMG I have loved you from the start. Every since I saw you and Jeff on the show, I knew you were great people. It’s not easy to take care of those you love and watch them get sicker & until sicker until they are no more. As long as Jeff lives in your heart & the memories remain, he will always be with you!
Okay, so I have a 2 year old and she keep pushing the buttons on my laptop while I’m typing. Any way I am an African American woman & I would like to see more African Americans on the show. (I know we have RHOA, but we do at least have one Caucasian on the show)But I digress.
Sweetie you are young, very hot (no I’m not gay), have a sweet sprit and no children. Of course people are going to have something to say. You are living your life and making no qualms about it, and they just can’t stand it. Just because they had children young and didn’t take the time to live their life does not make you a bad person.
I understand Vicki likes nice things, but at what cost??! Okay she and Don reaffirmed their love, but I think last season had something to do with it. She made him feel like pure crap & had to do something to save face. That could be why she got hit in the head & had falls & other embarassing moments last season. Hello, even her kids don’t care to hang out with her. I’m sorry I’m an Aries, as are most of the women in my family, and we love nice things, but we are not vicious, jealous control freaks who minimizes the things others do to make ourselves feel better. I don’t care what new person comes into my life, I NEVER let friends I had prior feel left out or let them go. Friendship is not a catch and release type deal to me. Once you’re my friend, you’re my friend and you may not like me & vice versa, but once I’m invested, we’re going to talk through it & work it out, because that’s what friends do. (I’m saying this for the way she treated Jeana. When Jeana was doing very well Vicki remained her friend. But when Jeana fell on hard times and went to her ‘friend’ she wan’t there for her. I LOVE YOU TOO JEANA!! xoxoxoxoxo)
Okay, about this Tamara. WOW!!! Words can’t express, but I’ll try to be brief: She is trouble, plain and simple. I knew something was up with her. Gretchen I’ll say again you are 1 hat lady & she probably wishes she could have had a threesome with you. Or maybe her husband wanted it, but there is an attraction there for you. She is jealous, but I think she also has a deepseated insecurity about herself. You have strength, class and comfortable with who you are and that kills them. You are not in the midst of a divorce, nor are you looking for a new home to keep your present one from going into foreclosure. Tamara’s a beautiful woman as well, especially after having 4 children, but other things that are very important and say a lot about our character, make her very UGLY.
Okay Lynne!! WTF??? I was soooooo pissed @ her because you clearly told her on the phone you wanted to take Alexa with you because you heard her say she’s been depressed. I couldn’t believe how she acted with you and you are supposed to be her friend. But she does have Tamara to influence her little brain doesn’t she? I would trust you to talk to my girls anyday becuase you’ve been there. You even told her you two could meet for drinks and you would give her the scoop afterwards. I’m sorry but Alexa is a little witch that can manipulate the pants off her flower power parents. Even her sister doesn’t want to hang around her. Lynn and her husband need to get a clue. Yes ass whoopings are allowed when your child hangs up on you, and that’s what Lynn needs to do before Alexa whoops her. She’s going to end up with underage consumption charges or pregnant if they don’t get her together. But like Alexa said, it’s almost too late. What the hell is a teen whiperer anyway. I’m now a single parent & have two girls and I’m going to do everything I can to raise them right and make sure they don’t fall into traps. And that means setting ground rules, sticking to them and following up on discipline when necessary. Even if that means getting help from my friend who had pictures of herself on the internet with something up her VaJayJay. So what, you’re grown and you can do that & it has absolutely no bearing on who you are as a person. Everyone makes mistakes and everyone is entitled to change.
Don’t know about Alexis & Jim, but if you think they are okay, then go for it.
Now listen, I know Slade can be a sore subject for you & I don’t know the details of your relationship. I do know that money doesn’t make a relationship, but I want you to make sure he is the one for you. You are a very beautiful, talented (yes I listened to the song on iTunes) and caring person. You have a lot going for you and I don’t want anyone else to take advantage of you, like you know who did. However, if he makes you happy, it doesn’t matter how may boys there are in the OC, as Vicki stated, go for it. I think you are awesome!!!
On another note, no you don’t need boobs, natural is always better especially if you decide to nurse your children, when you have them.
And also in your lingerie line, don’t leave out the busty woman!!
I absolutely love you! Keep your head up, stay positive and also consider taking down the blog. Not for Tamara, but for you. The first step to moving on is forgiving the person who wronged you and then forgiving yourself. Yes it was nice to read it & put the missing pieces together, but I maybe in a month or so you could consider it. I’m not saying youshould, but if you could consider it…Anyone with half a brain knows she’s jealous. But you have to start looking forward into a positive direction. Her problems are just beginning.
It’s also good to see Jeff’s children respect you and your opinion’s. You obviously made a positive impact on them while you were there. They really care for you and that says a lot about you.
Your fans truly adore you and stand behind you 100%. Keep smiling!!!
BRAVO!! That is the most well-written comment of all here!
Sweet Gretchen,
I’m so proud of you for taking the initiative to defend yourself against the venemously spewing Tamra. The fact that she slithers upon the belly of the lowliest character attributes is being revealed with every episode. Continue to be EVERYONE’s favorite Housewife of OUR OC!! Many hugs and well wishes. <33 Lil
It all makes so much since now. This is why she wants you to take the blog down! She doesn’t want everyone questioning her stories!! What goes around comes around. Now look who is getting accussed of cheating, her!
Hi Gretchen,
I have to say that as a loyal fan of your show, I never knew how to feel about the situation between you and Tamra. Of course there had to be so much more to it than what we get to see on tv. The Gretchen that I saw on tv was very likeable, so I didn’t understand. After hearing Tamra ask you to remove the blog on a recent episode I thought that I should look into it. After reading it, I’m glad I found the time to read it and I’m glad you took the time to write it. I know how it feels to be hurt by a friend and to suddenly have to defend yourself against cruel, untrue words… maybe not to the extent that you’ve been hurt, but when it’s a “friend” dishing the blows, it’s all the same. I’m sorry that this happened to you. No one should have the right to discuss what they think were the terms and conditions of your relationship with Jeff.
I think every single one of the Housewives has behaved ridiculously on camera at one point or another…so I’m not “Team” anyone. However, in Gretchen’s defense, I’ll say that I appreciate her live and let live approach and that she’s really not one to start shit with anyone. What I despise about Tamra is how nasty, conniving and ENTITLED she is…as if Gretchen or anyone else owes her an explanation for their behavior. Who the hell does she think she is? And Tamra is straight up mean girl. Look at the way she eviscerated Lynn all last season and on last year’s reunion show. She’s a bully and a bitch, and I fully believe she’ll get hers.
Hi Gretchen, first and foremost I would like to tell you that I have watched this series since day 1. Over the many epsiodes I want you to know that you are a breath of fresh air. You are by far my favorite. I have a daughter whose father lives in CA. and she reminds me a lot of you. She is very pretty, blonde and a lot of fun to be around. I hope to see you on many more episodes. You know that old saying keep my friends close and my enemies closer. Wishing you the best
Kathy
I just saw the previews of Lynn going balistic on you and you can thank Tamra for that. she knew what had happened and just couldn’t wait to bring it up by asking Lynn how her girls are doing like she gives a shit about them.
Stay away from that bitch
Joanie
Hi Gretchen, since hearing about your “blog” for weeks now, I had to read it. It made me very sad that people just need to mess with others for whatever reason they have. After reading most of the responses, I agree with some but don’t agree with the nasty remarks. Tamra obviously has issues and needs professional help, reading those remarks are very painful and must certainly will set her off even more. You, unfortunately, become her object of hate, for the obvious reasons that you cannot control: your personality; your sunny disposition and your inner and outer beauty. She is out of control. With that said, my feelings are, you will know when to remove the blog and with Tamra’s record, keep a copy because it will most likely have to be up again and your fingers will be exhausted to retype it, ha!
Now Lynne, been there done that. In my single years, when I had personal time to donate, I was involved in an organization that coached children to row in the open ocean. I discovered the youngest child in the crew did not give her mother all the information on an upcoming trip, I took it upon myself to let her know the difference of what she was told and the truth. OMG, like Lynne I got, “What the hell do you know, I can raise my own daughter,” so on and so on. I was shocked actually; but, like you I did not have children and whenever a parent is questioned by anybody on their child raising, they instantly take the “You don’t have a kid so you dont’ know,” card. Whatever, after last Thursday night’s show. That child needs some tough love. I have to step children and they would NEVER have treated me in just a disrespectful manner AND ON NATIONAL TV. OMG, not acceptable at all.
Stay true to yourself, love the show, God Bless
Gretchen you must have the last laugh now look tamra is the one who actually cheated!!!!!!!
my bad, I used his latop..
Gretchen,
I just read your blog, and I totally believe you, I have from the begining. Tamara has issues, she is a very insecure, nasty, jealous mean women, who is clearly very unhappy with her life. I am so glad Simon wised up and is leaving her. Do not take this blog down. Sure, Tamara wants it down, the truth hurts. Bottom line is,”why does she care so much about your life”? I never understood the harsh judgements on your character, but now, egg is on her face. Her life is not so perfect and she is clearly not the model wife and “role model” that she claims to be. I wish you and Slade the best of luck.
Hey Gretchen I see some of these posters telling you to take down this blog — I say Hell To The NO! Notice as the show continues to show the re-runs people keep coming here to read the blog. They come here to see what happened, and those that say take it down ALSO came here to read it DUH!! Your sassy & classy and your just the bomb !! girfriend — don’t take this blog down til the cows come home!!
Do ask Slade to get a nice haircut though — its too shaggy and takes away from his nice facial features.
Gretchen,
I never would have found this website if it wasn’t for Tamara constant promoting it. I basically skimmed through your blog, all of the facts are really not that important to me, I do realize their importance to you though. I can tell the character just by watching the show. You are truly the only ochousewife with any value. Tamara is sadly, very jealous of you. So much so that it just consumes her. “How empty of her, to be so full of you.” I understand where she would be jealous. You are young, beautiful, self confident, and she…a wreck. A wanna-be, a sad mess. Keep ypur head high. I think Slade really cares for you, it’s your life, enjoy it to it’s fullest, Jeff would have wanted that for you.
I could tell from when you very first came on the show that you were genuine. You need to stay above all this bs and continue to be the good person that you are. I love your laugh – it makes me laugh! Tell Slade to shave his beard – he is so handsome and he is covering it all up!! Good luck to you!
This is one of the most childish blogs I’ve ever read. Be a grown up Gretchen and take the highway. You look like a villian with no point in this blog, and you are my favorite on the show too. I looked up to you and thought you might have some valid points in this blog, but all I saw was mean and cruel has words from you about Tamara. You were being Tamara through out this whole blog, keep that in mind. I understand that when you have tabloids spreading rumors because of what Tamara said can’t be easy, but you were being just as mean as Tamara through out this whole blog, needless to say I’m dissapointed because I always thought you would be non judgemental and take the high road. Good luck Gretchen.
Ashley, It would be very hard to be as you say non judgemental when you have someone like Tamra making such awful accusations. There is a point to this blog, defending the fact that she is a good person. Tamra should not have made those accusations if she did not want a response. Period! Gretchen , Tamra is getting what she deserves.Love Ya!
Just wanted to let you know I think you are a very beautiful person inside and out you try to keep it real when others are interested mostly in what they have or can buy seems to me they show off too much. I had stopped watching the show last year cause of Tamra and the way she treated you i could not stand to even watch anymore, I watched the relationship you and Jeff had and I respected you for your care and love of him,and to see Tamra act the way she did made me sick, I’m back to watching now and love how you call her out. Keep up the way you are and do not let anyone change who you are.
Hey Girl!
Im am SO glad you have chosed to keep this Blog up and not take it down at her request. The only reason why Tamra wants it down is because it exposes her ugliness. Ive watched this show since season one and she has been the nastiest of all the housewives. It makes sense that she would pick on you, your younger, more beaitufil, HAPPY (unlike her, successful. I mean and what does she really have going on other than this show? She’s just bitter and trully she is ugly. She can wear all the makeup she wants to look pretty but girl you cant put makeup over the ugly of your heart. I feel bad for her. Really I do. People like her will go through life just being un happy.So keep your head up and keep doing what your doing. Doesnt matter what anyone else thinks you just be true to your self. OH…..and the thing with Lynn’s daughter……seriously wake up Lynn. Obviously she’s got issues about how she feels about her parenting other wise she wouldnt not have been upset about you talkign to her daughter. Wake up Lynn!!! Love you Gretchen!!
-Eb
Tamara should be fired from the show!! Not only for being horrible to you but also for just being so boring!! Who gives a s**t about her life and her boring ass husband who, by the way, she lets control her. She’s all drama for your mama!!
Gretchen,
I wanted to say that your are a very classy, beautiful women who deserves to be happy. I hope you find happiness and you make the show. I watch you and think how wonderful you look at life. Tamara is what Tamara is- A Fake! Stay true to who you are and keep up the wonderful show. Enjoy life!
Gretchen,
I have heard so much about this blog and finally got to read it. I have never cared for Tamara from the beginning and she continues to prove herself to be a true b*tch. I don’t think you can watch one episode w/out her commenting on you. She is so jealous that she is older and does struggle with weight and her aging looks which by the way she is not an attractive women. Don’t get me wrong I am not saying she is ugly but she is by far at the bottom of you ladies. Did you see how excited she was to get a compliment from the psychic? Can you say desperate? I guess you have to take it when you can get it. I read Simon’s blog about her saying she could get someone better looking. I think it is just the opposite – Simon you could do far better then that very sad and unhappy insacure women you call your wife. So Gretchen continue to be sweet and beautiful – do not change a bit.
Gretchen, you can always tell when a person is lying because they get all upset and over react to things that are nothing at all. Take comfort in knowing the REAL truth. You have no one to convince. What goes around, comes around, and by the events in Tamara’s life now, I would say the truth is being told! And the fact that Lynn turned the tables on you regarding your concern for their daughter should open your eyes to what she can be like. Keep your eye on their daughter. Someone needs to, and some day they will thank you if it isn’t already too late. Keep being you. I believe you are an awesome friend to many. And Slade(who is HOT!) is one lucky guy.
I think Tamera is very jealous of you first off. You are ten years younger and much better looking. Second, I just watched you on “What Happens Next” and I agree that Tamera’s divorce might just be a publicity stunt. Hope not for her children’s sake. Simon deserves so much more than a back stabbing, gutter mouth skank. Keep your head high. You know who you are and don’t ever let anyone tear you down.
You go girl!!
I find it amazing that you haven’t sued Tamra for defamation of character. What a bitter, unhappy, insecure woman she must be. Too bad the quality of the housewives declined when Jeana left. She may not have been reliable but she never seemed to be spiteful and vindictive either. I hope you are enjoying much happiness, you deserve it. I laugh every time I hear about the “shop with a housewife” contest on Bravo, because you are the only one I can imagine spending more than 5 minutes with. Keep being you and don’t let Tamra or Vicki get you down. Remember they are bitter old women.
Please do not remove this blog about Tamra. I think the show sugarcoats many of the things that happen with no intention of telling the real truth. After I read the blog, I now understand what type of a person Tamra is she needs to leave the show. Thanks for the information you provided, you are a breath of fresh air on the show.
Hey Gretchen! I just read this post for the first time because of the talk on the new season about it, I have to say I’m glad you cleared the air, I’ve always been on team Gretchen! Keep doing what your doing I love your positive attitude!!!
Gretchen,
you have got to understand that this guy was starting to bother Tamra and getting into her life. You can’t expect her to just see all these ” pictures ” he was sending her and say: ” Oh whatever! He edited Gretchen into them. ”
To be honest, she kindly asked you to remove this blog, as I doubt it’s true. You rejected her, which was not kind. This also proves that Tamra is more mature than you. Look at this, you have a huge blog on here on lies about her, when she has nothing on her website about you. I suggest you remove it, if you want to show some maturity, and if you ever want to become friends again.
I’d also like to address your ” parenting ” tips to Lynne and Frank. You’re not a mother, so don’t give parents’ tips. Sure, Lynne and Frank have to toughen up, but they’ll learn on their own. And Slade is a poser, he’s not even with his kids. I’d hate for yours and Lynne’s friendship to be over because of your ‘ tips ” to how to parent.
Look, Gretchen, I really like you, but I think you’re lost right now.
Please take what I said into consideration.
-Michelle
Michelle,
Have you considered that previous kindly requests from Tamra to bury the hatchet (resulting in Gretchen’s extending yet another olive branch) have resulted in nothing other than biting Gretchen in the butt? She’s got a limited number of cheeks.
As for the guy (J) that was sending Tamra fodder for the feud: easy. She confronts Gretchen and (whether she believes Gretchen or not) immediately cuts off any communication with the guy. What would be the point to carry an ongoing association with him? It takes two.
You’re right about Gretchen not being a parent and still offering unsolicited parenting tips to Lynne & Frank; however, if it isn’t apparent to you that this couple is self-medicating (on alcohol and/or drugs) then we’re not watching the same show. The fruit doesn’t fall far from the tree. Perhaps Gretchen did the wrong thing for the right reason.
Gretchen…No need to defend yourself..It is so obvious to us viewers that Tamra is a LIAR.
My prediction…Tamra and Jay get together..maybe just to piss Simon off…’cuz that’s the type of person she is! Kharma!
Gretchen I love you, but you are keeping it going also. I’m not sure what you mean about checking out that website. Do you really think Simon has Tamra’s best interest in mind. He is a controlling baby. For you to jump on his band wagon will just bring shame to you. I think Tamra getting so involved was wrong! Don’t do the same, she is getting a divorce like her or not. And her kids will suffer. I just hate to see you do this because I actually believed you had a big heart.You defending yourself about the rumors J told I completely understand that. You bashing Tamra I’m not sure I understand how that makes one better than the other. Your addorable don’t play the game. ly
Gretchen,
I believe you to be a much bigger person than Tamra. I believe she is so jealous of you adn that is the only place she is coming from. She is a two-faced evil hateful women! I am not sad for her divorce but only her children. I don’t believe a thing that comes out of Tamra’s mouth…liar, liar liar is Tamra and jealous, jealous, jealous! I’m so sorry for your loss of Jeff and thought I dont trust Slade I hope it is a good thing for you and that my distrust of him tuns out to be wrong!
Gretchen I think you are beautiful and wonderful. Tamra is a jealous old hag, she just wishes she could be as half as beautiful as you. She needs to learn that jealousy is getting her know where. She needs to worry more about her own troubled marriage and kids and also her financial issues and leave you alone. She needs to face the facts she will never be you and will never look anywhere as good as you do no matter how much plastic surgery she gets! Keep up the good work girl you are truly amazing!
Well what else can I add to all this? This blog really made me realize what was going on last season. Its also quite obvious that Tamara is very jealous of you Gretchen, even this season she was overheard on the audio saying “wow she looks gorgeous” It really is people’s insecurities that make them do the things they do, planned or unplanned. You can’t blame her Gretchen because you have something she will never have, and I’m not trying to flatter you its just true.. You are younger, prettier, not tied down, and have a personality that makes most people want to be around you. Women always get jealous of those women in particular… trust me! So great job on handling the whole thing and Im still hooked on to this season lol!
Gretchen****Great blog. You are one amazing,wonderful person—your heart and soul just shines in your smile. As far as Tamara goes,she is not happy with herself and she doesn’t love herself–so she can’t like others and these type of people come and go in our lifes—-they come in for a reason—-not that we care to have all the shit they cause,but it was meant to be and we learn so much from this chaos and hell—it makes us much stronger and we learn so much which helps us to mature and move on in life—-they remain stuck and miserable and all that they throw out at you comes right back at them—-so be it. You don’t have to prove anything to anyone Gretchen—Tamara is so jealous of you not only because you are so beautiful,but also because of alllllllllllllllllllll the beautiful qualities you have—sometimes we just have to let it go—-it’s not worth our precious time. We can pray for people such as Tamara,but all that ugliness etc….is all on her,not you. As I was once told,write down your thoughts–such as this blog and your feelings about Tamara and then you just burn it!!!!! POOF!!!!! It’s gone. You are a very intelligent woman===you don’t need miserable people such as her in your life and since being on the show with her,killlllll her with kindness~~~~you definately are the bigger person and just move past such negative people. We all love you so much Gretchen for the true,beautiful,real woman you are. Keep smiling—keep your heart happy always,and OMG can you sing—-the song is sooooooooooo beautiful,precious,and touching. Best of everything to you and Slade. Take care always.
Why would you say that hon? Slade and I spend a lot of time with Gavin and Grayson.
Seems like the time has been spent every since the story broke about the child support issue and everything else. Gretchen Please tell us the truth about him and the child support thing. AND please tell us YOU did not pay it for him!!!!!!!! We want to be happy for you but it is hard to be with him.
I have been friends with Slade for 9 years now and I am very familiar with what has transpired with his son. Please do not believe everything you read in the press. Slade is paying of Grayson’s medical bills sweetie not child support. His son has had more than 4 million in medical costs since being diagnosed with brain cancer 4 years ago. He has had 7 major brain surgeries. Every 6 weeks it’s another 30K for an MRI to see how much the tumor has grown. He will be paying off Grays medical bills and doing what he can to keep Gray has healthy and normal as possible. There is no cure for his sons condition. We also spend as much time as possible with Gray and they talk several times a day. It’s sad people will say what ever they can to make up a story to sell magazines or promote themselves. PS he has never and would never ask me to pay his debt. He is more than capable of handling that himself but thank you for your concern.
Gretchen, I don’t have a opinion on slade like everyone eles dose, i think that he makes you happy and thats all that matters in a relationship!! I think your supppperrrr prettyyy and are going to make a AMAZING mom
It really irritates me that Alexa was so rude about you just telling her that your there if she needs to talk, you are nice and sweet and if it was me i would have been thankful for you trying to help.
I really look up to you, and think its super cool that you are starting your own business and stuff
xoxo Lilyyyyyy
getting ready to watch tonight’s episode. But first I have to say I can not believe the issue Lynn had with you talking to Alexa. She had no problem with it when you called her on the phone and asked if she minded and she said that you were sweet for doing it! I am not liking Lynn’s attitude this season. You were the only one who stood by her last season when everyone else was mean and now she’s treating you this way and has become bff’s with tamra? That’s just not right! And all you were offering was for her to have someone to talk too. I have my own children now and would love for someone to do that with my kids! She’s just mad because she thinks it makes her look bad since she wasn’t very concerned before!
I’m sure you didn’t mean to add the 0…did you?
I thought MRI’s were around $800.00 not $30K…my husband is a physician.
Where I live my husband was charged $3000 for one MRI, then they called him and said they needed him to come back in for a second one cause they didnt do something right with the first one, so went back and got another one done and they charged him $3000 for a second time, although i was not his faught that they messed up.
complain loud and in writing and cc the press, works every time, don’t accept incompetence. they made the error they should pay for it.
If Slade has no money to pay child support why is he taking expensive trips to Las Vegas and Miami? He is choosing not to pay child support and inside spend his money on himself and you. Gretchen, I’ve been with men like Slade…don’t have children with him! Please take off your rose colored glasses. I feel so sad for Grayson…it is one thing to talk on the phone and another thing to be there in person for your son. Slade is slime….
why on earth is lynn is friends with “the creep” and why is “the creep” a fan of ‘vickie on Facebook?
You know I would never have come to read this blog either if it were not for Tamra telling me all about it.
You know my whole theory of her wanting to play nice, but just not quite being able to do it is because she wants this well written blog taken down. Thats the whole reason. She is just sad… I have thought so from day one.
Even before I read your blog I was on your side. You come off as a caring person with a good heart.
We all have made mistakes in our life. You admit to yours. Tamra has even admitted to being stupid back in her hey day of drinking and partying.
Sorry you have gotten such a bad rap. I like what you said in this blog. Now that you have said it keep baing the Gretchen that takes the high ground. You have been very classy
Gretchen…. It is widely known i.e. your beauty, sensitivity to others, humor and personality rises to the surface & observed favorably by many. Moving forward from the “Tamara Saga”, the essence & class you display of who you are, will become more evident to those who know you well and those who observe. At the end of the day, if you have great health, love and purpose in life nothing else matters & supercedes all! It’s obvious you are on your way to greatness both professionally & personally.
BTW… I live locally within your immediate area and we absolutely love you! Keep it real…. you go girl!! Cynthia
It all makes sense now! Thanks for posting this
I’ve been on your “side” this whole time with you and Tamara, because your points are logical and make sense. Also, what would you gain from lying…You are so strong-willed and strong-minded and i really do look up to you. Tamara is probably just jealous, because she’s older and is in a bad relationship.
best of luck with you and Slade, i hope you too go far!
Gretchen you are a beautiful girl, pay that bitch no attention. She tries to get a rise outta you, don’t give her the pleasure! When someone tries to say something mean about anything or anyone you always say something like “thats not nice” or “thats just mean”, you have a big heart, i think your great so keep your pretty head up, and don’t take her shit. Give them hell!!! Love ya, Lorie
I must be dumb, really. Because every time I read that Simon email, I don’t get it. What exactly is his beef with you on such a personal level to get all Svengali about it and make Tam-RA a puppet? Tequila business bad? And who EMAILS their wife? Um…whaaat? Then copies the world? My husband has done some dumb crap, but I don’t think I would email him and copy his friends. I can kick his ass behind closed doors..
Whatever, I liked the rebuttal on the Bravo blog, from Tam-RA. Keeping it Klassy.
Oh, BTW…cute Turbo Tax commercial!
Gretchen…. at first I thought you were a gold digger, but now, after seeing the entire last season and this new season, my mind has been changed. Tamra seems to have an unhappy marriage right now. She may be jealous of you which is why she simply can’t help herself slinging mud your way. It makes her look better if you are the “bad housewife”. Keep your head held high, don’t listen to what the bitter housewives say or do to you. The truth always comes out in the end. I love you Gretchen and I LOVE YOUR HAIR!!!!
I did not need to ead your blog to figure out Tamara was throwing you under the bus. It doesn’t take a rocket sciencienst to see from the very first she was VERY jealous of you and the woman is insecure and fake as a 3 dollar bill.
Hi Gretchen. I think you are a good person and have a good heart. I’ve thought this since you started on the show last season. Tamra rubs me the wrong way and always has.
I think in a way she is just trying to amp up the drama to get more camera time, but I do belive she is a trouble maker and needs to get a life. I actually feel sorry for her especially now that her and Simon are divorcing.
Isn’t it funny how when people talk trash about other people they don’t realize it but they are usually talking about themselves??!
Take care!
All i can say that i am in strong faith with slade i believe he really do lover her and care abt her end of discussion.
Gretchen, I’ve always thought Tamra was conceited, miserable, and annoying!! I understand she was obviously not happy in her marriage but she should’ve stood up to Simon a long time ago and maybe she wouldn’t be going through a divorce. You on the other hand have always been a happy, upbeat, fun person, even during Jeff’s sickness, you didn’t feel like you had to put down other people to make yourself feel better or look better. I am with you all the way and would keep this blog up as long as you want, Tamra only wanted to try to make ammends with you agian so you’d take the blog down, well if it was all lies why would she care? You called her out and hit her where it hurts and she deserves it, you definately can’t go around letting people do whatever and say whatever they want to you in life without firing back so FIRE AWAY! You are a good person and the saying that “bad things happen to good people” stands true, trust me my husband and I have been victim to that. Stay strong and don’t back down and don’t feel bad about your blog, posting the truth is hardly talking about someone! You are my favorite housewife simply because of how you are..most of the other houswives other thann Lynn are way too uptight and prissy, stay who you are!
Gretchen,
I read the Bravo blogs weekly, so I was pretty up-to-date on the drama, but didn’t know as many details until now. On another note, I have two questions.
1) Would you consider doing a giveaway of some of your clothes? It would make a hard-working midwestern girl’s dreams!
2) Do you wear extensions? Maybe I missed it, but it sounded like you said you didn’t cut your hair, but it was shorter in the last episode. Maybe it was just the curls that shortened the look.
Thanks!
Hi Allison,
Thanks for tuning in and thanks for the support. I have a new section on my website that is coming called “Gretchen’s Closet” and we will selling clothes fromm my wardrobe for charity. I am thinking about doing a giveaway as well. Check back to my site at http://www.gretchenchristine.com over the next week or so and please stay in contact.
Regarding my hair, I do not wear extensions, I just pined it up in a little bob so I could complete my Stepford Wife look LOL, I Hope you liked it?
Gretchen,
I really don’t think this was necessary to post this blog about Tamra. If it’s the truth or not, do you see Tamra having a blog on her website about you? NO! Tamra’s the one who wanted to make peace between you two, and she even got into a fight with Simon about it as we saw. I think you should show some maturity and take this blog down. All you’re doing is getting more and more people against Tamra. Yes, you’re right, she should of believed you, not J, but you guys are grown adults! Call her up for a cup of coffee for breakfast, solve this issue once and for all! You two are my favorites! I don’t want you guys to fight nor I don’t want to take sides.
Love ya both!
STFU Michelle – If you don’t like Gretchens blog then beat it!! Your continual harping is getting you nowhere!
Hi Gretchen! 1st of all I, like many others think you’re the BEST Housewife of OC – best personality (although Vicky is shocking me this season!), heart, clothes, etc.. – I didn’t know you had this site until Andy’s show the other night when I heard about it – and I, like everybody else was always wondering whyyyy Tamra has had it out for you so much – WELL, I FIGURED IT OUT! Tamra is putting all of her hate, rage, anger, emotions that she has for the woman who STOLE her father from her mother – ON YOU! THAT’S IT! She hates this “other woman” that stole her father from her mother but, more importantly (although she was 25, gimme a break!) STOLE HER FATHER FROM HER! And THAT’S why she has such hatred and anger towards you – (afterall that’s how she looked at you when you 1st came on the show – like a golddigger or homewrecker) it has very little to do w/all that other b.s. – she’s trying to make YOU pay for what that “other woman” did to her family! Make sense? It does to me! That’s my 2 cents – be well and I’m glad to see you are parlaying your stint on OC into other ventures – smart woman! Ali
Na, leave it up, Gretchen. Tamra can’t get on camera fast enought to bash you at every turn and it’s nice to see what was really going on. Your message explains it all and it correlates with the time frame of things. Of course she would want you to take it down – it shows her as the fraud that she is. Tamra never had any real intention to be friends with you. If she did she would have stopped trashing you everytime she gets air time.
Its sad that you have to explain yourself but we have a saying here in Hawaii “Bachi.” which pretty much means if you do bad stuff it will always come back to bite you in the ass. So continue to be true to yourself, continue to always take the high road, if that person is not paying your bills who cares what they do and in the end you have only God to answer to and no one else. As much as i love the show, can’t wait for the day that you find peace away from these crazy women. aloha
Hi Gretchen,
That Tamra is a bitch. She is only trying to make herself look good on TV. She is the kind of person who likes to step on others to promote her onself. Don’t worry girl we all have your back and know you are a good girl who likes to have fun. I think Tamra is just jealous because you are younger and hotter than she could ever be. She is threatened by you. Out with the old lady and in with the beauty. Take care girl and look forward to seeing you more on season 6.
Gretchen,
You’re my favorite on the show and I’m just finally reading your blog! I think you’re a beautiful lady & you have a log going for you! Just keep away from the silly drama that may be around you…it’s just no good. I was really dissapointed in some of the other girls behaviors last season and it just continues…
Best wishes to you though…you deserve some happy times;)
Also wanted to add that I thought you offering Lynn’s daughter “an ear” was nice…. I think Lynn took it the wrong way. I think people blow things up and out of proportion. Anyway, just thought I’d add:)
Sad days! Lots of support for you so that’s great! If you happen to be in UT for the film festival- shoot me an email. I happen to be a great esthetician-over 10 yrs. I can give you a supperior skin treatment. I’ll give you my webpage if you can email me privately.Good luck and enjoy the cold weather!
Gretchen,
I am totally on your side.. Keep up the blog its just your side of the story and she needs to get over herself. I love you to death and think you are so much fun and would be a blast to hang out with, you were just in the wrong place at the wrong time. Tamera is just jealous of you because she is stuck in a bad relationship and she wants to be the person like you out having fun, she is too into herself and thinks that she is better than everyone… I can’t wait to see the next season with you there. I always enjoy watching you. Have a good night! Heath
Don’t remove this blog. It speaks some good truth. Most people realize how hateful Tamra is. Nobody really believes her ridiculous babble.
Hi Gretchen!
Thanks for posting your blog. It really did clear things up. It is so sad that people will stoop so low to ruin the happiness in your life. The only good that came out of this experience is that you are a stronger person. Keep that strength and share it with your loved ones. I’m sure it hasnt been easy for them to watch you go through this. You have remained gracious and classy through it all. Keep smiling! ~Amy
Gretchen,
I Knew that Tamra is FULL of BS! She has been telling many different comment on her blog and press and on tv. She is so sick. You are my favorite housewives out of all NY, ATl and NJ… You and Slade look together. I am glad that he make u happy and u are lucky to have him. I am watch real housewives of OC because of u.I usually cant wait till on Thursday to watch tv show. I love to see u laugh and funny and silly. It make me smile or laugh too. Stay strong.. Don’t ever take blog down. Take care
Gretcen,
Tamra is merely jealous of who you are. A beautiful young woman who does not have to answer to anyone but herself. You still have youth on your side and Tamra’s is fading quickly. She does not know how to be her own person. I feel sorry for anyone in a failing marriage, but anyone could have seen this one coming.
Just stay true to yourself Gretchen.
Hi
I have been watching the show from the begining, and Tamara is only fooling herself with her mean spirited actions tords you. I know TV shows only show what they want you to see but it has been very clear to me and others that it comes down to jeliousy and insecurity issues. You are a very beautiful and sweet hearted lady and some people can’t handle the fact that someone might be more beautiful then them ( in and out.) you are a much more classy!!
I am sorry that you are going through this difficult time. Just remember your friends who have stuck by you from the begenning are you true friends. I can relate I went through a very similar incedent myself for about a year but the truth showed through at the end. It was a very good lesson to me on who my true friends were.
Take care Kim
Gretchen, I always knew you were real and now I read the story that validates my feelings towards you. I have defended you to my friends as they only had blinders on and would listen to Tamra. You are right on with Lynn also. Stay real and have a Great time living the Life you were ment to have. Peace.
PS Loved your hair on After Hours
Dear Gretchen,
You are smart and beautiful… what I dont understand is why Tamara make this her business when is not….
She is jealous of you and at the moment she is not such a happy camper…..
Gretchen – you spiced up the show!!! Wow, you cleared up allot of what I misunderstood and have come to trust you more so. Love your personality and your love for life.
Gretchen, i saw on the show where Tamra (or Slamra because that is all she does is try to slam you)was talking about this blog…good for you calling her out. You have been my favorite of any of the housewifes because you are REAL. You are the most beautiful inside and out and you make it so much fun to watch. if Slade makes you happy after all the pain you have gone through, then good for you…he is just as funny as you are. YOU are why i kept watching this show…and for your parenting advice to Lynn…how funny you are the one with out any children but you know more about what PARENTING is all about and it is NOT about being their FRIENDS. Don’t change one bit….
Gretchen-
Maybe you said this on camera, maybe you didn’t, or maybe you are not aware of it. The reason Tamra “cares” so much about what is going on with your life is because when you joined the show, you threatened her role as the “young hottie”. Before you came along, she was the youngest, most attractive with the best physique. She even addresses it in Season’s Five opening credits (“Housewives may come younger, but they don’t come hotter”). Newsflash: she is talking about you. She is obviously a very insecure girl (she may have Simon to thank for that), who took every opportunity to knock you down. And honestly, I never noticed you do anything to offend her or give her a reason to treat you the way she did. As a matter of fact, you seemed genuinely lovely and friendly to all of them and really Jeanna and Lynne (at least in Season 4) ever treated you with any respect. SO Tamra created all this drama as a reason to throw you under the bus and she did. I really wouldn’t worry about it and would let it go, because anyone who watches this show can clearly see how jealous she is of you. And we just feel sorry for her and you should too. And by the way, don;t let the show change you- it obviously changed Tamra and look where thats gotten her.
On a side note, I also want to tell you did the right thing with Alexa. As you (or Slade, I can’t remember) said, better to be safe than sorry. It’s very clear that kid is walking all over them and they give her zero discipline. I hope by watching these episodes Lynne will see that she needs to stop trying to be her daughter’s friend and start behaving more like her mother. It’s actually embarrassing to watch. Obviously she must have some insecurity about it otherwise if she was 100% secure in her parenting skills and relationship with Alexa, she would not have flown off the handle at you like she did. And maybe Alexa is a bit of a drama queen, seeking attention or even more discipline from her parents. Every teen overreacts. You called her out on it and she got defensive as well, because you brought it to her parents attention. Lynne and Frank need to put down the chardonnay (or hash brownies) and start becoming more active in their daughter’s lives. They remind me of Lauri’s (Waring) daughter- no goals, just want to lounge around, shop, and party, and feel they are entitled to act that way. They could all use a lesson from Brianna (the only normal kid on your show).
Anyway, thanks for letting me get that off my chest. Keep your chin up, do the right thing, and rise above all the drama…
Jen
Thank you for your blog. And DO NOT take it down.
I have never been able to figure out why she had such a problem with you except she is TOTALLY jealous of you. Her and Vickie are two peas in a pod. When the attention is taken from them they turn catty, always happens.
Just goes to show you, what goes around comes around, who’s husband filed for divorce???????????? Evil little witch!!!
Keep you head held high!!!
tamara is just jealous of you. she’s a stupid sad ass bitch. don’t let her get to you.
Gretchen,
This is only the second time I’ve ever commented on a blog, but I’ve been watching the ”Housewives” series for a while. You have been completely vilified by Tamra. It is painfully obvious that she is so completely and totally jealous of everything you do. I don’t get it—why can’t she just be your friend? What you did in standing by Jeff was dignified. You seem to be a very nice person. I am of the opinion of most of the respondents here–hold your head high, enjoy life as you have and just be the sweetheart you’ve been. Best, Sherri
Gretchen you should just ignore that old hag and move on with your life.She is just a jealous old lady who has nothing better to do with her time than be bitter. her marriage is falling apart she has to sell her house. if she maybe went out and got a job maybe she would be able to keep her house. anyway she is just jealous because of the smart funny genuine person you are. and she is a drama queen if there is no drama in her life then she has to go out and create it just ignore her and tell her to shove it.
Gretchen, I’m from San Juan Puerto Rico and I love the show and the drama! you guys are drama! But you stand out from the others. Tamra has nothing but envy of you she is a miserable housewife and she does not know how to keep her family together. Talking bullsh…t about you is never going to make her a better person she is not as pretty as you or Alexis who are the 2 best most beautifull housewife I ever seen? Tamra needs to look inside her trouble life and mariage because it seems that she does not know how to suvive without Simmon. I do not like Tamra and a lot of people doooooooooooo. She should get profesional help pronto!!!!! Please continue to be the way you are and keep up your head high you have an original body and Tamra is and old Biatch!
Lots of laughs from the Caribbean!!
do you have anything to say about those pictures of you all over the computer ?
Yes, #1 beware of Photoshop! #2 If you have ever taken fun silly pictures beware, because at some point some douche bag may steal them from your home and sell them for money when you tell him you have no interest in dating him. #3 Be careful because what happens in college may not stay in college. Most people taking pictures never assume other people may use them to exploit you or other woman someday. #4 If someone befriends you, run a back ground check. You may find out the dude has 9 criminal counts and 3 other restraining orders against him. Wish I would have run that check a head of time. Any other questions?
I think you all are wonderful, beautiful and very intelligent women! Don’t let the bastards grind you down!!
ps. you’re so friggin pretty!
Team Gretchen!!!
I always had Gretchens side in all of this, but since watching her attack Lynns parenting when she has no children of her own, Im starting to wonder if its not Karma biting back.
Lynn is a horrible parent. Giving birth to someone doesn’t mean anything. It’s how your raise a child after they are born. Looks like yours missed a few steps.
I agree 100%, Watching Lynn in the last episode she is fragile and for her to lash out on Gretchen was wrong as well as the wrong person, she should have yelled at her daughter. I for one thought she was on something?.
Gretchen I could see how you were Just trying to help since it is true that kids will talk to others more than there own parents and as soon as Lynn watches the show and hear her daughter begging to be grounded she will know how she has been played and manipulated by her daughter. If Lynn does not do something quick she will be pregnant if someone does not intervene as soon as possible.
Watching Alexia in the Mall swearing at her Mom just shows what a brat he daughter is and does not care who she is hurting.
Thanks for trying Gretchen, your heart was in the right place.
PS. I have to wonder if some of the negitive comments is Tamara posting under an Alias? Sneaky Jealous one she is…
Hey Gretchen,
Tamra must have been a “Mean Girl” in high school. She has been relentless w/her attacks against you. She has been jealous of you from the start. If you go back to the season when you both discussed riding bikes & you both stated you wanted pink Harley’s & Jeff got you yours 1st. She’s very jealous about materialistc things/lifestyles of other housewives. Now she knows what you went through w\all those lies. Simon is making all those allegations about ex’s & infidelitieS & she wants to be believed. Don’t be bothered w\her. She could never be your real friend. Your the best!!!
Grethchen,
Keep the blog up!! Tamra is jealous and has talked so much BS about you. Even before reading this blog I knew Tamra was just jealous of you and making a lot of it up. You are just setting the record straight. Good for you!! You are my favorite on the show! You are so smart and beautiful. Love your laugh! Take care!! See you Thursday (on Bravo) LOL
TOTALLY AGREE!!!!!!!!!! KEEP THIS POST UP
Gretchen…seriously?! You seem like a smart enough girl…take my advice, stop worrying so much about what one women says to you! Its crazyl I couldn’t even get through your blog…you spent what seems like hours of your life obsessing about what someone else says about you. Its so not worth it. Let it go, stop the drama. Take a stand for girls who look up to you. I promise u won’t regret it and you will find true peace in your life
Lacy, Gretchen is a smart girl. Her blog was written well considering all the issues she had to address. I tried “turning my cheek” to people spreading rumours about me and it backfired. People assumed that my silence was an admission of guilt. Let Gretchen tell her side of the story. BTW: I didn’t even know this blog existed until MaRat (anagram for Tamra) mentioned it. I’m sure that if MaRat ever apologised pubically, Gretchen would no longer have a need for this blog. People like MaRat start drama and then cry victim when people try to defend themselves. GRETCHEN’S BLOG IS DEFENSIVE (NOT OFFENSIVE) in nature. Let the girl DEFEND herself!
Hey Lacy, You must be someone with a very short attention span.
Tsk Tsk
Btw – What would make you think Gretchen has no peace in her life? She seems quite at peace with herself because we all know that the truth sets you FREE!!
Unlike Tamra who is as sick as her secrets!!
Lacy,
Are you kidding me with this? Gretchen could care less about SLAMARA (to steal a nickname from Paula above for Tamara – HILARIOUS!).
This post is intended for Gretchen’s MILLIONS of fans to tell the truth.
SLAMARA or Tamara is the one who is EVILISHLY obsessed with Gretchen and ruining her reputation.
SLAMARA even pitches this blog on the show. LOL!!! I wouldn’t have known this blog existed if it wasn’t for Tamara mentioning it.
Ironically, Tamara mentions this blog because SHE’s the one worried about what Gretchen says about her!!!
Lacy, get your facts straight. If you’re team SLAMARA, go to her website. Oh wait, she doesn’t have one does she???? LOL! I wonder why.
Evil people don’t get blessed.
Gretchen, keep this website up girl!!! You’re fans depend on it!!!
Thank God Tamara told me your blog was here!!! LOL!
Wu-hoo! Team Gretchen!
Tamara is a TOOL!!! God I can’t stand her bitching this season more than any other one, and I think Simon is a Jack ass!! I hope you and Slade come to NY for an appearance, would love to meet ya! Your too cute… Bottom line, they are all jealous of you!!! If Tamara was on the NJ cast she would have had her ass kicked already!! And seriously, Lynn needs to get off the pipe, her kids are snots… P.S is J um, Greek? His last name sounds Greek, if so then this is the only time I’m ashamed of my heritage… sorry
.. love ya!!
I try to leave comments about your blogs on the Bravo web site, but they never get posted. So, I thought I would post my comments here. First of all, it’s a strange coincidence that as soon as Lynne starts to hang out with Tamra, Lynne has suddenly turned very negative towards you. Coincidence? I think not! She should remember the horrid way that Tamra & Vicki treated her last season. Unless, of course, she is now following Tamra’s “keep your enemies closer” mantra. I will also say that if she had such a problem with you speaking to her daughter about her behavior, why did she allow her to go shopping with you to begin with? It’s not like you called Alexa on the sly. You were very up front about it. Also, WHERE THE HECK IS LYNNE’S BLOG? Doesn’t the show require the cast to blog? If they don’t, they really should. Boy, I am chomping at the bit to see this year’s reunion special! Also, I’d like to recommend that you and the other ladies refuse to accept any more of Vicki’s invitations, until she starts to be more receptive to your invitations. We all know how “busy” Vicki is, because she never stops telling us…but it’s starting to seem really rude. If you don’t have the time to attend the events held by the other women on the show the majority of the time, just quit the show. Oh, but then she is too greedy to give up anything. That sounds bad, I know, but either make a commitment to participate or forget about it. It’s getting old. Well, best of luck to you Gretchen wherever life leads you. You’re good-hearted & it shows!
Gretchen I just have a few more things to add because I have been watching the show since it aired : Gosh were do I begin, 1st off I love ya, you were a breath of fresh air when you came on because they kept switching characters and it was annoying after a while.. I truely believed that your romance with Jeff was legit, I saw it in your eyes.. I too was always attracted to older men.. 2nd) I don’t think Lynn is a bad person, but she shouldn’t have scolded you for trying to befriend Alexis when the girl CLEARLY cried and said NO ONE UNDERSTANDS ME, hey I’ve been there… SLADE is a FATHER and put them in their place. you also took care of Jeff’s kids and I clearly remember you telling his kids its important to get jobs rather than living off what Jeff had left him ( ok I do not know the details of his will but we all know he was wealthy) believe me sitting around the house SUCKS, money does not bring you happiness , I learned this 1st hand.. As for Tamara’s comment to Lynn about you giving parenting skills, um ok really? Ryan is a screw up… The kid opted to go to PRISON and have a record for the rest of his life which would jeopordize any career possibilities he would have comming his way.. BUT just because he’s on a reality show some company wanted to bank on that while hundred’s of American’s are out of work for months such as myself whom are educated and worked for years..Simon may be a control freak and man would I never ever be with a man like him, I would rather be alone for the rest of my life than deal with that but he is right about Ryan who looks high all the time and can barely piece together a declaritive sentance.. As for Tamara judging you about those pictures leaked on the internet so friggin what! She made an ass out of her husband last season by grabbing his junk and being all over him like they were in high school and even Vickie her so called BFF said it made her feel uncomfortable.. big deal, how many celebs have screwed up or people who made sex tapes or taken naughty pics, we are sexually beings, even poor Kim Khardasian made one, she was young and I spoken to her personally she is a DOLL!! I’m sure Mrs. T has one laying around I hope someone leaks it!
Going back to lynn… her daughters have no aspirations in life and its sad.. I do admit I had a nose job, BUT at 21! you do not fully grow into your face or breasts before 18! I live in NYC and had a world renowed doctor do my surgery.. my mother supported me, but I PAYED for it, all 4,000 dollars for it, I SAVED SINCE I WAS 15, years of being taughnted and it did made me feel better.. you do not see the change until after a year but to me Raquel’s nose looks the SAME! I had a world renowed doctor and I was 21 I went crazy saying I want Angelina’s nose, he stopped me and told me NO! what suits your face is best. I wanted my jaw line sculpted because my face was round to have srtucture again he refused and my breast done, looking back now at 27 I’m glad I didn;t do it.. at my age then I had to look at girls in Fashion school, compete with them work in magazines, work with models, had Linsay, Nicole and Paris as role models… Lohan is 23 , she looks 33 with the crap she’s done to her face.. the worst mistake was getting restyline in my lips when my lips were big enough and I looked like a fish who got punched!!! Out of all of the Housewives franchise the OC ones have taken it TOOO far, LYNN, LORI, VICKIE, The pulling, the boobs, Gretch dont change a THING about you, even in 10 years you will look amazing.. I met Bethanney from NY housewives, shes 39, 5 months pregnant and looks AMAZING! maybe she had her breast lifted but I have met many celebs working in magazines, I was so nervous that I cried and she was so gracious that she hugged and kissed me.. bottom line don’t take their bs, seriously.. HOW DARE VICKY ask you if slade pays for your bills? when Jeff was ill she asked whats up with the will? Hi are you BFF’S? Money hungry Vickie for real!!! I would never want to be her kid, god I feel sorry for them and if I hear one more WOOHOO I swear I’m just putting my mute button on and reading the titles underneath!! Tamara has disliked you from day 1, cause she thinks she’s a hot piece of ass.. look she doesnt look bad for 4 kids, but come on! back stabber.. I’m 27 years old if I have something to say to anyone I will say it TO YOUR FACE! I’m not 16, grow up TAMMMM RAAAAAHHH!! teehhehe let’s get her naked drunk! Ok kegger party soriety girl.. Maybe because I’m a tough New Yorker and I don’t take anyone’s bs! As far for Lynn’s kids, to this day if I told my my to Shut the F up oh boy would I get a slay across the face and rightfully so! I feel bad for dropping the f bomb sometimes in front of my mom and I dont mean to.. I grew up in a traditional Greek household were we didnt curse.. it wasnt tolerated, we werent abuse but punished.. like no TV.. Plus I love your hair, I used to have long thick healthy hair like yours until I was diagnosed with a genetic disease and from all the shock and anxiety my hair started to fall out, I lost my eyelashes and had clumps missing in my hair… I have to use clip in extentsions, but what can you do.. I wish you had your hair,, one day I hope my stress and anxiety can go away and become the person I used to be.. You are a great inspiration, you loved Jeff, you lost him, and when you did the cameras werent there, yes Slade is in your life but I’m sure you often think about Jeff.. I lost my dear uncle when he was 49 of a disease that effected 8 in a million, half of me died when he died, I made a shrine of him just like you have of Jeff.. I have a strong family ( I’m one of 18 cousins and we will always remeber him) I feel you pain, time heals pain, but we can never forget the ones we lost and the impact the made in our lives.. thank you for taking the time to read this.. P.S I loved your books on Watch What Happens Bakers Rulez.. xoxox
Gretchen, I think you were right to defend yoursellf. Since Tamra has been on the show she has caused nothing but darma. She caused the riff between Vicki and Jenna and I think she is selfish and lonely. She needs help. Maybe Dr. Phil can offer her a course in being honest with yourself and to stop lying on others to make yourself seem like the victum.
Gretchen you rock. Slade continue to make her happy.
Gretchen, I think you rock! Tamara is a worn out old jealous housewife.
I can’t seem to click on MANAGE SUBSCRIPTIONS I need to remove myself from receiving any new post via email… can someone help please… I am getting so many emails… I shouldn’t have click “Notify me….”… thank you and love this blog.
Gretchen,
From day one, I have noticed how jealous Tamra is of you. She is a nasty biotch who will discredit you at all costs. Look at her current situation…when people are mean, nasty and evil…shyt happens to them! Also known as Karma!
I wish she would get the hell of the show!!!
On her way out, she can take that flake Lynn with her. I have tried to give that bimbo a chance..but she is really one stupid azz chick!
Is she really that dumb, or is she acting?
I didn’t see you do anything wrong by talking to her daughter. YES, the girl is out of control! Lynn is just too dam stupid to see it.
Don’t waste your time trying to help her anymore…you had good intentions. Lynn took offense because someone finally “tried” to talk to her flaky daughter. Let the girl get in trouble…sit back and we will all say – Told ya so! Why doesn’t bimbo Lynn have a blog on Bravo? Is she just that stupid and don’t how to turn on a computer?
Gretchen,you appear to be a sweet person, and i feel that Tamra dislikes you b/c you are prettier than she, as well as she is getting older. She would be beside herself if she were able to trash you enough to get you to leave the show. ALL the housewives would, including the new lady, something is not right with her, and I feel in the end, she will side with Tamra and begin playing trickery with her. WATCH HER!!! I believe what you are saying is true, I have always believed you. Tamra is an evil witch who is unhappy in her own skin, so she wants yours. Don’t remove the blog, she will nevvver be your friend, and why does she care its there? the world has had time to read it, e-mail it, copy it, put flyers up if they want. I think it’s hilarious. You are a smart girl.
I think it’s funny how Tamra said to Alexis on the last episode how you wrote a “horrible” 6-page blog about her on your website and referred to her as a bitch, etc. Well 6 pages, yes, horrible not so much. I found your blog totally tasteful, well written and truthful- nothing horrible about it. I have always believed you just by watching the episodes but the blogs really do say it all. I don’t know how you gals do that show- but hey, it’s fun to watch!
Gretchen, Jay is so obsessed with you. He must have had very high expectations of a relationship with you Too bad the Barney’s helped fuel his obsession. I know he must have threatened you with the pictures he sold to radaronline. What a situation to be in!
Leave the blog up, and stay strong
absurdtosublime.net
Gretchen:
I think you’re supper HOT and Tamra is just really jealous of you N envy’s ur beauty! You have everything going for yourself…
Whatever happend – happend. But if you say that everything she says is a lie and we should’nt believe it because she says it than why should we believe you when you say your story. This is getting really stupid now. I think I may have stated to take it down and go forward. Gretchen if you are truly in a new place and comfortable with everything than show everyone that it really doesn’t matter what people say. There will ALWAYS be someone out there that will hate on you or anyone else. Do you put blogs up regarding everyone who comes out with something negative? I think you have to look in the mirror and tell yourself that we all love ya and you will be a good person for as long as you live and to hell with the other people. Just move on. You will be more respected by doing that. I would say the same thing to anyone else in your situation. You are 33 or so years old. Time to start acting like an adult and who cares if someone else is acting childish. Do your thing and be you and don’t be trivial on something so stupid like this.Wasted space and energy. Understand? One more thing….try being on your own for a while. Looks a bit like a controlling relationship. I’m seeing shades of Jo. Thanks G.
Janine — Your post makes me very suspicious of exactly who you are – a friend of Tamras perhaps? Notice Janine that there are approximately 325+ posts here about Gretchens blog and out of them less then a dozen posters say to Gretchen to remove the blog — so let me just state your clearly in the minority sweetie
Minority means your vote doesn’t count — its null and void!!
Capiche ??
Well, if you read my post you would see that I am not saying negative about Gretchen. I like her. I am just telling her as woman to woman to act like an adult and move on and take it down. All it does is fee negativity to Gretchen keeping it up. Again, if you read my post I am telling Gretchen that we will all still love her even if she takes the high road and takes it down. That my dear shows more respect and people will respect her more. So next time you want to reply to my post please read them first and then comment. Until them take it easy on the hate stuff. You are exhibiting exactly what I am talking about Gretchen NOT doing. Capiche???
Oh one more thing…sure there are 345 or so posts on here but considering there are more than upteen million who watch the show that really isn’t that much at all. Who cares though. Guess it is the ones with no life like us that come to these blogs, huh? Maybe we should get a hobby. Funny how adults act like this.
If shes happy with Slade she should be with him. Also, she she needs to clear her reputation from all the MEAN things Tamra said!!
also, if you “think this is getting really stupid” then don’t watch the show or post on her blog. Its simple.
SLAMARA ALERT!!!
This post reaks of Tamara and/or her cronies!
The only thing I agree with from this post that “it doesn’t matter what people say”… so long as they don’t say it on NATIONAL TV.
If Tamara was a half decent person, she would have settled her and J’s issues one on one with Gretchen outside of the show, not on national TV.
But, b/c this was broadcasted on national TV, no doubt due to SLAMARA’s evil intentions, Gretchen has to do this blog. Her MILLIONS of fans depend on it!
I’m sure Gretchen would have no need to blog about what rumor a mailman spread to a few neighbors, BUT THIS WAS NATIONAL TV!
KEEP THE BLOG GRETCHEN!
P.S. Gretchen, I almost believed Tamara after the reunion show. I’m glad she pitched your blog so that I could read the truth! Time has revealed her true character. She’s evil and mean with bad intentions towards others.
Time also has also showed your true colors. You’re a loving and caring person. You deserve all the good things coming your way and the success you’ve achieved.
Slade you rock! Keep standing behind your girl. She makes you look good! LOL!
TEAM GRETCHEN!
Are you serious? Just because someone has a few comments that don’t lovey dovey up to Gretchen (even though I love her) you automatically think it is Tamra? Wow. Sad. We can post comments on here without kissing Gretchens ass so just relax people out there. Good Lord. Take it easy. Gretchen can handle a few comments that don’t go her way. That is what makes her who she is. Lighten up “settherec……” or whatever. Jeez. It is just a fan site not the pearly gates.
Hey! I’m sixteen and I’m absolutely obsessed with the show! Tamera equals HIGH SCHOOL drama! You are gorgeous, honest, and are incredibly loyal; everything she wishes she could be! Jeff and you were adorable, but I like you and Slade, it seems right. If anyone tells you otherwise, screw them! (: As for the deal involving you and Lynn about Alexa, you really stepped up. I can’t believe Lynn wasn’t flattered that you were concerned for Alexa and confronted her. Alexa is a BRAT! She openly admits she drinks and “parties” on the show…wow. You have every right to worry and you are a saint for opening yourself up to her. I would lo-ove someone like that! Anyways, keep smiling, and remember people will say anything to like the better person on T.V. Love you and keep being your awesome self!
I’m beginning to feel like your cheerleader Gretchen lol
Oh well to the naysayers I say this with my pom poms
Eat It Eat It
RAW RAW RAW
I support you all the way Gretchen!! You are my favorite housewife because I think you always speak the truth, are honest and seem like you are the most fun! Good luck with everything you do, keep your head up and don’t let the negativity from other people ruin your happiness.
Gretchen, I never comment on blogs, or read them, due to the fact that I HAVE to read EVERYTHING…But, after hearing about this blog so much on the show, I had to read it for myself. I would have been crushed if it was gone. DO NOT TAKE IT DOWN. It’s answered many questions, and you have played fairly, you are right in getting it off your chest and explaining to us fans. I have watched the show from the beginning and was delighted that you came on last season! You are so fresh & lively! I’m so terribly sorry for your loss of Jeff; I know that you have been to hell & back to get where you are now. Always Thank God for your strength! Good luck with Slade, you guys look happy together. You “get” each other. Now, let’s talk facts:
Tamra: Crazy, insecure, jealous liar. DO NOT TRUST HER! I’m a pisces, we trust everyone, so that was hard to say.
Vicki: Pray she stays as committed to Donn as she now claims & keeps enjoying her business so she stays out of everybody’s business!
Lynne: Get a grip! Stop inhaling all that glue when working on your cuffs; your daughters both need more supervision & discipline. Yes, I am a mother, my daughter is 22 so maybe you will take my advice. Teenage girls 16 – 18 years old are a nightmare; yet, how can they test their boundries if they haven’t any? You comment on how hard it is to raise kids in OC; I lived in Newport, but my daughter was raised in Boca Raton, FL – opposite sides of the country, but oh so close with regard to economy, status and spoiled kids. Get tougher, I don’t want you to be sorry later. It’s not easy, but you can do it!
Alexis: Seems lovely so far, agree with her about other women staying out of my husband’s space, and also enjoy a loving, happy marraige. Don’t disappoint us Alexis.
Keep making smart choices Gretchen, you’ll go far!
Sandra
Hi Gretchen, I love you on the show
. I am in middle school, and even at my age its very obvious that Tamra is just jealous. On the seasons before you where on, she gave herself the title of the hottest housewife, which she was at the time, until you came on. She felt threatened and knew after first meeting you that she was no longer going to be the center of attention.
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I love the way you dealt with this, and seeing how you handled it helped me with a similar situation at school. I know most peoples reaction would be to fight back and do the same thing to her, but you did the best thing you could do, which was be the bigger person
She keeps being mean to you because shes still jealous and she wants your attention.
Even though I don’t know you personaly, you have been kind of a mentor for me. I really look up to you.
xoxo lily
ps. your to smart for Tamra, i think that bugs her more than anything
Oh and i forgot to add one more thing, I really like that you just defended yourself in this blog. You didnt say, like, just mean things about tamra. you defended yourself!
Hey Gretchen im from austin texas i love the show HATE tamera she can spin her web of lies all she wants…anyways
OMG im glad finally got to a computer to read this famous blog…Tamera can go to hell she needs to grow up and worry about her own life since she was too worried about yours look where it got her DIVORCED!!! sucks for her she should have just left the “NEW GIRL” alone instead of being jealous(b/c she wasnt the HOT one anymore) and trying to find a way to defame you before anyone could really get to know you and what your about well you’ve been my favorite since day one and i wish you all the luck with slade y’all are cute together idk why vickie has to put her 2 cents in about the relationship like anyone cares what she thinks its your life so live it to the fullest do what makes you happy idk why im telling you this you do it anyways thats why your my favorite keep doing what your doing (being yourself) people love you for that well until next time
xoxo
-Jackie
Gretchen,
I love the show and you are my favorite housewife! You just seem to like to have fun and live life! Don’t worry about Tamara…I have learned you kick the negative people and things out of your life and only focus your energy on the postive ones!
BTW..I like Slade and you together..so cute!
Jennifer
Alabama
Gretchen,
I think that Tamra is jealous of you. You are single,(she is married to a controlling husband)you are very smart and you have a degree(she didnt finish high school)you are a very pretty girl(she is an old ugly lady)you are in good shape ( she is out of shape, a lot of fat). So therefore the only way she can deal with you is to try to make you look bad. But it is not working.You are a good person, good hearted. Im sorry you have to deal with people like Tamra, but I think you are doing a great job dealing with her crap.Keep up the great job. As far as you and Slade, I think you two should get married.You two are great together. Jo messed up when she didnt care about Slade, all she wanted to do is make music and go to the bar and expect Slade to wait for her. NOT
Take care, and you are my favorite housewife
Cindy K.
That comment left about Lynn inhaling too much glue and being out of it was hilarious!!! I tried to give her the benefit of the doubt but she annoyed me when Gretch tried to help out her helpless daughter and it wasn’t right.. I wasn’t a bad kid but I always had adult friends around me from 14 years old and a great , as well as a great mom, my mom is my best friend but my MOM 1st, I guess I was lucky, a good mom is always one step ahead, she knows when you lie, you cant lose your mothers trust that it is the worst, even when you do something wrong, admit it…Alexa needs that, Lynn needs to intill that in her.. I don’t think Lynn has a blog because she doesn’t know how open up a computer! someone is probably promoting her “cuff” business online, as well as, desinging them.. believe me graduating from fashion school and working countless hours with designers there’s alot of work that entails going into designs.. ummm no time for GYM, FACE LIFTS, SHOPPING, Hair appointments, manicures ect.. I think the face lift squashed even more of her brain cells.. I feel bad , Tamara and Jeana made her look like such an ASS last season and TAM RAHHH tries to be friends with her this season, okkk.. I am also so saddend to hear about Slade’s son. I remember the boys from season 1 when he was with Jo and I pray to God that he will be ok.. If Tamara wasnt so worried about Gretchen then her own family life wouldn’t fall apart again.. go back to the midwest where you belong… I feel sad for her little girls, thats the woman they have as a role model.. She is no longer a housewife therefore I really dont want to see her woes and bitching on next season, or I will write protest emails to Bravo!
Continue to be you Gretchen don’t change b/c of this crazy reality show business. I have always thought you were really genuine.
Something that always stuck out was at the naked wasted party, when tamra son tried to take advantage of you, even though you were drunk, you were still able to say, “I have a fiance.” that to me is true character and class.
I have always been team Gretchen and keep standing your ground.
Dear Gretchen,
I too was compelled to find this blog that Tamra so desperately wants taken down as part of your so called ‘truce’. I wouldn’t remove one sentence of this blog. You finally have shed light on so much for us viewers and she truly is a manipulative, jealous person who Lives, Eats and Sleeps for Drama! The proof is in her own marriage and Simon coming to terms with whom he has married. I’m proud of you for putting this out here for all of us to see. You’re a great woman, and she just is coming off as a vindictive, jealous woman at this point. Kudos to you and your bravery for keeping your head high. Much Love and Happiness from one of your many fans. I love the show and the fun you bring to it. Keep on being ‘you’, we all love you for that. Hugs and Kisses~
gretchen your awesome, don’t worry about the hoe
You know Gretchen..I watched the episode when you talked to Lynn’s daughter and even before you went shopping with her you told Lynn exactly what you were gonna do. All you did was try to give her some support from someone outside her immediate family, and with Lynns head being so far in the freaking clouds Im shocked she even remembers she has daughters. She needs to spend time punishing her daughter for crazy behavior! If my daughter did 1/8 the things her daughter has done on the show they would be sent to a program to correct misbehaving kids. You are my favorite person of the whole show and always have been. You tell it like it is just like me no matter what the cost. Tamara is the type of woman who sets womens rights back like 100 years by being with her dictator of a husband. Theres no way on the earth I would deal with being a “puppet wife”. And the same goes for that other puppet Alexas or whatever. Im sorry but theres no way your marriage should be the third most important thing in your life cause without you marriage honey you wouldnt be able to have nannys raising your kids for you cause your husband wont change a god damn poopy diaper!! I hate women who have those kinds of marriages cause its not even a marriage its a dictatorship just as I said before. The only reason any woman would put up with that is because shes to lazy to make her own life so she marries a man who control the crap out of them so they can lay back and spread um and thats about all they contribute to the whole “marriage”! I think the only sane people on the show are You and Vicki (although wild as she it)
Move on and get that toxic beotch out of your life. she is so fake and thinks she is the best. You deserve way better of a friend than Tamera. She is 2 faced just like the rest of the world. I have dealt with similiar situations from my ex he is a pain in the ass. Im a single 26 yr old mom that got away from all of it. My dad had the same Leukemia as jeff and i know how you feel. Hang in there chick- your beautiful and better than that fool! you go!
Kaitlyn
this is exactly why midwestern girls stick out so bad in SoCal…b/c this kind of materialistic, two-faced bitchery and caddyness isn’t something our midwestern men would ever put up with. I can’t believe how much petty drama Tamra gets herself into. Gretchen keep your head up. You are amazing, beautiful, and most of all, genuine- and I’m 100% sure that the people that really matter in your life know that. Jeff was a lucky man. You are the only reason I still watch this show, most of the other women completely disgust me.
Gretchen, Tamara is so jealous of you…she is green with envy. She has no right condemning you..I forgot which episode it was (before you came to the show) she was on the boat with Vicki and the others, plus her children, drinking and doing things that should have been for adults only.. not for the eyes and ears of her children who were on board.
You just outshone her in every way…and it’s that big old green eyed monster.
As far as Lynne…she is a ditz! I think she’s taking too many meds..when you called about taking her daughter shopping, you told her why and Lynne was cool with it…I think her parenting skills are coming back to bite her in the ass, that’s why she turned the tables on you..watch her and Alexes…Alexes is one broad I can’t stand, I think she could be another Tamara.
Watch your back Gretchen, I think they are all jealous of you! We love you and think you are beautiful and wish you the best of luck!
I think Tamra is just jealous of you, she was jealous since you cae on the show and you was prettier, she needs to get her turkey neck lifted and worry about her failing relationship. Gretchen your happy with Slade, congrats, I believe your relationship is real. The thing is she worries about you too much, she has NO life, you like always on her mind. She needs to go please her husband and family,get off Vicki’s dick, because Vicki is happy too and go live her boring life with her screw up son. I love how you’re the bigger person it just shows how OLD TAMRA is and how she acts like she still wants to be in High School. Somebody had popularity issues back in the past. xoxo love you gretch, grow up Tamra, in the viewing community world you look jealous and super old.
Gretchen,
Still, it has to make you feel good to have so many strangers on your side, and it has to validate your actions and reactions to all of the HATERS on your show…and I think you know who I am referring to…lol..they all have issues with you, out of jealousy and insecurity (and I have a feeling that Alexis will hop on the hater train at any time)…you are the youngest and most beautiful on the show and that is bound to cause jealousy issues with these insecure women…I mean seriously! They all have had some kind of cosmetic surgery to have what you have naturally..it’s really sad that they take thier own insecurities out on you…:( You have the BEST personality and seem to always be happy and it seems that they just want to take you down a few notches. Don’t let them change who you are. I have dealt with these type of women my whole life, and as one friend told me, I just exude beauty and sexuality and that was why I had so many problems with women. But I never let it get to me, even though it hurts. The friends that I have now have been my friends for years and they are confident women, who aren’t intimidated by me. Those types of women DO exsist. 
I also wanted to say that I think Tamra has been getting on your website and leaving comments under different names. She is really a sad individual who needs to get her priorities straight and put her children first. She SO obviously doesn’t. Also, NO ONE knows what goes on between you and Slade, but you and Slade…if you feel he really loves you and you love him, don’t let anyone stand in your way of happiness…Best Wishes you to both..
How do you have time to read ALL of these comments? It’s like a full time job!
Hello Gretchen. “Bravo” to you ! (pun intended) You seem to be one of the few real people on the show, along with the fakes. It’s VERY clear that Tamra has a terrible case of jealousy towards you since you came to the show. She was top dog in the looks department (in her mind ) until you came along and you knocked her out of the running for that title by a long shot. She is insecure and she takes her frustration out on you. Hang in there and good luck with Slade. He seems like a pretty cool guy. Stay sincere. Say hey to Vicki for me !
Danny
I’m so sorry to hear about Gray. There’s nothing worse then seeing your baby in pain & not be able to take it away. I just now got on your website, although have been watching the show for awhile. I’m so happy you’re on the show. I’ve been watching for awhile & have to say you crack me up. I love how you love to live life. Tamra needs to sit down & take sometime to watch the shows and see how bad she looks. She’s been after you since day one. Your the younger hotter housewive, & it’s making her ugly. Stay strong & watch your back. You can’t change people, but hopefully one day she’ll see how sad she looks & grow up & act her age. Can’t wait until tonights show!
P.S. I have to ask.. I LOVE your bed.. Where did you get it?
Hi Gretchen,
Honestly, last season I was not a fan of yours. I didn’t love you and i didn’t hate you. I wasn’t a fan of Tamra’s either. So I am firmly planted in the middle of you two with no strong feeling towards either one of you. So this is an impartial observations about the situation. I read this blog after hearing about it on an episode of the show.
Questions I still have :
Did you continue to befriend this J after he called Tamra? What he did was way out of line. That is a friendship breaker…done and done. The impression I got from the show (and it may be wrong which is why I am asking), is that you did continue to be friends with this J after he called Tamra. And if you did, to me: that looks bad. Friends would distance themselves (i don’t care if he sent a nice email saying I am sorry. There is no being sorry enough to make up for a breach of trust like that!), some one more along the lines of a girl friend would give him another chance (girlfriends always do…hoping things change and it will work out) If you are just friends it is much easier to distance yourself, and if you didn’t, then that looks like you were more intimately involved with him.
Also Jeana said something on the reunion show about J’s pants or clothes being over your house and that always bothered me…a friend who is a girl having clothes at your house, normal. A guy? not so much….also gives the appearance that you were more intimate…
Those are the things that someone not so vested in either side think…you seem nice, I want to believe that nothing was going on that was improper. I don’t know you and I don’t know Tamra so it is hard to know what is true. But ultimately I feel like you have your side, Tamra has her side and the truth is probably somewhere in the middle.
Hey Gretchen
We think you are great down here in Louisiana, after reading all blogs and have been an OC watcher since the beginning, I must say you are a very classy lady and freakin funny as hell, I am not going to bash Tamara only because I beleive all women should stick together, Tamara has some deep issues going on which I think go all the way back to her childhood and I feel sorry for her, I will say this I have seen Tamara talk about every single person on the show but when she is in that persons face she is all nicy nice. Jeff is looking down on you and I’m sure he is so proud of you, so just pray for people like Tamara. I’m a 41 year young with 3 daughters and I would not waste my energy constantly talking about people.”Life’s to short” Love ya Gretchen
Who Dat! Geaux Saints
I completly agree with what you said…but like you said, Tamra talks about everyone and isn’t really nice, so a lot of people are put off by that. If I knew Tamra, I’d watch my back and I think that’s what Gretchen is doing…along with defending herself..but your comment is the best I have seen on this site..including mine..:)
I observed Tamara’s behavior and yours throughout the seasons. There is no doubt in my mind that Tamara has anything but your best interest at heart, that she means to use everyone around you to do you harm. She was willing to use her son’s lust to intentionally inebriate you and have sex with you. Who does that? One moved by evil.
Do forgive her but do not take this blog down, ever! LET IT BE A REMINDER FOR THOSE WHO WISH TO HARM YOU THAT YOU WILL HELP THE TRUTH COME FORTH!
Be blessed and keep your joy shinning through!
Light
Gretchen, thanks for writing the blog. I’m so glad you have cleared up alot of things that vile woman has said about you. I dont understand why this woman cant stop lying about you. Btw, you are my favorite housewife and the reason I watch every week! Thanks again for the blog, and love your website!
Never really thought about reading “the blog” but since Tamra keeps bringing it up thought hey why not check it out! I love love love you Gretchen! I totally believe you but even IF it were true would still love you! You are so sweet and refreshing from all the other bitter housewives. I think Tamara is so jealous of you she just can’t stand it and tries to make people dislike you so they can focus on her more. Keep your chin up and do what you do best…show that beautiful smile and spread your contagious laughter!!
Gretchen I am 16 years old and I am a huge fan of yours. Tamra is a liar and I believe you for sure because all she does is talk crap about you and the other girls on the show. Which I have witnessed and heard with my own ears. She mainly talks crap about you though and I will tell you why honey she is JEALOUS. She wishes she could be you. she claims houswives dont come as hot as her in the beginning of the show honey you are the definition of sexy smart and as hott as they come. I remember when they first met you vicki and Tamra both admitted that they were pissed because of how young and beautiful you were I know for a fact that you talk good about everyone. And you are the only one who makes an effort to try and burry the hatchet with tamra but unfortantely she doesnt want to because she is a jealous lieing contradicting snake. She told lynne that you arent the kind of person who should be giving advice to her kids because of those photos those were personal and sadly thats all she has on you im sure you would make a great mom hell a sexy one too LoL.. Tamra keeps saying that you are living off of jeffs money, your the one going to big events, you are having your own make up line soon so I just want to know how the hell are you living off of jeffs money and another thing you hold yard sales aswell. What the HELL does Tamra do?? you should ask her that for a change. I cant stand her lies and all the crap she says about you. I dont like the fact that she believes what people tell her without getting the other side of the story. She is a horrible friend I mean I was watching the show last week I believe and she was already talking crap about Alexis. She said that their is know way she is holy or a good christian because she always shows her huge boobs everywhere she goes. Gretchen I really feel bad for all the other housewives because Tamra is such a big liar and they trust her and they think she is a good person but everyone knows she isnt. Vicki also talks junk about you so dont trust her either. Gretchen I love you sooo Much I am always going to be your number 1 fan!!
if you ever want to know things that they say on the show about you that you dont know about or hear I will be more than happy to tell you what been said even its about the other girls. Oh by the way you should make copies of this message to show the other girls that Tamra really does lie and talk crap about them and you and that everything she has said about you is bull****
Love to love you baby haha chow!! for now.
I can’t believe how much Tamra keeps publicizing this blog, a good portion of the people would not know what they know right now if she would have left it alone.
I think your the best Gretchen, and I have been watching the show from the start, but had seriously considered dropping it until I saw you. Your stunningly beautiful, so sweet and full of joy. I like the blog, don’t take it down…its good to finally hear the story in full and get all the holes in Tamra’s statements filled in.
I was sick to my stomach when she did the whole “naked wasted” thing, because you could see in her eyes it was no joke, she truly intended you malice.
Stay sweet, good things will keep coming to you, and the bad will keep following Tamra.
Gretchen
As I read your blog, I completry agree with u 100% percent and so does my mom as her and I read this. Were both big fans of urs and ur a strong independent women. The best part about you is u speak ur mine. Tamara is a two timing bitch and her husband Simon knows it as well.
Gretchen, I have been a fan of the Real Housewives since it started. You have always been my favorite. You aren’t catty and spiteful like the other girls can be and often are. I wish this show could have been a good experience for you, as it should have but brought so much unecessary drama into your life. Tamra is the single most hateful person i have ever seen in my life. To say those things about your relationship with Jeff? it is absolutely ridiculous and just plain MEAN, for lack of a better word. I am fourteen years old and in high school. The kind of stuff that I have seen Tamra say is what i see going on around me IN HIGH SCHOOL!! In my opinion, causing drama is the ULTIMATE sign of immaturity. Again, I am fourteen years old and this is the kind of stuff I see girls in the 9th grade doing! I feel so bad for you, you seem so genuinely nice on the show, and I just can’t understand why Tamra wants to hurt you. It is absolutley unfair. Why doesn’t she just butt out and let you live your life the way you want to live it instead of bringing drama into it and making life so much worse than it should be. People like her are just beyond me, and I find it very admiable that you have taken the high-road for so long, I don’t think I could do that. Anyone on Tamra’s side is ignorant and illogical. I’m a faithful member of Team Gratchen, and i tip my hat to the nicest and most beautiful housewife! Good luck and best wishes to you. Love, Molly.
Gretchen, I think you are a really strong person to go through what you have. I hope you the best in the future and you succeed in your new makeup line. P.S. Please give Slade a hair cut and dye his hair & shave his face…
. Any other questions?
Yes–I genuinely enjoy you and wish you well but…re: the photos: are you trying say they were a) photoshopped b) taken when you were in college, c) taken when you were just having fun & goofing around d) stolen by a guy who you rejected…or e) all of the above
The photoshopped part seems a little like a lame excuse…why not just take your own advice & own the pictures and leave it at that–no one’s perfect, right ? (ps: I think Lynne desperately needs parenting help but must agree it would seem awfully hypocritical coming from a person with those kinds of photos floating around and no children of her own.)
At any rate, I wish you well. You’ve been through the ringer and I’m glad you’ve found happiness and peace.
I have defiantly admitted to some of the photo’s no questions, There are also several photo’s that are not of me and have been altered. The pictures shown in the show where also out of chronological order. They where taken prior to Jeff not after his passing and several are from my college days. It doesn’t matter, point is no one has the right to release my personal photo’s, or alter images with my likeness. The site that display these or talk about the photo’s are just contributing to the exploitation of woman for their own personal gain. With regard to your comment on Lynn, I completely disagree. First off, my degree is in psychology with a focus on family and child development. I have been trained to look for signs when teens are crying out for help. Second, because I have been taken advantage of by ruthless people who have plastered my images on the net, I am exactly the person she should listen too. Who knows better than me now how to protect your self from people like that.
I only started watching the show this last season and connected with your story on a feeling level… I honestly felt the love between you and Jeff as genuine and even though I was just an observer of your story, I felt the genuine you. I also felt so terrible after watching the reunion show and even cried for your pain and all that you must have been dealing with … Anyway my point is that you don’t have to prove to anyone about why this and why that… You know your heart and what is true. By the way, good luck with your new relationship I feel this is your business and it is healthy to move on and be happy
I love that you are genuine about life and having fun should be fun! don’t let em get you down.
Sincerely
AngelicNell
XOXO
Well, maybe now Tamra and J will get together….lol….Gretchen Christine love you lots but think twice about Slade, please!!!
Gretchen,
From the beginning I always thought you were being picked on. I remember on of the first episodes you were in the pool and I remember Tamera saying that you were hot but she was still the best looking housewife… or something to that effect. Anyway, I think that were it all started. However your mother was right about people being like that and trying to bring you down and that you have to rise above it. So you just take the positive out of all this and run with that also just put it all behind you. I love the Orange County House wife’s out of all of the house wife shows it’s the best one… of course i’m from that area so I guess it’s a given. lol
Denise
Hi Gretchen! First time visitor to your blog. Thanks for the details. Just want you to know that all that stuff is none of my business. I don’t trust the media anyway. Figured there was more that went on that we didn’t know about. I liked you from the git-go…you seem to have a great spirit. Good luck to you in your new endeavors and your new adventures.
And, I think Slade and you compliment each other. Hope it all works out.
=D
I’ve been on your side since the 1st dinner party when Tamra was so rude. After so many episodes (and I know we see very little of your life) I still like you better. That said, why not take the high road? Listen to the new housewife and bury the hatchet. Things were said on both sides that you can’t take back, and I believe Tamra treated you horribly. But if you can’t let go, can’t stop blogging about her and the past, you can’t move on. Jeff would want you to take the high road. I love watching you and thought you were great with Lynne’s daughter, but I’m so tired of the Gretchen/Tamra fight. If you stop, she might stop. If she doesn’t, you’ll still look better! With Jeana’s leaving, you are one of the few housewives I still like. I just think you would do better to stop publicly fighting with Tamra. She’s in a bad place (of her own making, IMO) so this would be a great time to just stop arguing about who said what back in the day. At least stop the old arguments. Yes, they still hurt but be the bigger person. I love your blog, I just hate reading about the same old stuff with Tamra. It’s done. Move on- you have SO much to look forward to! I loved the Florida eps when you guys seemed to get along. Why not at least try? Just my opinion- it’s your life. I just know from experience that you’ll feel better when you let the past go. Your future is so bright-look to that!
Gretchen I love you and thought you looked good riding your bide on tonights show. What the hell is Lynns problem. You are only trying to give her some much needed advice. She needs it! Stay sweet and don’t ever change. I would love to meet you one day.
If Slade is paying what he’s suppose to be paying, what’s this all about?
http://www.aolcdn.com/tmz_documents/1103_slade_smiley_doc_rd.pdf
Not trying to be rude, just want to hear his side.
Your not being rude and it’s not taken that way. Slade has been dealing with the court for years now due to the fact that he was ordered to pay an extremely large child support payment each month. He never had an issue with support payments of this magnitude since he was making a large amount of money and always paid his support. The issue now has been that his income is no where near what it used to be because of the market, yet they still expect a large payment based on income from 4 years ago. The bigger issue is that his son Grayson has been battling brain cancer and has had more than 3 million in medical procedures. 7 major brain surgery’s, on going chemo and physical therapy. Slade had to make a choice, pay the extreme support payments or keep up with Grayson’s medical bills. He chose the medical bills. He does what ever is necessary to care for his sons well being. He has asked the court to reduce his court order support so he dosen’t show a deficiency but getting a court date to reduce support can take 6 to twelve months.. Keeping Gray up to date on his medical bills is number one. The sad thing is, every 6-8 weeks there is another MRI to check on the progression of the tumor and another $30k bill every time he has an MRI. Grayson’s insurance ran out and his pre-existing condition keeps him from getting coverage else where.
I am with Slade when we see Gray and they talk several times a day. It’s sad people out there dig up what ever crap they can and twist it into a story. For people to assume he has just turned his back on his ill son is ridiculous. I know different, I am with him 24 / 7 and I see everything he does for his kids. I hope this answers your questions. Thanks for posting.
Thanks for the reply. I understand the medical bill situations, I had my twins 10 weeks early and they were in the NICU for a long time. Thankfully we had insurance. I’m sure ya’ll have already looked into these places like St. Jude’s, but thought I’d suggest it just in case. I’m praying for Grayson and Slade, no one deserves to see their children sick.
Hi Gretchen,
I am sorry to hear about Slade’s son Grayson. How old is he? Has Slade heard of Gary Null? It would be worth his while to check out Gary’s website. He has helped many people with “terminal” illness. He is the genuine article. He as a radio program on Progessive National Radio. Please ask Slade to take the time to check him out for Grayson’s sake.
I will keep him in my prayers.
Hi Gretchen,
I’m repeating this post in the evident you did not see it. The blog is not it chronological order.
I am sorry to hear about Slade’s son Grayson. How old is he? Has Slade heard of Gary Null? It would be worth his while to check out Gary’s website. He has helped many people with “terminal” illness. He is the genuine article. He as a radio program on Progessive National Radio. Please ask Slade to take the time to check him out for Grayson’s sake.
I will keep him in my prayers
Gretchen, just started watching HOC in the last few weeks…I knew there was a reason I don’t have a lot of girlfriends! All this fighting!
I don’t have any favorites, I just am curious of the interaction. I think your blog is RIGHT ON! And, a BRILLIANT idea! Do not stop writing your truth! Be true to yourself, and others will pay for their bad deeds. Focus on the path that you want to follow. Use your energy in YOUR positive way. Distractions are meant to allow for your failure–do not listen to them–or go down their path. You go girl!
Last nites show 1/29/10 was sad to watch. Not sure if it was Lynnes alcohol consumption that caused her to express such emotion over her undisiplined teenage daughters but its clear to me now that she needs help, and Gretchen I’m sure in your gentle way you can help her if she lets you.
Looks like Lynne & Family are getting evicted AGAIN-bummer for the next show!!! Tamra was her typical bitch self last night and anyone that wants this blog down should just go away and never return because not only does Gretchen get to clear up untruths — but those of us that read and post here also get to express ourselves – a win win for the masses – yippie skippy
Ok, now Slade – did ya get that haircut & shave yet? C’mon Gretchen I’d bet even you could trim it up…….
ooops I meant to say last nites show dated 1/28/10
The blog constantly has incorrect time posted too.
I first want to say, YOU GO GIRL! I have to point something out, we all see how controling Simon is. You can’t tell me that he’s gonna just roll over in bed and let Tamra talk to some strange guy on the phone night after night. I don’t think so!!!
Second of all, if this guy was telling the truth about you I’m pretty sure that Bravo would have put him on the reunion show to put you on the spot and call you out in front of America.
I feel bad for you. Keep your head held high, we all see through Tamra’s drama!!!
Truly,
Melissa Stevenson
Gretchen, I don’t know why you are not seeing it!! Tamra wants to be you. let me break it down for you:
you are both beautiful with the body to match EXCEPT!!!!!!!!!
Tamra is married – you’re not
Tamra has kids – you don’t
Tamra is miserable – you’re not
Tamra WANTS a pink motorcycle – You have one
Tamra can’t go anywhere w/out permission-you answer to no one.
Living Life the way you want to? PRICELESS!!!!
Gretchen how do you put up with these women!! Lynne has now turned into a total psycho ( before I just thought she was stoned all the time). She looks crazed on the show, and she is taking all of her frustration out on you instead of her kids. I would dump her like a bad habit, she has not one redeeming quality and you can’t change stupid. You are going to love Tamara’s latest post on Bravo, she is another piece of work. You should run her over with your Hog!! LOL!
Slade’s coverage on his son ran out after his company was sold to Land America Title in 2007. Land America ended up folding the company and everyone lost their insurance coverage. They laid off 250 people and moved only a handful to other companies. Cobra took over the coverage but only for 18 months. Now that Cobra has run out, Grayson’s pre-existing conditions have prevented us from finding him new insurance. If you know a company willing to insure a child with brain cancer patient please let us know. The 3M+ is the gross medical expenses he has incurred over the last 4 years. With no insurance and being charged the full amount for procedures, Chemo,physical therapy, MRI’s, his Meds, and on going doctors visits it adds up quick. I have seen the bills, I know exactly what he has been dealing with.
I am so sorry for Slade’s young son. You may want to contact the Burzynski Clinic in TX.They specialize in treating brain cancers and do FDA clinical trials as well.
http://www.burzynskiclinic.com
Radaronline is reporting the new suit.
Please take care. There are so many desperate people out there who want your money.
Wanted to clarify that the Burzynski Clinic may also be able to direct you to an insurance co that won’t deny Slade’s son. Please call them.
Contact Gary Null’s office to arrange a consultation. He is highly regarded in the field of alternative medicine. You can check out his web site. I am sure he would be happy to help Grayson. He is based here in NYC but travels throughout the country giving seminars.Please hear what he has to say.
Hi Gretchen,
There is such a thing that the state of california has that is Cal-Cobra and it takes over after the initial 18 months of Federal Cobra ends. I am not surprised that you or Slade did not know about this. A lot of people do not know about this because only those that deal with Benefit Management know what it is…
I do benefits management for a small company and found out about it from my insurance broker…here is some info
http://www.disabilitybenefits101.org/ca/programs/your_rights/cobra_obra/cobra/faqs.htm#_q425
Thank you for the information.
I am sorry to hear of this. I know things are not always what they seem and I too know where he is coming from. I had a daughter that was born with a extremely rare heart condition that she was unable to get covered by any insurance. Even the Gerber insurance denied us. To make a long story short; She passed at 9 1/2 months and I had to pay for everything out of pocket. If it was not for the support from family and friends, I do not know how I would have managed. The excuse the insurance companies used to tell me was “She is a high risk.” I am repulsed at how they can look at a child as risk factor! So for all those that do not know what it is to endure something like this “Shut the hell up! Give constructive help instead of negativity! It’s not our place to judge! “
Gretchen, you continue to amaze me in every episode. You are the only reason to watch this show. All the other women….except you and alexis, seem to be all about back stabbing with their nasty comments. You bring the humor and I LOL at some of your comments….especially the “they can suck it” comment in the last episode. I couldnt have said it better. BTW….you looked like a natural on that Harley! I also would like to say that you and slade make a cute couple and I hope it works out for both of you. xoxo
Gretchen & Slade,
I’m so sorry to hear about Grayson. I know what its like w/insurance. I was given the # to my states (MD) Md health insurance plan & they provide insurance if you have a pre-existing condition. Contact your state. This is why we need health care reform. Maybe he be helped by St judes Hospital for Children(Marlo Thomas’ children’s hospital). I hope this info helps.
Take care.
PP
Gretchen, you are our favorite. Regardless what’s been said about you on the media, there is something about you that seems pure and honest. Keep up being you and have fun in life. Do you support any special social causes? God bless, Jaci
I support you all the way Gretchen. I am sorry this foolish woman said such horrible things about you when you suffered such a great loss. Now she wants to be your friend because she knows she is wrong. You don’t need those kinds of friends that will kick you when you are down. I don’t see you say bad things about her except the truth in denfense of yourself. Truth is on your side, be happy with your boyfriend and real friends.
Gretchen,
Tamara has been insecure since you walked into her life. She is so freaked out about growing older,especially living in an area that worships youth.Face it ..no aging gracefully in O.C. She said she was the “hottest” housewife, and she is a goodlooking woman, but then you came along, and it’s not that you are 1000 times more beautiful,(you are very pretty), it’s just that you are YOUNGER!! And she became so so insecure about her husband being attracted to you, that she had to find a way to make you seem like the evil girl.
I feel sad for her…..
Enough about her! You rock…love the bike..you make me laugh!
Hey Gretchen: What a bunch of phonies. I don’t trust any of those women. You’re the only one that is authentic. I never believed Tamra and I don’t think she appears genuine. She make’s fun of her supposed friends behind their backs. Until I read your blog I thought Tamra’s Husband was a jerk but now I see what he had to out up with.
Continue to make us laugh and keeping it real.
Cheers…
Tamra seriously needs lipo on those arms. She has more ripples than the Pacific Ocean.
You are such a good person. I like your personality and you are beautiful. Keep being strong and you do you girl. You don’t need Tamra as a friend.
Since Slade’s son doesn’t have insurance and medical bills are expensive, you guys could always hold a benefit for him to help out with medical bills. Everyone knows how expensive it can be and it is hard to get insurance with a pre-existing condition, so a benefit might be for the best. Don’t ever be to proud to ask for help, especially when it comes to the life of a child. My family and I will be praying for him!
Gretchen….Tamra is just jealous of you and feels threatened by you. Also on the lost footage show Tamra said that “J” kept calling and texting her so she had to block his number then toltally contradicted herself saying that he still continues to call and text and says “as a matter of fact he just sent me a text”. This is right before she storms off the set. Maybe she had just recieved the email from Simon that u spoke about in your blog that set her off?? I have heard her contradict herself several times on the show and after reading your blog it all makes sense..no wonder she wants you to take it down, but DON’T DO IT!! Keep your head up high and be the bigger person, karma is a bitch and all of this will come back to bite her in the ass!! Besy of luck to you Gretchen!!
Amanda
Gretchen, have you read Tamara’s latest blog? I find it hysterical that NO ONE has commented on her blog!LOL!! And since she feels the need to bring up your Harley in the first paragraph and try to say that you bought it only because you knew she wanted a pink Harley, i find humerous!! She says you are just trying to “ONE UP HER”!! HAHA! Does she know that Jeff bought that bike for you and how ridiculous she would look on one, she is SOOO jealous of you she cant stand it!! Bless your heart for having to deal with her. I was also very sad to hear about Slade’s son, he will be in our thoughts and prayers and you should really tell him to look into St. Jude’s Childrens Hospital, it is an exceptional hospital. God Bless
Dear Gretchen,
I feel so over the whole thing and wish Bravo would move on from this subject…Yes tamara is a old jealous dog….but half of this wouldnt keep happening if bravo would just move on and not fan the flames! Girl fights sell!!
Karma is a bitch and just waiting to bite her….oh wait isnt that happeing now with SImon?? LOL
Keep your chin up and ride it out–BTW—love your BIKE!! whoowee I am envious!!
Miss Gretchen, my prayers to you and Slade, Slade’s son, his mother…I am going to do some insurance/treatment research for you myself. There is one absolutely free, absolutely proven path to a possible and full recovery for Grayson and that’s God. I’ve seen His healing and it’s far and above anything any man can do. Medicine today can be helpful, but it’s no match for the Almighty. We get so overcome with pain and fear and anxiety we forget about HIM. Look up healing scriptures and ask Grayson to recite them everyday, to give himself to Christ, repeat the words of healing scriptures relentlessly, give them life. I’ve seen its power change lives, make doctors scratch their heads in disbelief when what they thought they saw is now gone. And, as God tells us, He is no respector of persons, meaning, what He’ll do for one, He’ll do for others, so if He heals over here, He can heal over there if that’s His will. But we play a part, too; our part is to believe in His words, see the power in Him over man, including any doctor. They are only human after all.
Now, less importantly, I have to state your tolerance of we-all-know-who is amazing. Is she someone you see at your own deathbed one day? If not, why the continuing relationship? Or is it all just on the show? She doesn’t seem to add anything to your life. That jealous energy has no place in your and Slade’s life, especially now. People we imagine being with us at the end of our lives are the ones we should consider giving our time to today. I’ll bet Jeff knew that….Penpal?
Gretchen,
You shouldn’t worry too much about the things some of those women say or do. You’re genuineness shines thru the tv screen. You are clearly radiating good energy and sadly some of those ladies are just too envious of your inner (and outer) beauty to figure out that you could possibly be a really good friend to them. I am so happy i read the blog you wrote about Tamra, I was really confused until you put it all out there. There is this little thing called KARMA. Hmmmm.. and now she is getting divorced…Ain’t life a bitch?? Stay natural, you are stunning just as you are. God bless and may you live a long & healthy life surrounded by love & happiness.
Hi Gretchen
After reading your blog I can totally understand how frustrating this stress has been for you in dealing with Tamra Barney. I had a similair situation happen to me with another women like Tamra years ago. Fortuanately the people involved saw through her and in the end she had a nervous breakdown, was hospitalized, lost her job and I never heard from her or was harassed by her again. She was a pathological liar. The lies caught up with her. The lies she would spin eventually destroyed her life,her marriage, her career and her reputation. In the meantime I continued to just be me and live an honest life and to treat people the way I would want to be treated. Just keep doing this Gretchen…and life will be full for you sweetie. I see Tamra as feeling that she was “the prettiest” and she is pretty. But when you came into her world she couldnt deal with the fact that you have not only extreme beauty on the outside but also inner beauty. You treat others with respect and courtesy. She just doesnt know how to do that and it is destroying her soul with jealousy. Threat preceeds meaness. And you are a threat to her because of who you are. But be glad that you are you and know that God intended you to be who you are. My own daughter is very beautiful and yes similiar to you there are girls that treat her not kindly because of her inner and outer beauty. But thankfully she is strong and independent like yourself and she rises above the inmature behaviour of these jealous young ladies. She adores watching you and sees you as a role model and has her hair similiar to yours. She is 18. Perservere and draw away from the “Tamras” of the world who want to pull you down. Remember to “forgive” her but don’t ever forget…be wise and careful….we really enjoyed you on Bravo and hope your career really takes off. Looking forward to your new makeup line too. Keep smiling your beautiful smile
God Bless
The old adage that money doesn’t buy class was written for Tamra. Now she has no class, husband or money.
The old adage money doesn’t buy class was written for Tamra. Now she has no class, money or husband.
We love you! There is a truth about you that shines through. A caring and compassionate person that is real… Maybe the only thing that is real on “The REAL Housewives”
You have an Angel in Jeff now, watching over you and you are meant for great things. Your reaching out to Lynn’s daughter was awesome.
You are so strong.
You are a great friend and anyone would be lucky to have you be there for them.
Hold your Head HIGH, and Remember your inner strength. You Rock!
All my best to you
Like most of the people on here I would not have gone looking for the infamous blog had it not continued to pop up. That being said; There are three sides to every story. Each person has their side and then there is the truth which lands somewhere in the middle. Maybe more to one side than the other but still somewhere in the middle. I’m not sure which is crazier, the people in these reality shows or those of us who watch them. (I’m leaning towards us ( the lurkers). I would not go near one of these shows to save my own life. As far as I can tell the divorce rate for reality couples is three times the national average. Terrifying when you think about it. What makes us so interested in watching other peoples misery and what does that say about us?
Gretchen: From the moment you appeared on this show you were a threat to Tamra. You are funny and seem to be more genunine than those left standing. You were an immediate threat to both Tamra and Vicki. You are prettier than both and they reacted accordingly. As for your trying to help Lynne’s kids. I can totally understand where you were going there. I would have done the same if I saw this type of behavior from one of their children. As the old proverb says “It takes a village to raise a child.”
Vicki: I understand and indeed share her work ethic. What I don’t understand is her OCD when it comes to everyone else. I pity her poor husband and I notice that for the most part her children have distanced themselves from this production.
Lynne: If I were her and my daughter (now 26 married with a child on the way) stood in the middle of a mall and called me a bitch I would be in jail and she would be in a hospital. Maybe that’s why it never happened. I do not claim to have been a perfect mother. My children however knew how to behave and knew that if they did not behave there would be consequences.
Alexis: If she was the representative of the word “CHRISTIAN” I run not walk to the nearest exit. This woman would be funny if she were not so scary.
Jeana: I liked Jeana because she stood up for the underdogs (Gretchen & Lynne)when Vicki and Tamra were attacking like wild hyenas on a piece of dead meat.
As for the men;
Donn: Seems like a nice enough guy.
Simon: Somewhat controlling, but hey, some women like that in a guy. Must not have been too controlling or Tamra wouldn’t have been able to send all those text messages to her boyfriend.
Jim: More controlling than Simon and less likeable.
Slade: I hope he is just a rebound guy for you Gretchen. He doesn’t seem like he’s good enough for you.
I know a lot of people see the lifestyle you all live and wish that they could have what you all have. What I see, for the most part, is a bunch of unhappy people putting on a show. But that’s just me.
I wouldn’t trade places with any of you for all the money in the world. Again, that’s just me and I’m fine with it. Of course you know what fine stand for don’t you?
F= F’d up
I= Insecure
N= Neurotic
E= Evasive
At least I’m not on t.v.. I hope the best for you and whatever you’re looking for in life. Good luck.
Gretchen, I think you should mind your own business when it come to Lynne’s daughter…you are not a parent and you shouldn’t criticize anyone’s parenting style. I used to believe that you were being picked on by Tamra, but seeing your action this season (all the drama that you cause), I’m convinced that Tamra was telling the truth. Also, you need to get away from Slade…he’s dragging you down.
apparently you are watching the wrong the show. Lynn was never criticized and Slade is far more than you know.
By saying just because she “pop a kid out from between her legs, it doesn’t give her the god right to know to parent” to me is criticizing. That comment was pretty low class!!!
Taken from Bravo website:
Gretchen and Lynne’s Blow Out
Lynne gets really defensive when Gretchen criticizes Lynne’s parenting skills.
You missed the entire conversation. Lynn’s entire excuse is that people who don’t have kids don’t know. My comment was to her, just because you give birth doesn’t mean you know the best way to parent. There are plenty of people without kids who have amazing common sense when it comes to parenting. They are called teen counselors. This is what I was trained in. Never once criticized her, just let her know her daughter was crying out for help.
I guess you’re in denial and no one is going to get you to acknowledge that you crossed the line with Alexa. The episode that I saw after you took her shopping was her complaining to her mother that you were calling her out to try to make yourself look better…obviously she didn’t want your help. And please stop contradicting yourself!
How did she cross the line? Gretchen asked her Lynn first? She just let Alexa know that if she needed someone to talk to, Gretchen could be an ear. That’s all. I don’t understand why everyone has to be so hateful on these blogs. No one has the right to judge.
umm…Alexa only repeated what Lynn said…it was obvious that she was just saying what her mom wanted her to say…
Hmm another Gretchen hater baiter — hit the road bitch!
This was for poster Diane!
the best laugh i had all day = D
you did the right thing gretchen, any good friend would do it… if they like it or not… you got her attention
I agree with that statement. I have a 19 year old and many of his friends will confide and talk to me instead of their own parents, my nephews as well. Sometimes it’s easier to talk to someone outside the situation, because you don’t react, you are not directly involved. I would thank any of my friends or sister-in-law if they gave my son advice if he asked. We have a great, open relationship, and he does talk to me about everything, but not every child has that. She should thank Gretchen for being there. After all, I’m not trying to judge Lynn and she seems like a wonderful person, but she does need help in the parenting department, and there is nothing wrong with that. Sometimes we try to be our kids friends, when they really need a mother or father to in force the discipline and rules that they need. Carry on Gretchen:)
my reply got lost someplace on here…so I want to say once again…Jo Frost has NO children, but hundreds of parents turn to her in a crisis and she helps them…also…I BET the woman that Lynn and Frank brought into thier home to help with thier girls also has no children, so what makes her any different than Gretchen? I’d PREFER a friend to be there for my child, than a stranger. It was obvious that Lynn was just hurt(and maybe jealous)because Alexis talked to Gretchen and not her and she took it out on Gretchen. I think Lynn was embarrassed to be honest. This is really stupid…
Jo Frost uses her degree and doesn’t just talk about it!!!
Thank you. And the reason being? Jo actually attendend college and earned a degree. My opinion, Gretchen is a wannabe who was informed by Slime, {forgive me, that was a typo} Slade, that Jo received her degree..Gretchen says, huh, sounds good to me, i can do that and probably better than Jo, what do you think hon? Slade: Of course you can, Sweetie, go put on something sexy and i’ll feed you a big, fat….corndog, just like the ones on the net. we did a really good job, great timing with all of them, i think everyone got the sexual aspect of the pics. Hope we can make some money, i need it for my child support that is in arrears. Gee, hon why don’t we see if we have anymore pics lying that we can “photoshop” for some cash.
Anyone on this blog who is unable to see thru her selfish, immature, behaviors-not to mention all the lies must be living a life comparable to Gretchen’s. Sad, the goings-on while his child is dying. He should be spending time with his child, not worrying about Gretchens “goodys”. Do we really need anymore contribution to the downfall of society, compliments of Gretchen and Slade???
Veronica & Christi,
You old HAGS why dont you grab your BAGS and get the hell outta dodge already!!!! I think that Veronica and Christi are BOTH Tamara!!! If not maybe more. Its also very possible that its Tamara and her 2 friends she still has left in this world that are posting here.There is NO way that Tamara has not come onto this blog and at least posted once under a secret name. Her massively overinflated ego would not permit her to stay away. Good riddance and dont let the door hit you in the ass on the way out…bye bye biotches…
P.S. From now on fellow bloggers MY advice is to IGNORE them. Again this is only MY opinion.And ofcourse do as you see fit.Because these deranged posters are mindless sickos and their only intent is to spew out ridiculous BS mixed with venom.
Peace out…
hun, 29 is not an old hag and you have no idea who I am because you and your friend Rachelle are so wrong about me.
I also do not even know a Veronica.
So far you two have said I was kicked off something on facebook which I don’t eve have a blog or whatever there.
You said I was old and ugly and had a fro…Long red hair is not a fro.
You said I was Tamra, Vicki, Vicki’s mom and what else?
Just because people do not agree with you, does not mean they are wrong.
Nor does it mean that they are someone who is on the show.
I do however reside in OC, and that is the last think I am going to tell you.
So keep your assumptions to yourself please and
unless you have met Gretchen, Tamra, Vicki, Jo, or any other of the cast, you don’t know it all.
Sometimes people need to be called out on their lies, especially when they are being told over and over again. It’s too bad that the women in the show cannot be friends and treat each other well. It would be a much better show and they would have fun going places instead of dreading the experiences.
Now, get your butt in your bed and go to sleep please.
10 year olds do not belong here.
10 Years old? LoL! Sounds self observance! This is Gretchen’s site; if you hate her don’t come to the site! I guess your quote “Sometimes people need to be called out on their lies, especially when they are being told over and over again” might be true. If that’s the case then “Sometimes people need to be called out on their ignorance, childish, and judgmental behavior especially when they are being told over and over again!”
Very curious…If you and your alter ego hate Gretchen so much and believe her to be so fake and more of a liar than Tamra then why do you and your evil twin spend so much time researching her and Slades life?? Why ‘waste’ your time? too me it just appears way too obsessive and bordering stalkerish. You and your twin seem to be, to use your phrase(s) “…worrying about Gretchens “goodys””, Why do you and your sister even bother to respond, more to the point, why do you both bother to blog on HER site?? I’m just curious as it makes absolutely no sense to me.
Because Jo has a degree. Thanks.
I agree with Gretchen that just because you can reproduce does not mean you have parenting skills. After working in children & family services for years I have seen parents that do not have parenting skills. I agree that Lynn is a loving mother. Lynn is like most parents where one finds themselves needing help with their children. I had people reach out to my daughter and me while she and I struggled through her teenage years. I appreciated that they cared enough to reach out and love us.
My daughter is greiving the death of her husband and I once again appreciate each one that has reached out to her. I can’t imagine how Gretchen has had the strength to get through losing Jeff and taking all the attacks that ensued even before Jeff died.
You keep stressing the fact the you have a degree in child psychology, therefore if you have such a strong desire to counsel young people, why aren’t you practicing instead of trying to counsel someone that clearly is not interested in your advice.
Gretchen clearly checked with Lynne BEFORE she called Alexa to hook up for shopping and a pow-wow. Lynne said thanks and they discussed Gretchen calling her afterwards to report back how it went. However, when Alexa complained about it, Lynne acted like she had never known the reason of the shopping trip. I think Lynne is scared of being the ‘parent’ and having her kids shut her out of their business. She agreed with Alexa that Gretchen ambushed her, however, knew all along the purpose. I think she did it because afterwards, she realized that perhaps she SHOULD be spending more time with her kids and having more of a parental role. She was trying to save face at Gretchen’s expense.
You don’t have to explain. You absolutely did the right thing by being a good friend and offering support to their daughter especially since they were spinning their wheels and seeking advice from an outside source. I have a teenage son as well and understand Lynn’s side of living through challenges because it’s my child. I’m the parent and vested in the relationship and the responsibilities that go along with raising a young man. I’m also one that can discern when I’m not doing the right things even if it’s a hard lesson as a parent to immediately get upset with someone that’s just trying to help.
im not really sure if there is or could be a better way to say that but gretchen told lynne right. and i say that as a parent. the fact that i had a child doesnt make me a good parent. it doesnt mean i know what the hell im doing. because nine times out of ten if my parents were crappy parents then thats where ill get my guideline from and ill be a crappy parent too unless i open up my eyes and ears and am willing to listen and learn from other people. stevie wonder cant see but nobody ever told him he didnt have the right to play an instrument. hypocrocy must die
Gretchen i must say to you I have always took everything i see on these reality shows with a grain of salt. But seeing this go on behind the scenes over the internet it must be highly stressful. I didnt really know what to make of you mentally on the last show but seeing you this season and looking through the obvious i have come to see that you are an extremely intelligent woman. Real recognizes real and it seems to be some really hurtful and stressful stuff going down on that show. At the end of the day You all seem to be moderately successful woman. More so than I but no matter what walk of life i find myself on emotionally certain things just arent worth it. I know that this show will open doors, pay bills, and create connections but as for your heart your life your happiness and your sanity to all of the ladies of O C I hope it is worth it for you all. I hope that there is honestly some common ground and that you arent really all digging into eachother the way that i c on television it would make me so sad to know that such beautiful intelligent and successful women honestly bicker and behave this way. Ur the bomb Gretch stay beautiful INSIDE. Outer beauty is fleeting… unless you getting fat checks from bravo LoL!!!
Huh? Even Bravo captioned the luncheon as:
“Gretchen and Lynne’s Blow Out. Lynne gets really defensive when Gretchen *criticizes* Lynne’s parenting skills.”
Source: http://www.bravotv.com/turbotax
Yes….huh? sorry Gretchen but you DID criticize Lynns parenting skills whether you believe you did or not. You did. Accept it. Own it. Move on. Just the fact that YOU stepped over into her world without her permission. AND on camera. I think if you REALLY wanted to help you would have easily been able to talk to her OFF camera. I do not buy this “oh the camera people were there and Alexa said this and that while they were around”…. The cameras are only around for a certain period of time so the days they were not filming you – that would have been the best time to approach her. People do like you, it’s obvious, but don’t try to act like you are all of a sudden this great healer of families. Just be yourself and dont be so camera hungry. Yes? It’s ok if not everyone cares for you. Trust me, it would be boring if everyone did. Part of being an adult.
Sorry sweetie, but you need to go back and watch the episode. The issue with Alexa did come up several times off camera. It came up so many times that production finally picked up on it. If you watch the episode, I did call Lynn and ask her permission. Lynn having me talk to Alexa on Camera was her way of getting Alexa’s attention since she wasn’t listening to her mom. Lynn is mad because Alexa did open up to me instead of wanting to speak to her mom. Lynn even says “call me back and let me know how it goes”. Why would she say that if I didn’t have permission to speak with her? That’s why I am so confused about why she reacted the way she did when she clearly gave me permission to speak with her daughter.
Gretchen:
Despite Frank and Lynne’s wishes that you AND Slade mind your own business concerning Alexa (the dinner at your house to disuss Alexa for the 2nd time after the walk in the park w/Lynne), you brought it up again (3rd time) at Alexis’ luncheon.
And you were very confrontational with Lynne about it, criticizing her parenting.
You knew it was off limits, you knew Lynne was hurting badly about it, yet you brought it up anyway and pursued it ON CAMERA. How is THAT healing to anyone?
Sorry sweetie, why is it that everyone but you thinks you should mind your own business. If you want to parent a child, have one of your own…hopefully not with Slade!!!
I never gave advice or attempted to parent, I did do the right thing as an adult though who was witnessing Alexa beg for help in numerous public settings. She asked in front of me and several others 3 times! But I guess your right, maybe when a teen is calling out for help and no one is listening I should just let them take some drastic measure like excessive drinking? So you think I should mind my own business and let those young girls slip away? Maybe it is your kid that gets hurt or killed from their drunk driving? Sorry but I am not going to allow that to happen. I would never be able to live with myself if Slade’s son was injured because my friends teen age daughters where out being irresponsible and I just stuck my head in the sand. I have a degree in child psychology and I have been trained to look for kids who need help. Offering an ear to a struggling teen and then bringing up the issue to the parent is the right thing to do. I asked Lynn out of respect if I could see Alexa and she agreed. She knew exactly why I was meeting with her. She was just mad Alexa chose to talk with me. Alexa spilled way more than they chose to air. She really needed someone to talk too. It is even more evident by what transpires with her and Lynn.
Christi, my degree is from Baylor University, you are more than welcome to contact them. Please don’t be so ignorant. Production is the one who has pushed this topic not me. Lynn agreed to it, I just don’t think she expected her daughters to react they way they did. I am not trying to raise anyone kids, just keep my friends kids out of harms way. What are you going to say when one of Lyn’s kids is drunk driving and injures or kills someone you know because Lynn was to busy being their friend not their parent? It’s your responsibility as a adult to bring these things to the attention of a parent who isn’t seeing it.
Gretchen.
Finally my contact from Baylor came through. THEY DO NOT HAVE, NOR HAVE THEY EVER HAD A CHILD PSYCHOLOGY DEGREE PROGRAM.
And to top all of this off, I sent the above post to Bravo asking them to make sure to have Lynn or Tamara ask about this next season, if they have you back.
I don’t know who is more of a fake, You or Alexis. It’s no wonder you and she get along so well. Watch out or Jim will start laying hands on you.
you must not be able to navigate the baylor university site very well, they DO offer child physcology. i found it… if you are on the internet, why would you need to call someone? i included an excerpt for you as well.. PEACE OUT
http://www.baylor.edu/psychologyneuroscience/index.php?id=21168
Child Psychology
There are many avenues to working with and studying children; some in Psychology, others in related health service fields. For all, an undergraduate Psychology major is an excellent first step into the career. The various child-focused careers differ in the type of work one does, the ages and groups of children (from infants to adolescents and from normal to very disturbed and/or handicapped children), and the type and amount of training required.
At the Bachelor’s level, many human and/or health services job possibilities involve children. Camp staff director, child care counselor, child care worker, child development worker, infant stimulation teacher, youth worker, and juvenile probation officer are but a few. For jobs at this level, experience is the key to success. As an undergraduate, you should seek out relevant work experience involving children (PSY 3V90 is one way to gain initial supervised experience and get credit at the same time). Within Psychology, the following courses are advised: Group A: 3330, 3350; Group B: 3419; Group C: 4302, 3308, 2327, 3307 and 3355 (especially if interested with working with adolescents). Outside Psychology, such courses as the following would be good choices for electives:
SOC 3354, 3360
SWO 3382, 4329
HEC 2354, 3356, 3357, 4359
It’s admirable of you to attempt to bring some rationale to the tirades posted by Christi & Veronica but you’ve probably figured out what the rest of us bloggers have: they aren’t even remotely interested in an unbiased view.
All one has to do is read their invented scenarios (that even include imagined dialogue), their need to use derogatory language to berate a different point of view & the lengths to which they go to discredit Gretchen’s claims and it becomes clear that these people aren’t merely expressing a different opinion. This type of reaction is extreme. They appear like raw, open wounds lashing out for reasons that can only be personal. Perhaps they’re ex’s or friends of ex’s or relate first hand to a similar event in their lives that traumatized them.
Even when such bloggers try to monopolize the site with their rantings they only manage to alienate others who might share their point of view but don’t wish to be associated with such irrational types. Very few, if any, take them seriously.
Thanks for posting the Baylor link.
Thanks ☺
You are right, the lashings seem personal.. it’ll be interesting to watch the rest of the season… I “know” who my TV friends are… LOL
Christi:
First of all, WHY do you care so much about proving Gretchen’s degree? Did you seriously spend your time and energy looking up the school, calling a “friend” which you really prob don’t have, and send an email to Bravo? Seriously? For someone that doesn’t seem to be a fan of Gretchen your sure spent some time on her….Tamra!
For everyone else….anyone know why these blogs do not go in order? It is hard to understand them sometimes, because I don’t know who people are talking to, especially when I get a random blog (they come through my phone) Im I the only one? Can we start using names to who we are refering to so that it is not confusing? Just saying.
What a hater you are? Are you sure your name isn’t TAMRA?!?!?!?
I find that a VERY interesting segway into my question to you, Gretch.
What do you think about all the heavy drinking Alexis did at Vicki’s slumber party (weren’t you there too?), where Alexis hopped into her big SUV at the end of the night and drove herself & Lynne home, DRUNK!
FYI: It’s on film.
You being such a stand-up do-the-right thing girl and all, why didn’t you step in there too instead of standing there waving bye bye.
Kanina,
Your segue into Vickie’s slumber party has a different take on it than what I saw.
These women are too appearance conscious to binge on anything so the heavy drinking you accuse Alexis of doing was not apparent. Since their party included the psychic readings, the tp’ing of Jeana’s property & whatever else we didn’t get to see it would seem that what drinking was done occurred over the course of hours & may well have been mitigated with food. It seems like a leap to translate that into being drunk.
At the end of that scene the only people I saw standing there waving bye bye were Vicki & Tamra.
I for one, thought it was sweet of you to want to talk to Alexa. I only wish I had someone to talk to me when I was an out of control teen.
Lynn needs to spend more time being a parent and not a friend to her girls – that never works. Alexa is so obviously crying out for some boundries while Lyn just keeps sticking her head in the sand or working out to ignore that huge elephant in the room.
I like Lyn, but I think she needs to take a step back & worry more about what her kids need, then being obsessive about excercise & how she looks. It actually makes me very sad to see Alexa in such pain…I know she feels abandoned. If I were friends with the family, you’d bet I’d be trying my best to give that beautiful young girl a shoulder to lean on.
Right on Gretchen! You did what you should have done – as any aware adult would have done. All these folks (and they are in the minority) blathering on that you were in the wrong to address Alexis are fooling themselves. They are the same kind of people who know of someone or find their own children in trouble and turn a blind eye until the kid gets into major trouble or worse – dead. Then they will blame everyone else but their poor parenting skills.
They care more about how “they look” then the actual matter at hand – the child!
Sick twisted people.
Hang in there kid!
Amen! Seriously, these people have nothing better to do than trash you for helping a friend? Like I said…this got blown up, WAY out of proportion! Who cares?? geesh! Move on!
I agree with you 100%!! I think you absolutely did the right thing by talking with Alexa. I had a drinking incident with my son (16 years old) just 2 months ago. He was so depressed b/c he was being bullied & picked on at school, that he took a bottle of vodka from our house, drank the whole bottle in the parking lot at school, then DROVE to his girlfriends house!! Her panicked mom called me & we immediately took him to the hospital. He had alcohol poisoning. I wish he would have talked to someone about what was going on. He NEVER once told us about what was going on at school. He has since learned how to handle these punks & has learned a very valuable lesson about drinking and driving. It is just not acceptable. Drinking does not solve any problems you may have. I admire you for trying to do the right thing with Alexa even though they turned it around to make their problems seem less damaging then they really are. Those girls have serious issues & maybe one day Lynn & her hubby will see that.
Glad to say that my son can now talk to us about any problems he has & we have learned to listen when he wants to talk to us. Sometimes it is hard for kids to talk to their parents b/c they don’t want to get punished or in trouble for something they have done or are thinking about doing.
Thanks for being such an inspiration to all of us.
xoxo,
Holly
Those girls need serious help as do Lynn & Frank. If they don’t get a grip on those girls, they are headed for trouble!!! Hope they open their eyes & see what those girls are doing.
It also seems like Lynn is always “dopey” herself. Is she on medication? Does she use drugs? She seems so out of it most of the time. She has to be on something to act the ways she does. Seems to me like she takes xanax or something like it b/c of how “sluggish” she always seems. Any thoughts?
You are so off base it is ridiculous. Slade and I spend as much time as possible with Grayson when he is not ill. He has more than 4 million in medical expenses that are being paid by Slade. His issue with Support is about his portion of medical. Please don’t speak about issue you have no knowledge off, it makes you look ignorant. The press is trying to make up news and only giving you a small portion of the information. Every 8 weeks there is another 30K he incurs for MRI’s to check the growth of his tumor. Why don’t you blog about that. Maybe god forbid when one of your kids or family members gets ill, we will all blog about what a dead beat person you are because you can’t keep up with millions in medical expenses.
Gretchen dont let other’s who have no common sense to what the cost of being ill is get to you! I speaking from experience of having accute Chronic idiopathic Pancreatitis, Cyrosis of the liver and renal failure with kidney stones all the time daily since I was 9 years old, know just what it is to have medical bills pile up on you. HOw you can’t keep up with those medical expenses no matter how hard you try they keep coming, even with good insurance’s. I never once asked to be ill and frankly lost my childhood to having to spend alot of my time in the hospitals and having surgery after surgery and the type of health issues I have unfortunately will end up in my dealth at some point! I understand that god is the only person that know’s when its our time and he is with us all but people need to understand just how hard it is and shouldnt knock someone because it is so costly to be ill.. As for Slades child support that is between him and the mother of his child, how in the world is that possibly effecting our day to day life so why make it our concern, and if you are making it your concern then maybe you have to much time on your hands or should give Slade a job so he can pay his child support! I try very hard to not knock others but it really makes me mad because we dont live in your shoes, we dont know what happends off camera, or what someone is or isnt doing in and with their lives so all we have to judge them by is a few minutes that they appear on tv. Anyone can make up story’s about another to get on tv to get that 15 minutes of fame does it mean its true NO does it mean its right to do that to someone else No so I guess maybe everyone should rethink the situation before judging just as I had to do myself… We truly dont know how Slade is as a father fi he is sitting at his son’s bedside or taking him out to a ball game because they are not goign to show us that, they want us to think he is a slim-ball who know’s maybe he is but at least give the guy a chance maybe he was a slim ball and decided to change his life and his ways who are we to judge him! I am almost positive that no one reading and blogging on this site has a perfect background that doesnt have skeletons in their closet’s the only diffrence is that theirs is on tv and ours isnt!
Gretchen, I think you did the right thing by calling Lynn and saying hey your daughter is hurting and I would like to talk to her to see if I can help if nothing else just to be an ear to listen! To often kid feel like they have no one not even their parents to talk to, and eeven when the parents are there for their child they dont want to talk to them we all have been there~ To often kids feel alone and confused and then get depressed and start getting worse, I am thankful you stepped up and asked to talk to her it was nice to see a true friend step up and actually care enough about the family to try to help…tching the last few episodes with the youthologist Alexis told her parents why do you care now you havent cared or listen to this point tells the all truth about the situations and the parents didnt say anything to her or defend themselves~ I believe Lynn is a wonderful person and as a mother of three teenagers now its hard to understand them because one minute they want you in their lives the nexted they dont want you to know anything, but as the parent you have to still listen and be there rather they like it or not! The thing I see most that is needed is discipline and say what you mean and mean what you say! Follow through as I tell my own children I am not your friend and cannot be your friend right now I am your mother first and Its my job to teach you right from wrong when you become an adult then we can be friends~ I dont care how your children are they always need their parents i mean look at us and how many times we want our mommies per say!
Gretchen:
I’m glad this subject was brought up. You so had Lynn’s permission and I honestly think she is out to lunch most of the time, not just as a mom but as a person as well. I’m sure you have found out for yourself by now but I’ll say it anyway; there is no help for their parenting skills. It is sad to watch the distortion that,that family lives in.
what gretchen says is true,,, she called to tell lynn of her intentions… thus getting her permission, in fact telling lynn she’d report back and lynn acted like it was no big deal…. have you ever heard that it IS easier to talk to someone outside of your family than talk directly to your own family? gretchen was trying to be a friend and then lynn turns around and slams her for trying to help, .. when gretchen HAD expressed her concerns… that is what friends do in case you have not heard of that before……infact gretchen expressed her concern because alexa was acting up IN FRONT OF Gretchen… not hearsay and then butting in… i don’t know but if you ask me, lynn needs to be hit in the head with a two-by-four to get through to her… i do like lynn but she is out to lunch half of the time.. literally… oh and plus don’t give the rant about intrusion.. lynn is the one who could have thanked gretchen for her concern and set a boundry, but no she decides to go to take a left hadn turn to a yecky place… and make this whole deal in to something it wasn’t… i’d be ticked off too…lynn just didn’t like the taste of her own medicine…
Nope, sorry Sarah. When Frank and Lynne met with Slade and Gretchen at dinner at their house to talk about Alexa they were very clear Gretchen should back off.
The same sentiments were expressed to Gretchen in the park by Lynne, but obviously Gretchen decided to ignore their wishes.
Your what Dr. Phil calls a “Right Fighter”
gretchen was trying to clear the air with lynn and lynn was taking what gretchen was saying the wrong way… then lynn was attacking gretchen about another topic… completley seperate.. lynn is the one who took it somewhere where it didn’t need to go… gretchen was attempting to get through to her and i admit being straight up with her… because howelse does one get through to lynn… sorry, but when lynn took the conversation a different direction it gave gretchen the right to say something back… who’s attacking who? who cares lynn is over it anyhow… i love lynn and gretchen…
please tell all of us gretchen where you got the “new york coffee” plate displayed in your kitchen
ALOT OF US FANS OF YOURS ARE NYers
Lisa, you totally took what Gretchen was offering Alexa the wrong way. I know where she is coming from and if you see Lynn’s daughter wants attention from her mother and her father, maybe you grew up in a house where you had attention so you may not know what its like to be in that kind of situation,or maybe not. But Gretchen was just letting her know that if she ever needed someone to talk to that she was there for her. Gretchen did nothing wrong!
Gretchen,
Glad to see you moving forward with all of your other endeavors! You are young and beautiful, both inside and out! Most people have skeletons in their closet, so don’t worry about the things of your past. It’s how you move forward and learn from those experiences that matter. You cannot change anything in the past, or live in the past. Hang on to your energy and positive attitude. Many of us who have watched the show from the beginning know that you were only concerned about Alexa. In the edited footage that we were able to see, you never actually gave Alexa advice…and I hate how Lynn keeps saying that you are trying to give her advice. All I saw you say to her was basically that you were there to listen, and that you can related in some ways due to your past. Lynn should love you as a friend who cared. I didn’t see in any way how you were using that as an opportunity for you. Unless there was a way for you to have had a private conversation with Alexa outside of the Bravo show. But, we don’t know how much access and true privacy the cast members actually get. I guess it’s the old addage, damned if you do…damned if you don’t. No good deed goes unpunished. Tamara appears to be going through her own thing, and I’ve never seen her so negative as this last episode. She criticizes and berates almost everyone around her. It’s definitely a cry out, people usually aren’t like that unless they have issues with themselves. Be wise with all your decisions. It might not be a bad idea to keep your stuff and Slade’s stuff separate a bit, with a mutual account that you can share and pool from in agreement…then down the road, neither of you can blame the other, especially since he has previous financial obligations in his child. Then if you guys end up with children of your own…those funds come out of the community pool? It’s not saying that you guys will fail, or setting you up for failure and not trustig each other…it’s just clean business! Never mix love and money….keep each pure to themselves! Can’t wait to see your new beauty line…I hope it is affordable for those who are keeping a budget! You really represent a fiscally responsible woman! What makes you so different from the other women is your constant striving to be fun, upbeat, positive and nice. Being negative is beneath you. You are a great person for Jeff’s kids too. They are entering adulthood and you are a person that really knew their dad. In life they will have to grow from their loss and your positive eneregy is a great influence. It’s okay to keep caring about Jeff and his kids even while building your life with Slade. Wishing you the best and looking forward to what is to come. Try taking a moment to read “Desiderata”, written by Max Ehrmann in the 1920s –
It is a quick short poem that holds many truths over all decades. Love, Laughter, Peace, Happiness. I hope that you will have kids and get to experience that love, you will be a good mother!
Dear Gretchen,
You are by far the most attractive and sweetest housewife and I really love that pink dress with the pink belt you wear in your intro photo. I am looking forward to finding out about where to buy it when “Gretchen’s Closet” is up and running! I, as do many people who have posted here, think that Tamra is a bit jealous of you and I think you have risen above this and I wish you all the best with your makeup line! I am certainly going to buy some makeup, too! All of us glamor girls here in Orlando, Florida ENVY you and love to see your fashions and live vicariously through you, Gretchen! All my best for 2010!
Sue in Florida
Tamra IS two-faced..theres a part on the show when Vickis upset about the guys showing up on her planned “girls-weekend”..Vicki asks Tamra just please don’t talk about me and tell ppl oh Vickis crying…AS SOON as Tamra gets in the limo..she sys Vickis crying, shes upset bc the men are here etc. NO LOYALTY. Later on at the club she makes a statment about Vicki& Donns marriage when in fact Tamra & Simons is a sham! wow, what are best friends for.
Tamra has no loyalty. Vicki asks her in the hotel please don’t talk about me or tell ppl im as crying. SOON as Tamra gets in the Limo hey guys Vickis crying and upset etc. At the club she makes a statment about Vicki&Donns marriage, when in fact Tamras is a sham!
i beleve u even though i read a lil i whatch the show and i think ya that was wrong for her to say anything but i think you should be the bigger person and take this blog down and i think you and tamra should become friends because it seems like when you 2 are together it looks like you guys are always having fun:)
love,
Emily XoXo
i love you gretchen…. but just know that girls an ugly bi*** and she knows it… so dont kick her while shes down.. she already knows shes a liar
In my opinion, I believe it’s time to forgive.
Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience. Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Colossians 3:12-13
Life is too short to continue down this road. It will effect everything in your life.
Whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.
Philippians 4:8
Gretchen,
Gretchen you are truley beautiful. What I love about the show and everything is you don’t try to lie or portray something your not. You admit your faults and I believe that makes you a much stronger person than anyone else on the show. I must say… I googled the blog because of the fact that Tamra is always talking about it. Gretchen your naturally beautiful and you can clearly see the jealousy in the episodes….Just wanted to say your fabulous and don’t let people bring you down
Gretchen,
You are by far my favorite “housewife” and I wish the very best for you. I was excited to see you make a come back this past season and that you did not let the other ladies scare you off. It’s interesting that you are the youngest, yet the brightest, and I love your spirit!
Keep doing what you’re doing – I know you will succeed in anything you do. You are an amazing woman, and quite the cool-ass biker chick (I envy you!).
I don’t have to tell you not to let anyone influence your choice of men, and do not apologize for the choices you have made. As far as I am concerned, you’ve made the right choices for you, and if later you feel that you haven’t, well than lesson learned. Listening to the things that you have shared concering Tamra’s immature behavior – I felt like I was transported back to high school. OMG – no. I had a “friend” like her, and still regret the day I met the girl (like 25 yrs ago). I’m glad to see that you’ve handled yourself extremely well . . .
It’s too bad that at Tamra’s age, she is still petty and jealous, and she just needs to get over herself. And what kind of influence is she having over her girls?
Anyway, enough about her. You hang in there girl and keep your pretty chin up. God bless you Gretchen!
Did you check with St. Jude’s Hospital?
I can’t say enough how much I ADMIRE you and LOVE everything about you! You are so genuine and real and have such a beautiful spirit about you. You definitely are the HOTTEST HOUSEWIVE IN THE OC and as your intro says: “Who wouldn’t talk about me?!!”
Unfortunately for you SLAMARA won’t shut her mouth so thank you for posting your thoughts and concerns and showing us your side of the issue. As stated numerous times before, if it weren’t for her running her mouth I would have never read your blog, but I’m glad I did and now all of this mess makes total sense!!
Please don’t remove it or continue to waste your time with thIS hateful, fake BITCH!!!!!! She is finally reeping everything she has been sewing for the last 3 seasons and you can tell Vicki has rubbed off on her more ways than one!!
Vicki does nothing this season but complain about all of the other ladies! Why doesn’t she just quit the show if she’s that unhappy? God knows she’s making us MISERABLE by having to listen to all her crap over and over again and again!! DONE WITH VICKI FOREVER!!!!!!!!
Lynne has lost her mind!! You have explained things to her and she still doesn’t comprehend what you’re trying to do and NEVER will b/c she’s too stupid!! You can’t change stupidity!! Just know you tried and until someone in that family grows a brain, they will never understand your reasonings or concern for them. Jeana’s the ONLY person who has said she would have welcomed others showing concern for her kids!! WAY TO GO JEANA AND GRETCHEN!!!!!
I absolutely love you and wish you the best in everything you do! Your song was breath-taking and I can’t wait to see your makeup line debut next week! Keep smiling and remember what a fabulous person you are and forget those pain-in-the ass bitches!!!!!!
Much Love and Respect,
Robin
P.S. Come see us in the ATL!!!!!!
I just finally read your blog and im so glad to see how you showed Tamra for what she really is!
You are a beautiful,aticulate and extremely likable young woman and I am so proud of how you have handled this situation.
the only question I had in reading your blog was why on earth did you give this J guy that much money?
It does not matter I WAS JUST WONDERING?
Anyway stay sweet and most of all stay strong!
My daughter love you and you are and always have been our favorite O.C. housewife!
that Tamra says one thing and does another, all you have TRIED to do is be nice to her even when you didn’t have to.. that woman is a BROAD and never to be trusted.. Tamra acts like a highschool girl trying to get her way.. so THERE… everyone gets her BS because we are all OUT OF highschool…
No one will really ever know the truth. Tamra is in her forties and you are in your thirties. this is HIGH SCHOOL. completely innapropriate you spent this time posting this on your website. both of you should be ashamed of yourselves for acting so insecure!
Hi Gretchen,
I just wanted to let you know that you have fans all over and that I am 100% on team Gretchen! I am 19 and am from Nova Scotia Canada and I love watching you on Real Housewives. I think your great and bring a young, fresh vibe to the show and it needed it! Im not going to bash anyone from the show but I believe that you were attacked on this show and that you have every right to defend yourself. People are always going to be jealous and you will never run out of users in this world, you just have to keep your eyes open and your head up. Keep being real inside and out! haha your gorg.
Alyssa
xo
Gretchen:
Couple things. The idea that you are open to having relationships with your BF’s (Jo) ex is somewhat concerning to me. Regardless of the time lapsed since they were together, entering into a romantic relationship despite knowing it would hurt her is cruel and a betrayal.
Is Slade (or any person) really worth the hurt you have caused? Is that how you operate, by your hormones and not doing what you KNOW is the right thing instead?
Maybe rethink “why” you’re willing to be involved with someone who can so easily hurt someone he once loved in such a manner. I’m sure you wouldn’t want to be on the receiving end of what Jo has felt years from now, no?
Secondly, I think it was egregiously inappropriate that you confronted Lynne regarding her daughter at Alexis’ dinner. You KNEW it was an emotionally charged subject for Lynne (convo in the park & dinner at your house), yet broached it anyway. I firmly believe you owe her an apology for that. Please consider it.
I’m not saying Lynne and her husband don’t have profound challenges with their daughter Gretchen. And I pray they will find support for that. I’m saying your confrontation of her was uncalled for.
Kanina-i didn’t know that jo and gretchen were best friends…i know that jo, slade and gretchen were friends, when gretchen went to support jo while filming her music video.
the whole time jo was on the show, i thought she was selfish, rude, vain, and always taking advantage of slade. she was always willing to take any and all the gifts slade bought her, and then made fun of him behind his back.
do you remember the episode when jo LEFT slade, she started making plans to move and further her career, and declined to discuss it with slade. He thought they would be going together since they were a couple, but NO…jo had no room for slade in her world.
so why if she left slade, does she have the right to claim his as her property and you feel that slade can’t move on with his life?
the fact is none of this is any of our business, but i don’t think gretchen STOLE slade from jo, if you live in the real world, many friends become each other’s rock.
i think no one would have wanted to be in slade’s position while dating jo.
as for your second comment, i think lynne was stressed and didn’t know how to handle advise. gretchen merely saw a sad girl seeking attention, and she did what any friend might do. in fact, lynne’s daughter has admitted several times on the show that she has no boundaries, and keeps pushing the limits with
her parents further and further, to no avail.
She has also admitted that she “parties” all the time. if that means what i think it means, then maybe lynne should listen to what gretchen has to say. you don’t have to have kids to understand what lynne is going through, you could have been that kid, a sister or brother, a cousin, or a friend.
I have to agree with the reply from Natalie. I’m not a fan of Slade’s but I think it was appropriate the way the two hooked up. I believe out of concern for Jo’s feelings, the two of them respectfully spoke to her about their feelings for each other.
Thanks for posting this Gretchen, it really helps fill in the gaps left by the show. I am so sorry you have had to deal with so much nonsense and false accusations. I am glad the tide has turned and the pot stirrer is going to have to answer some tough questions.
I wish you all the best!!
GRETCHEN YOU ARE MY FAVORITE HOUSEWIFE…. THE FACT THAT TAMARA HAS ALOT TO SAY ABOUT WHAT GOES ON IN YOUR LIFE WHEN SHE CAN’T EVEN KEEP HERS STRAIGHT…. SO THAT SHOULD TELL HER TO KEEP HER MOUTH SHUT ABOUT YOUR LIFE AND JUST WORRY ABOUT HER OWN!!!!!
gretchen is a babe…vicki is boring and tamra has blonde roots…luv the show.
lynn…get some balls
gretchen is a babe and keeps me watchin….vicki is a boring old hag…tamra is a dumb ass and lynn needs to grow some balls…luv the show…
Gretchen, I have never read a blog before, let along comment on one, but here goes. Everyone has done things they are not proud of, you, Tamara myself and the rest of your fans. Don’t fret over the past mistakes, move on and make better choices, that’s the key (and it seems like you are doing that). As far as the blog. I’m not sure I’d take it down or not, but I would quit commenting on it. Is there a way you can post it without people being able to comment on it. You don’t want to keep this conflict going (or atleast it seems like you don’t), so ignoring the situation is best. And YES, I know it would be difficult, but as you’ve said, the truth will come out. I was shocked to see Lynne’s reaction to you talking to Alexa, after all, you talked with her ahead of time, and she was OKAY with it! UGH, I know it’s hard to tell what really happened because of how things are filmed, but that showed a different side of Lynne. I was disappointed.
As far as Tamara goes, I am sorry she is getting divorced, it is horrible when a family dissolves. But, you reap what you sow.
“With regard to your comment on Lynn, I completely disagree. First off, my degree is in psychology with a focus on family and child development. I have been trained to look for signs when teens are crying out for help. Second, because I have been taken advantage of by ruthless people who have plastered my images on the net, I am exactly the person she should listen too. Who knows better than me now how to protect your self from people like that.”
Have you ever practiced as a psychologist? I would think if you had sincere concerns for their emotional well-being you might consider that there are far better ways to communicate your desire to help than to approach a teenager or her parents while surrounded by cameras on a reality television show. That’s not really what most mental health professionals would agree is best the way to go about offering assistance or expressing concern to an obviously insecure young woman trying to find her self or to her clearly out-of their-depth parents.
I am terribly sorry to hear about Grayson’s health battle and will pray for his recovery but I am very confused by your saying his MRIs cost 30,000 dollars. PLease see the following website which I’ve quoted below:
http://www.costhelper.com/cost/health/mri.html
“Typical costs:
For a patient not covered by health insurance, the typical cost of an MRI ranges from about $1,100 to $2,700, depending on whether the MRI is performed at a doctor’s office or hospital and on what part of the body the MRI is done.”
Lilalee: My husband is a physician and personally just had an MRI yesterday. He paid out-of-pocket because of our extremely high deductible…$1,200.00. I think this blog is filled with lies that Gretchen (and Slade) would like us to believe. She is beautiful but not kind or ethical.
Well good Kate, then I can take a copy of your response to the hospital that is billing me close to $15,000 for my MRI, the Radiologist who had to read it, the dye used and so forth and fight this bill. Maybe then I won’t have to worry how to pay it and the rest of my bills (food, mortgage, clothing, utilities, insurances, etc…). But then again, when I worked for a hospital, I got great discounts on my and my children bills. And having worked for a hospital, I know that hospitals in different states have different billing prices and procedures. So having a physician as a husband have great medical perks.
Hey Gretchen, Tamra is just jealous of you!!! She just needs to keep her nose out of your life. LOVE YA GIRL!!
You stay strong Gretchen. I love your spirit. You had some hard lessons but you seem to have learned from them. You are so much stronger and it shows. You go girl! Tamra is an old shrew and super jealous of you. Hahahaha!
Gretchen,
Good for you in speaking your mind! There is always going to be someone who tries to create drama in someone else’s life. I feel sorry that someone as outwardly beautiful as Tamra would focus so much time and attention on the details of your life. I think there are two reasons for her doing this:
1) She is trying to distract herself and others from the fact that her life and marriage is not what it should be or what she wants it to be.
2) She just likes drama. Some people just can’t help being what I call “pot stirrers”. She always has to have her hand in things and she likes to add her own ingredients to make her own recipe.
Keep doing you Gretchen! You reap what you sow and from the looks of things, Tamra’s garden isn’t growing a thing!
Team Gretchen all the way……
Gretchen…you are definately my favorite but this blog really disapoints me…. I know you wanna tell te truth about Tamara and believe me everyone believes you but I believe you should know better than to post something like this I don’t think this makes you look or be any better than her and I know you are better than her. Please just be the classy girl I know you are and don’t stoop to her level! Love ya!
Gretchen-
Gretchen- I finally read the blog and Im so glad you never took it down and put Tamara in her place. I have been on your side since i started watching. First of all Im a married 28yr old mother of 2 and i would never dwell in someones life the way Tamara has in yours. If she spent this much time on her own issues maybe she wouldnt be in the situation she is now. I have always felt bad for you. You have endured alot in your young age as have I. Everyone does stupid things that they are not proud of and unfair to you, yours were taped or photographed makeing it hard to move on. Im glad that the Tamara thing has your side now and I hope you keep moveing forward and doing things that will make you happy and smile everyday! Lots of Love! oxoxox
Gretchen:
This all makes sense now! I know everyone else has said over and over that Tamara is jealous of you, and I have to admitt before reading this blog I was on Tamara’s side. I thought maybe she knew more than we the fans knew. Now I know the truth. I think Tamara could be Bipolar, it really does fit her personality. I want you to know you are correct on saying the truth will set you free. That is so right and I think if Tamara would pratice her own preaching she would be liked more. Everyone loves to hate someone who is fake and I think if she would just own up to her lies and admitt that she was wrong and possably jealous and has her own insecurities she would be more liked by fans of the show. When you talk bad about others you make yourself look bad. And coming from someone who really liked her, she has really disappointed me as a fan and I hope she can find peace in her life she is obvisiously very unhappy in her life… Well good luck and I wish you the best, and I am sorry you have had to deal with all of this when you had lost Jeff. I hope you will be able to go on in life knowing that you are the better person and you have a lot more class than she ever thought about having. One more thing I am beginning to think Tamera is trailor trash…
100% co-signed on what Lilalee has written below. Well said!!!
“Have you ever practiced as a psychologist? I would think if you had sincere concerns for their emotional well-being you might consider that there are far better ways to communicate your desire to help than to approach a teenager or her parents while surrounded by cameras on a reality television show. That’s not really what most mental health professionals would agree is best the way to go about offering assistance or expressing concern to an obviously insecure young woman trying to find her self or to her clearly out-of their-depth parents.”
Concerns where express multiple occasions off camera to Lynn. Alexa made comments in front of the crew which is why it lead up to filming. I only offered her an ear. Nothing more.
Sorry Gretchen, but that doesn’t explain WHY you had to bring it up yet AGAIN.
You met with Lynne and then her husband about the very subject, thats twice. And they were very clear with their feelings on you and Slade minding your own business. Yet you felt it necessary to being it up AGAIN (3rd time) at the luncheon (on camera) KNOWING how emotionally charged the subject was. I’m disappointed you refuse to acknowledge this.
Because that’s what friends do they ask how a friend’s children are doing. Who knew Lynn was more high than usual and would act so crazy?
Thats what friends do? You mean similar to how Gretchen was “friends” with Jo and then hooked-up with Jo’s ex (aka Slade). Lord.
I am not sure if Gretchen was friends or not with Jo, I know she has been friends for years with Slade. It is my understanding that Slade and Jo broke up 4 years ago.
Kanina, seems like you have major issues. Jo doesn’t seem to have a problem and has moved on considering she actually had a show with Slade to find her a new man! Seems Joe and Slade know when to move on. Try it on for size….
No worries, Madgie. I’m sure it’s making many folks aside from yourself uncomfortable with me asking the hard questions.
BTW, resorting to character assassinations as a means to quiet someone only says more about yourself hon.
God Bless.
And p.s. if you watch a recent segment you’d know that Jo is indeed very hurt by Slade and Gretchen’s relationship.
Funny how you throw around the words “character assassination” while you are making up things on Gretchen’s blog. I have watched all the RHOC this season and have not seen Jo on at all talking about how upset she is. Maybe you are referring to one episode Gretchen said she talked to Jo. Jo didn’t seem to upset when she was doing her show to find a new man nor cashing the checks from Bravo and that was what 2 years ago?
Nope hon. Gretchen herself said that Jo is hurt and bitter from her and Slade’s relationship, only because she and Jo were friends.
Before all this and as her good friend, Jo even had Gretchen appear in her music video.
Did we watch the same episode? Gretchen wasn’t the one who brought it up to Lynn…
Hi Rhonda:
Yes, Gretchen did broach the subject to Lynne at Alexis’luncheon.
Maybe try watching the segment again?
Who gives a shit about Jo??? Geez Louise!!
Jo had many opportunities to make a go with Slade imo from what I saw on the earlier seasons.
Jo wasn’t ready to settle down, and wanted to party and have a music career and do her thing, last I read she was making appearances at a pizza house promoting Karoke!
Thats right. Who cares. Friendships come and go, very disposable. Big sigh.
Its a REALITY SHOW for christs sake
no sigh!!
I would have to offer my condolences if your REALITY includes “friends” betraying & hurting you, and you finding that acceptable.
For me, I’m blessed to not have that in my life. But IF they did behave in that manner, it would not be acceptable.
Alexa is a drana queen, she knows exactly what she is saying that will get air time/face time, and is making herself a top pick to be a cast member on the Bad Girls Club Reality TV Show when shes 18.
To think for a minute that Gretchen is responsible for Alexa’s issues and/or being solely responsible for exposing Alexa’s issues on TV is just laughable to me. Wow I guess Laurie back in season one is a bad mom for allowing cameras to expose her teenage son in juvenile hall etc. It’s called Reality TV – thats what was my understanding when I sat down to watch the show. Not little miss goody two shoes fluffy TV that hides all the uncomfortable stuff……. How boring that show would be.!
Drama Queen — damn I hate typos!!
It’s such a shame that women act that way. I guess it makes for good t.v, but it hurts when you can’t even trust your friends. Been there, felt that!
I’m enjoying the blog! Thanks for all the time it takes to maintain it! And I agree that you don’t have to have children of your own, to have parenting skills. I’m proof of it! I entered into a marriage that had two male teens and had no children of my own. I straightened out the mess their biological mother had made and today they are two successful men. It was very difficult, but my life experience has helped me a lot. What you are seeing from Lynn is GUILT that she is not a great parent. Even her own child is announcing to everyone that she never gets punished. To parent a child takes a lot out of you. And it is work. I don’t think Lynne has it in her. She seems to me not to like to try too hard and gives up easily. Just my two cents worth
Gretchen..I think you are beautiful and just need to continue living your life the way you are. I have had similar situations with people and you’ll never know why people act the way they do but just know you are better than they are. I’m reading a book now and it really is helping me to know that I just need to forgive and go on for myself. It’s Joel Olsteen’s Your best life now…if you ever get a chance read some of it…it will is help you realize that all this drama is not worth it. Anyway you are so pretty and an amazing person..I admire you everyday! Stay strong and GOD will prevail!
Gretchen, I so get why you talked to Lynns daughter. I never once thought you meant anything about Lynn’s parenting skills. I wish someone would have approached me as a teenager and said they were there for me. You have a huge heart! Don’t worry about all the garbage with Tamara. Almost everyone knows her true colors, which is sad. She has a cute family and is very pretty but she is ruined by her cheap comments. Hang in there girl! You are a doll Gretchen and very real!
Dear Gretchen,
Who knows if you’ll even read this…but here goes. Good for you for defending yourself. I’ve NEVER liked Tamra or Simon…they are both vile and disgusting. She is clearly a jealous and insecure person who will hurt anyone to make herself be the “victim”/good person. (I mean even with Lynne & Alexis, does anyone see how she looks at them…with such jealousy. She’s clearly a miserable person.) Sooo happy I could read this blog. DON’T take it down!!! If you do, then Tamra will win and spin it some other way. Good luck to you!
Um busted, tamera has been proven over and over again in her lies…The nail in the coffin, divorce enough said there. And its so true I would never have read this blog it Tamera didnt keep saying to have it removed! Leave this blog on and let the truth be heard. I am sure that is why you havent removed it, because its the truth. Good luck!
Love you Gretchen,It’s so sad that T3′s life is so miserable that she has to tell lies about you. As everyone has stated, since you first appeared on the show T3 was extremely jealous of you. Lynn is acting as if she’s in high school and wants to hang with the popular kids (Vickie and Tamara). I thinks it is great that you stepped up to the plate to talk to Lynn’s daughter,(with Lynn’s permission) I guess Vickie and T3 wouldn’t ever step in to try and help, they would just let her fall off a cliff. I was one to say let all of this go and take down the blog, but now I say keep it up until T3 stop talking sh*t.
I am so over gretchen..the truth will come out,I agree with Janie says.get real people.Tamra does not talk trash like gretchen,does about tamra..take the blog down and get on with life.. and no I do not know tamra.I am from chicago.you act like attack dogs.
If your so over Gretchen — then what the hell are you doing here posting? Some peoples kids – I swear!
You would like to believe I am a kid because you are a fool like everyone else that believes gretchen.And the reason I am posting because I have a right the same as you..after all the truth will set you free..lol,after this I am done..why dont you get a life.
Don’t concern yourself with my life kiddo!
&
Don’t let door hit ya in the ass
on your way out.
lol cant take the truth.
hey “nannie”? is it? as much as i realize this is a public blog, it is a blog for FANS of Gretchen to talk with her and her fans about the show, YOU do not appear to be a fan of Gretchen’s you seem to be more a fan of Tamra’s so Why Are You Here?? Tamra, if you don’t like…oops, I mean nannie, sorry, my bad…if you don’t like Gretchen you can always Not post…those of us here, are sincerely concerned for Gretchen (and Slade–yea you too fella 8)) and you obviously aren’t. So Tamra…oops… I did it again 8), why can’t you leave Gretchen alone? Can you say Obsessive much??
my god tamra is the biggest trash talker, infact she is trailer trash… tamra didn’t like gretchen from DAY ONE—-> for no reason.. other than … maybe she steals the limelight a little from Tamra… my goodness even her own husband doesn’t like the way she talks and trashtalks. ;D
Nannie?..ummm..Tamra?? lol Why do you keep posting here if you hate it so? This isn’t your first comment…”girlfrien’ say whaaa??” Are either Tamra, or her nanny. Go live your life in…ahem…chicago. lol lol
I am so glad that I finally read this blog! Gretchen, I have never doubted you and where you are coming from. This whole Tamra thing makes perfect sense. #1 Tamra is crazy! #2 She is so crazy that the real reason she wants you to take this blog down is because she doesn’t want to read negative things about herself. I guarantee that the self-involved, over bleached slag reads your blog on a daily basis. We should all say “suck it” to Tamra!! #3 I believe that Tamra and “J” were in cahoots together to try and expose you as a “golddigger”. Tamra has always been envious of you because you are better looking, smarter and kinder than she will ever be. Keep this blog up forever! It provides the truth that Bravo will never allow us to see or read. Kudos on the Harley…way to stick with it and show all of those O.C. haters that you mean business!
Gretchen:
I heard today that you are being sued for libel and slander by that old boyfriend, Jay. How sad… I wish Tamra could get her marriage back but this blog and all the mean things you say about her and the others on the show has ruined their personal life. I knew for you to date a person like Slade, who doesn’t care about his special needs child, you had to be a phony. How can you go and tell others how to parent when you date a man who doesn’t even try to parent his own kids.
Now I notice you are trying to profit off of us…cheap make-up and clothes. Not to mention your soft-porn advertisements of yourself in very little. I hope you can learn that character and integrity are what make a women and man.
Kate you are as ugly as Tamera is – are you related to Bitch Barney?
Wow Linda… I sure touched a chord with you. No, I don’t even know Tamra and I’m personally more of a fan of Simon than Tamra’s. I just hate “fake” people and I have to voice my opinion. I’m actually quite nice to my “real” friends! I think it especially bothers me because I have 2 special needs children and I think Slade’s actions are despicable. Gretchen went from being the faithful caretaker of Jeff to a rauchy, sex-crazed girlfriend of Slade…a 180 turn, in my opinion. I liked her much better with Jeff than how she is with Slade.
I had an MRI and it was $1500, I assume Slades son over time has had several MRI’s…. which anyone can see is very expensive ! duh
I know Slade has children, and remember them from an episode that had to do with Halloween costumes. What did I miss? His son is sick or handicap? I seem to be in the dark about this one.
Gretchen I completley sympathize with you. Tamara needs to remove her blog from her website, she is obviously miserable and has nothing better to do. I have lived thru losing my oldest brother, & father before graduating h.s.. Then in Oct., I lost my husband of 9+yrs. We have no choice other than to keep our heads up high. You know who you are & you will be blessed for being such a caring, loving women. May all those that we have lost R.I.P. xoxo
I have never been the type of person that gets into the whole blogging thing, but I subscribed to this one, not realizing how full my inbox was going to get. So when I am bored, I read the comments and I myself, even comment every once in a while. So, I just want to say that I think people are forgetting that these people have real lives and some of the things that are being said are really hurtful. I, for one, am really over this whole blog thing..I honestly don’t care who did what to whom and who said what about who…it’s over and done with. It’s SUCH a dead horse. I don’t really care for Tamra’s personality on she show, because she seems to be a really mean spirited person, but she did say to Simon that she wanted to drop all of this and try being friends with Gretchen. He was the one who didn’t want her to pursue a friendship. I also think Gretchen is NOT the one dragging this out..it’s all the people writing the comments. I’m so over it…lets move on people. The only time she responds is when she is defending herself. There are A LOT of people out there who have taken X-rated pictures. The truth is, they would have never been publicized if she wasn’t on TV. It’s really NOT a big deal. I’m willing to bet that Frank has some X-Rated pics of Lynn too…they just happen to not have been stolen from them. It is something that a lot of couples do together. So for people to say that she is disgusting or she is no one to be giving advice to Alexis, is stupid! Every one has skeletons in their closets..hers just happen to have been publicized…and it wasn’t her doing. And as far as Slade goes, it’s none of our business what he does. We have no clue what he does or doesn’t do for his kids. For all we know, their mother could just be a money hungry woman who will never be satisfied. He could have been giving her cash all this time and she just never reported it. We don’t know! That exact thing happened to my husband because he trusted his ex wife. From what I remember on the first couple of seasons, he was a really good dad. Gretchen shouldn’t be judged for who she happened to fall in love with either. You can’t help who you love. And to keep harping on how much an MRI costs, is so stupid! It could be 30 k in the area she lives in! Or maybe she just really doesn’t know how much it was and was taking a guess! Maybe she is going off what he said. Or maybe she is talking about the entire battery of tests, the doctors fee, etc.. that he gets on the day he had his MRI…you guys don’t know. The point is, no one knows what goes on with their lives, but them! How would you guys like it if you were judged and scrutinized for every LITTLE thing that you do/did? Just remember, she is a REAL person, with REAL feelings…and so is Tamra for that matter. It all needs to be let go of…as much as I dislike Tamra (on the show)…we don’t know who she REALLY is on the inside..nor do we know everything about these peoples lives. We know what Bravo chooses to show us and the rumors that get started..some of you people are really too invested in these peoples’ lives…
So, That’s MY 2 cents…Thanks for reading…:)
Rhonda
Rhonda, You probably should have said you were putting in your 10 dollars worth –
not MY 2 cents LOL
That was a LONG post.
oh JHCHRST, Tamra had a problem with Gretchen day 1.. has nothing to do with this J thing.. the J thing is something for her to cling to. TamRA is simply a green eyed monster… and the only way people like her deal with it is to tear people down… my best advice for Gretchen is to ignore her, don’t get in to any conversatiosn with her to hash it out becuase it will never be hashed out. the best thing you can do is take down this blog and forget that she even exists.. TamRA will hang herself. you don’t need to help her, because SHE CANNOT help herself.. OR she will have an issue with someone else and beat it in to the ground.. she is the one who starts it, but if you continue to retaliate (u’ve made your points and beleive me, people get it) its only a game of he said she said… Tamra can just SUCK IT (lolololololo)
My tattoo says Jeffrey. Sorry but you are misinformed.
“Rumors”
:p
In ancient Greece (469 – 399 BC), Socrates was widely
lauded for his wisdom One day the great philosopher
came upon an acquaintance, who ran up to him excitedly and said, “Socrates, do you know what I just heard about one of your students…?”
“Wait a moment,” Socrates replied. “Before you tell
me, I’d like you to pass a little test. It’s called
the Test of Three.”
“Test of Three?”
“That’s correct,” Socrates continued.
“Before you talk to me about my student let’s take a
moment to test what you’re going to say. The first
test is Truth. Have you made absolutely sure that what
you are about to tell me is true?”
“No,” the man replied, “actually I just heard about it.”
“All right,” said Socrates. “So you don’t really know
if it’s true or not. Now let’s try the second test,
the test of Goodness. Is what you are about to tell me
about my student something good?”
“No, on the contrary…”
“So,” Socrates continued, “you want to tell me
something bad about him even though you’re not certain
it’s true?”
The man shrugged, a little embarrassed.
Socrates continued, “You may still pass though because
there is a third test – the filter of Usefulness. Is what you
want to tell me about my student going to be useful to me?”
“No, not really…”
“Well,” concluded Socrates, “if what you want to tell
me is neither True nor Good nor even Useful, why tell
it to me at all?”
The man was defeated and ashamed and said no more.
This is the reason Socrates was a great philosopher
and held in such high esteem.
Brilliant
AWSOME!! I love this!!
Contact Primary Childrens Hospital. I don’t know much about how the finance part of the hospital is ran but it’s an excellant childrens hospital. I have been told that if you don’t have insurance your needs are meet…just not sure how that works. Best of luck.
Forgot to inform you of the city, it’s in Salt Lake.
Gretchen,
I’m a big fan of the show. In the Blog you wrote about Slades’ son. I’m a pediatric high tech home care RN. I work with all kind of families, wealthy to poor. Each state has a program that covers all children regardless of pre-exhisting conditions. http://www.healthyfamilies.ca.gov
We have the same programs in PA. I can feel for Slade, My cousin had a little girl that had Brain Cancer. She passed 3 year ago. Tell Slade not to give up, Take him to Shrinners or St Jude. They have to treat with or without insurance. He needs to fight the fight, do not accept the terms.
Best of everything for you both.
And re: the Lynne and the comment you said” About the popping out children doesn’t make u a parent” OMG how TRUE. My neice & nephew popped out a baby girl 2 months ago and the Mom actually yelled at the baby cause she was crying. LYNNE needs to get her head out of the sand. Your wonderful quote. And just remind Lynne that your an adult, the next time she has something to say about your actions. Her Daughters are not legal.
Thank you so much. I will pass on the information to him. I know he is working with St. Judes now for some of his care.
Gretchen, I’ve been on your side from jump. You are gorgeous and I love love your hair. It’s obvious you’re a very friendly girl and they are jealous of you. I’m sure you’re not perfect either and guess what no one cares about that. I’ve always disliked Tamra, of course I don’t know her, but even before you came along ,I just can’t stand her or her husband. Now I just feel a little sorry for her, just looking at her brittle hair sitting at Alexis’ dinner and then looking at your flowing hair, what a joke Tamra is. Just trash. I’m not feeling Slade either, but his body is hot, girl, lol. You guys are a sexy couple. Anyways good luck to you and I can’t wait to see you on the show again
Please have someone proofread your stuff before you post… Spelling issues can be distracting.
Also, I am just wondering who you consider to be your “real” friends? Are you actually close friends with any of the women on the show? I imagine it would be difficult to hang out with women that you normally wouldn’t hang out with. In this sense, I feel bad for you. It seems like this show is the perfect equation for drama! Have you considered dropping out of the show? It’s probably really hard to weigh your options here.
You probably won’t read this; I was just curious.
I just wanted to say that I think you are such a good girl. Tamra is just having a hard time having a controlling husband and maybe you and everyone else should pray for her. I watch the show and know that t.v Can make it look any ways but I believe that shes a good woman but is wanting to make someone feel as bad in their lives as she does her’s. I dont understand what your love life and what you do is any of her concern I believe if you were doing anything that wasnt good then hey thats your life and will have to take it up with the lord ( which i dont think you have:) Shes judging you on pictures and things you have done but what does that have to do with her in anyway shap or form she needs to worry about saving money in this economy and figure out if she wants to keep picking her controlling husband over her son. I belive people give you a hard time because you beautiful and I wish you luck in your life. Maybe tamra you should watch the show sometime and see exactly what you look like and see if your really in any state to judge I may not be famous or know yall’s real lifes and what yall have been through but even me as being eighteen years old can see what everyone else sees on t.v stay stong
Gretchen, I’m so glad you chime in on occasion to straighten out some of these posters misconceptions. Yep there have been some crazy stuff said here recently too about MRI costs etc., I see these posters just trying to find anyway possible to disparge you in any way they think they can. It’s pretty weak stuff on their part but probably no big surprise to you or Slade. You should be ducks by now letting all the “stuff” just roll off your backs. Please don’t take this blog down until Bravo stops airing reruns of RHOC that have Tamera and yourself appearing.
Your the best Gretchen, your pretty, smart, generous and kind and I think many of us here see this with eyes wide open.
Gretchen, you have the best heart. I don’t understand why these women can’t see that. It’s on national television. I think Tamra is so jealous she wants to be you. I don’t think Lynn saw the Alexa thing coming and got sideswiped and took it out on you. I don’t know how anyone thinks you shouldn’t give Lynn advice. You said her kids crave discipline and that’s EXACTLY what Alexa said. Why is no one getting that???
Gretchen, if it wasn’t for you I’d never watch this show, the other ladies are so bad. I did like Jeana and hated to see her go but as for Tamra, she’s a big fake. You are so real I wish you were the only housewife. They have their issues but they try way too hard to cover up their problems. I was happy to see that Vicki started treating her husband better but I still don’t like how Vicki talks down to everyone especially you. It’s her way or the highway and you never do this to anyone. I liked how you stepped in with Lynne’s daughter but looks to me Lynne is being way too defensive. She needs parenting classes and I thought your advice to her was great.
You are an amazing young lady. Do not let the other housewives bring you down. You do what yo feel is right and let the money crazy bitches have their miserable lives.You and Slade keep being good to each other. It is very apparent that you adore each other.
My only comment to Tamara is you reap what you sow.
Gretchen! You are my favorite! You are so smart and beautiful it is obvious why Tamera is jealous of you. You have everything she wants and you supplanted her on the show as the hottest housewife! And I think how you handle Lynn was great. She honestly needs a wake up call. Alexa is a horribly behaved teen who needs some real parenting! Keep it up!
The truth is the truth is the truth I would have not went to this blog if was’ent for Tamra. I say stick to your guns . . . . . Keep your blog up.
I also look at the much talk about pic’s of you, you did nothing wrong. Not anymore then they do on the show, So your in the bathroom with your pants down, there is nothing to see you r coverd. What’s the big deal.
Tamra needs to shut up already. Lynn’s statement was on called for, low blow.
On your side. : )
I think Gretchen was just trying to help with Alexa, when I was a teenager I couldnt talk to my mom, but I had someone you was like an older sister who wad there for me. Lynn needs to stop taking it so personal!!!
LOVE YA GRETCHEN!!
TEAM GRETCHEN!!!! AL THE WAY!!!
You didn’t critisize her parenting you are just trying to show her another option that will help. Because obviously nothing is going right if they are hiring someone to talk to their children when they can’t. I wish I had someone to talk to when I was growing up because it was hard and you don’t want to tell your parents anything expecially problems with friend and boys and that can make you go crazy and do stupid things. I have that’s for sure but now that I am older I look back and say why did I do that? It’s because I never had someone to go home to talk to because my parents were to involved in what they wanted to do or talk about. I still to this day can’t tell my dad anything and I still don’t talk about a lot of thing to my mom but I have more connections now to get my frustations out and how I am feeling. So I’m glad you put yourself out there. Even if Lynn and Frank shot you down Alexa knows that if she ever needs someone to hear her she has someone. I’m glad your just trying to prevent a lot of regrets because you have them too. Don’t we all? And doesn’t anyone remember how they were with their parents as a teen?
“Lynn is mad because Alexa did open up to me instead of wanting to speak to her mom”
C’mon Gretchen, that was mean. It is not a competition of who wants to talk to someone more. That is the difference between being a mother and not being one. To alot of us viewers Alexa looks like a spoled little brat who does not get her way so she cries and says she can’t talk to her mom and bla bla bla. I’ve raised teenagers and it is the same story 99.9% of the time. Watch Alexa again on the show. Watch it over and over and see what I’m talking about. The minute Lynne sat her down in the mall and started being firm with her she starts crying like “I dont want to deal with this wah wah wah”.. But yet…Alexa says she wants discipline. BS. She wants it her way or no way. my experience is telling me Alexa needs a kick right out of the house. Tough Love! I do like you but just be who you were last year and not so “know it all” type stuff. K?
Being a young blonde woman, myself.. I saw this disaster coming from the first moment you appeared on the show. There is this strange thing that goes on between blondes. The inferiority and insecurity gets brewing and the drama erupts. Since I was 16, women would hunt for character flaws in an effort to make me less likeable.. which as we ALL know makes that person look like an idiot. Tamra oozes insecurity. she was looking to destroy you from the first moment she laid eyes on you, she could not handle the inferiority factor. It’s sad for her. At some point when she is old and gray she just might realize how screwed up she was. I think you are wise to laugh it off and continue to succeed. You’re a sweetheart and gorgeous. I can’t wait to check out your new make-up line. All the best! Karen M. San Jose,ca.
Gretchen…I have been watching the show and the only thing that I see is that Tamra is jealous of your life. I wish you and yours the best and am sorry for the loss of your love. Be strong, happy, and try to ignore those who want to bring you down.
The site will be up in a few, I think it’s just down temporarily for maintenance. It’s basically the emails Jay sent out, one of them being Simon’s “Your BS and LIES” gem he copied all of the cast on. You can read some of that email here: http://jennifergsale.wordpress.com/wp-admin/post.php?action=edit&post=459
Sorry, Iz stoopid and posted the wrong link
http://wp.me/pJQI7-7p
That should work.
sorry everyone…had a net malfunction
heres the link:
http://absurdtosublime.net/2010/02/02/sex-and-the-single-tamra-barney/
I think that she has said the wrong stuff and that you are right but i think you should think about taking this down or accepting her apology because she has said she was sorry and she is trying to make things right.
Gretchen:
I worry about your being too trusting of Slade. You talk about wanting to have children – please do not even think about having them with Slade. Below is proof from court records that Slade is lying to you about supporting his terminally ill son…. Don’t be too trusting because you will be the one hurt in the end.
“I now understand very well why Ms. Arroyo wanted to set the record straight, especially when faced with the publicity machine behind a reality tv star (including the sock puppets like the one who attacked her here). Slade has said that he didn’t know anything about it, and tried to spin it as if he just missed a payment or two in order to make himself look good, and make his child’s mother look as bad as possible. Of course, the Slade camp also claimed that Slade had only failed to pay his attorneys, then they attacked Ms. Arroyo publicly on this blog.
Obviously, however, he knew about it beforehand, since it was a case ongoing for years and he knew exactly what was required of him by the court. After all, he was found in contempt of court, not once, not twice, but eight times over, in a case involving failure to support a terminally ill child, when he is a reality television star. There was no way he was ever getting away with that, nor should he get away with it.
What I find most disturbing about this situation is that Slade had to be forced by a court to provide access to medical insurance providers, when the insurance is for a dying child. That is absolutely beyond unconscionable.”
Gretchen please don’t be so naive concerning the child support situation with your “man”. Arrests aren’t made for oversights. It takes years to implement something like that. He needs to own it and make good on it as it seems like he’s doing recently. I’m sure it’s difficult considering that he’s not in the same financial situation he was in previous years. But he screwed up by flaunting financial support of his previous girlfriend’s music career on reality television meanwhile forgoing his parental responsibilities.
it was concerning a notice to appear not support. The press made that up. If you fail pay a traffic ticket it goes to warrant and they will pick you up. It was for a court date he missed on another matter, not support, that’s why he was released immediately.
Gretchen,
When it comes to situations like the fallout you’ve experienced from trying to help Alexa, dealing with Tamra or this lawsuit from that Jay clown, I hope you won’t let yourself get too caught up in feeling like you have to defend every attack that comes your way. If there are some things you wish you’d done differently, file that information in your head in case you’re ever in a similar situation again. If you owe apologies, pay them quickly and easily and if you need to clarify, clarify. But after that, try to be at peace with the rest.
With the nature of this show and the personalities and values of the other cast members, it would be really easy to slip into a habit of living your life and making decisions based on some erroneous PR strategy rather than using your heart and conscience. Even seemingly positive motives (like “taking the high road,” etc.) can fall under that category. The high road speaks for itself, so you’ll never have to point it out and silence isn’t the only high road that exists.
I know there’s been plenty of controversy surrounding you since you came onto the show, but you have a graciousness and lack of pretense that really sets you apart in that atmosphere of narcissism and superficiality. You also manage not to take yourself too seriously and you laugh a lot and have fun and I think you’re delightful.
You’re going to be just fine.
Oh honey, it’s time to grow up and move on. Tamra is obviously going through her own hard times, be respectful of that. Yes, the situation is ridiculous but be the bigger person.
PLEEEZZZ…..I think Gretchen is quite capable of speaking for herself, and unfortunately, has begun to speak for others it seems. Slade can’t speak for nimself? Can’t say I blame him, i would be ashamed to speak too. He should be spending every penny he has, if he has one, for his terminally ill child. Pathetic Parenting, Sweetie.(i’m certain that’s the beginning of the response i will receive from GR), if this blog is posted. GR, why do you always reply with hun or sweetie? grandmothers reply to their grandchildren with those words, not twenty-something ladies. I posted a thumbs-up blog to you in January, but I am quickly changing my mind about you. I think all the Tamra-hate blogging is going to your head, tone it down, keep it real if you want to keep your obviously large group of supporters. What happened to GR in such a short periord of time? Was it maybe, Slade? You were much nicer with Jeff. He brought out the better person in you. Slade is a cheap treat….or trick. Best of luck to ya…
I totally agree with Veronica. As much as we like you it seems you are turning into all the rest of the ones that seem to become someone else that we don’t care for. It’s sad. GR you are a reality figure, NOT a super star or movie star. It’s just a reality show that will come and go but while it’s here be yourself and dont start changing with all of the upidy stuff. You are better than that. I can’t remember any reality perople from 4 years ago so remember it will die fast. Last year how you were is what people fell for in you. This year seems like you are on this high horse thing that needs to be taken down a few feet. BE YOURSELF. Quit with the bashing and keeping it going. This post is not a put down either, it is more of an observation. Thanks and take it with a grain of salt.
I don’t see it the same way. I see a young woman coming into her own after a first season predominantly spent being a primary caregiver to a terminally ill loved one. Gretchen is moving on and we’re learning more about her education in psychology; her time spent in real estate, etc.
It’s great that she’s fortunate enough to have a public forum to promote her various endeavors, which is a common practice among the housewives (NY wives push their skin care, fabric business, books; Atlanta wives their music, clothing lines, books). I notice that Gretchen actually promotes more than just self-serving enterprises: support for cancer research since the passing of Jeff.
As Justin pointed out, fame is fleeting and the housewives, in general are using the spotlight to gain momentum and add something positive to balance the (sometimes negative) scrutiny the shows bring.
If the self confidence to speak up for yourself & make your opinion known is viewed as being upidy or makes Gretchen seem not as nice as when she was with Jeff then we have to accept that people evolve.
I think it’s great seeing Gretchen come into her own from last season.
Gretchen, I love you to death but I do have one question what is that tattoo say on your ring finger?
Jeffery
Why is this blog such a big deal to Tamra? Each housewife has a fan base. I really don’t get why its such a big deal to her. I honestly looked it up because she kept talking about how nasty it is…I was expected to discover she was really a man or something.
Marriage is hard, parenting is hard, even being single is hard. We all screw up, make bad decisions, say and do things we shouldn’t. I feel bad for you all that your mistakes are broadcasted, and you are crucified for them. But, each one of you has qualities that give the show dimension and interest. Keep up the good work! Without dealing with the conflicts publicly, there would be no show!